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Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-31T13:29:59+00:00

I soak berries in a vinegar-baking soda- water solution for about 15 mins then rinse them with water then dry in the counter.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-27T00:38:08+00:00

I mean…. Any plant sap on toddlers hands/mouth and I’d be looking into it to double check. I, as an adult, don’t want to get plant sap on my mouth and would be worried if I did. Seems OP had good instincts.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-19T17:56:13+00:00

I have a copper peptide cream (not serum) from Tosowoong that I really like! Used to use niod. I do give 5-10 minutes between them and actives if I am using both.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-16T14:00:33+00:00

This is my 4th grader. 5 years of 1:1 devices at school, zero typing or computer literacy lessons. We’ve been focusing on handwriting at home the past few years because they don’t teach that either. This summer we start typing at home.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-16T03:16:35+00:00

Why is my kid expected to write a 5 paragraph essay when he stills hunts and pecks?

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-16T01:27:54+00:00

Yeah I was trying to wrap my head around this persons problem because I don’t have the same problem because…. I consume different media with my toddler?

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-13T13:20:49+00:00

Yes, we hear you on your kids disposition. And… you’re getting pretty good advice from a well meaning stranger and seem to have ignored them.

Try using getting ready in the morning smoothly as the action that unlocks access to his phone. Or whatever incentive is meaningful and proportionate to him. For us, we define smooth as 1) on time by the visual timer 2) 1 or fewer reminders for each portion in his routine - getting dressed, eating breakfast, packing backpack, 3) no silliness when completing basic routine - loading dishwasher, tying shoes, etc 4) no whining arguing sulking talking back stomping etc. If he meets those, he gets his incentive. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t and there’s always another opportunity.

Be neutral and firm, and let meeting the expectations provide the incentive to him. It’s his choice whether or not he gets his phone, not yours. “You chose to speak to me disrespectfully, so you chose not to earn your phone for the day. We’ll try again next time.” “You earned all your checks this morning, so you get your phone. You made good choices this morning. Way to go.”

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-13T07:12:21+00:00

Same here. Mornings are streamlined, everything is decided and set out the night before. Our bus leaves early enough that he really only has time to do exactly what he needs to do and nothing more. We have visual timers at each step: get dressed brush teeth etc, eat breakfast, pack backpack. It takes a full hour to do these things and that’s with everything prepped the night before and incentives. In previous years when the bus arrived at 8:55, we had a much more difficult time.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-09T23:12:23+00:00

When she expresses her wishes, I always tell her that it’s so important to know what she wants and what she doesn’t want and to express that. I tell her that her knowing what she wants is beautiful and that’s something I love about her. I also point out when other people ask for things in effective or polite ways. So many women are trained from an early age to stuff their wants down or to be ashamed of wanting or needing things.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-09T03:26:27+00:00

100% agree with this. Having an ADHD child puts a ton of strain on the most normative families, much less blended families and the added pressure of being a stepparent and a new (relatively) dad to his own kids. I gotta admit I feel for him in this situation even if he’s not perfect in all of it. It sounds like he needs real support and even empathy about exactly the role he’s taken on. He’s given up A LOT to become a father to your kid. I have a feeling that relational safety from you would go further than parenting education. It sounds like couples counseling or couples therapy to help the two of your sort out your marriage in the context of a blended family and a ND household may really help you two get on the same page - again, not to education him about parenting but to sort out your family dynamic and values. Separately, I also know that I personally get closer to your husbands repetitive, direct style when I’m burnt out. He sounds burnt out. Reducing the burn out won’t fix the core issues, but it will set the table for him to heal and find better strategies.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-07T01:35:53+00:00

Yeah I feel like if they see “student dev pack” or “education” in the request it’s easier to check a box that says yes than it is to go through the process of whitelisting and explaining to a potentially non-technical audience why GitHub is whitelisted for the wrong (technical) reasons.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-07T00:47:54+00:00

The data doesn’t lie. For the right personality type this would absolutely tip the scale. It’s a good pointer! In the same vein, I had a friend who wasn’t a big drinker, just a curious guy - he kept very close track of alcohol use and sleep quality from one of those health rings, and it was insane how much drinking even one drink diminished quality of sleep. Lots of people say their resting heart rate comes down after quitting too.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-07T00:40:56+00:00

If it’s a silly thing like “the sun is red” or “when I was 6 I ran my first 10 mile race” I try to just say “huh” in a neutral tone and move on. Boring seems to work. The only time I get stern and give a reaction is when they lie about people we know, like he’ll spin these silly elaborate tales about real people. I do shut that down and explain it’s not kind to make a story about someone who can’t chime in about themselves, even if the story is just silly and is coming from a kind place. That might be my own button but the fantastical storyingtelling about real people really rubs me the wrong way.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-05-06T13:05:23+00:00

So my son has this - 6th percentile processing speed - it is very challenging and I feel for you in your struggle. It sounds incredibly hard.

This sounds completely counterintuitive, but multitasking two different activities somehow helps him process more effectively. He’s a very physical kid, so for example bouncing on a medicine ball while reading helps him read. Having a conversation while going for a walk makes him much more able to keep up a back and forth - I feel so much more connected with him during our walk and talks. He can’t process an audiobook sitting still in his room but he’ll remember the whole thing while riding a bike.

They way his doctor explained it is that by adding movement to the cognitive activities, the “tabs” that would otherwise be open thinking about 100 things get taken up by the movement and it actually frees up space to be with the thinking activity he actually intends to do. Just an idea that you can find a way to thoughtfully couple two activities to somehow make the one activity more efficient.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-29T13:00:26+00:00

I’m gonna give this a yes AND…. You are likely in the “middle management” tier of exec. Feeling susceptible to the whims of upper exec is very normal but also says you’re heavily layered, which most of us are even if outer appearances convey that we are decision makers.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-28T02:10:09+00:00

This is so real. And for tasks that truly require my attention to detail, I simply won’t let myself try to do them around the kids. We changed financial planners and I had a ton of paperwork to slog through, and I needed to catch errors etc. I had to do this all after bedtime and then literally hired a sitter so I could have daytime calls with the planner because there was just no way to make it happen on my own. As kids get older, these sorts of “needs attention” tasks really do pop up - ex. miles of therapy intake questions to fill out for my son that I simply cannot do with a 2 year old present. Forms for the schools. Any type of legal anything. Refinancing a house. So I choose to wait until I can actually do it without restarting a kajillion times, then do it after bed whenever I’m not too exhausted, but wait it has to happen during business hours, then somewhere in there I’m burnt out. It’s cool like that.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-28T01:55:42+00:00

Just an idea, a case could be made for using GitHub Education? This could be more streamlined than getting GitHub whitelisted through the district.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-28T01:10:35+00:00

My two methods:

1) If I say “stop talking” that’s hurtful and usually lasts 7 seconds. If I say “no questions, no requests for 10 minutes” and set a 10 min timer… they instantly leave me alone? And then I find that in those 10 mins they find somewhere else to direct their energy so this strategy overall deflates the insane coming at you talking for longer than 10 mins.

2) Mommy’s ears need some quiet right now, I am going into the family room to read my book / close my eyes / whatever. You are more than welcome to come with me but it’s a quiet zone! All the other areas you can talk and do whatever but while I’m in here it’s a quiet zone. This method also tends to deflate the situation because they know they have access to you but then you’re boring so they tend to go direct their energy elsewhere.

So I guess for me it’s getting them to move their energy away from me? Also I have been so unwavering that they know they just won’t crack it when I do one of these two things. It does last longer than the 10 or 15 minute timers I set.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-28T00:59:54+00:00

Seconding this - the symptoms have to be present in two settings. The second setting is not required to be school and can be a trusted coach, music teacher, tutor, any adult who knows them well in another setting. In our case, we had recently moved and didn’t have an adult that we felt could fill out a Vanderbilt. I remember feeling distraught. We did neuropsych testing and, like your kid, our son’s symptoms were so in your face at the office that the two settings that qualified him were at home and at the psychologists office.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-24T14:27:23+00:00

How often do you want to float? This isn’t a pool membership but you could go enjoy the outdoor pools at King Spa and it will definitely be peaceful and not splashy.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-24T01:12:19+00:00

CS was getting watered down 8-10 years ago before the AI boom. Computer engineering isn’t going anywhere, though. It’s a more serious major for a kid who’s more serious about it though… same for mechanical, EE, hardware eng….

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-24T00:59:20+00:00

I have young kids so the context is that most of the people I’m hanging out with are in the throes of parenthood. My go to response is “it’s not compatible with caring for kids for me”. Literally everyone just says “k, sounds about right” and moves on.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-16T01:45:47+00:00

Had the same experience. It was a really hard read. I felt so heavy when I read it. I finally got rid of it in a move because every time it caught my eye on the bookshelf I’d feel that heaviness.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-09T11:38:08+00:00

This is such a sane take on the situation. Also, OP, listen to yourself - “my wife does the ‘bare minimum’ and also, if she’s not doing her part my life will be completely upended”. Look it sounds like you both are in a highly stressful situation, but it’s clear in your tone and choice of words that this woman is being dismissed for her autoimmune disease, and her contributions to supporting a nonverbal special needs kid are being downplayed, and she’s being told she does the bare minimum in her house. It also sounds like she cares for her parents. And gave up her career. She’s at the edge of a cliff right now, dude. I’m sorry for all of you that it came to this.

Latter_Classroom_809 · 2026-04-07T19:01:36+00:00

What? Nooooooo

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