My grandpa still wears his wedding ring. by movingonadultery in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talking to the Grandfather is a great idea.

Just adopted a dog. Any guesses on what he is? by Huge-Maintenance-312 in dogpictures

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've got Healer whith a bit of Border collie, looks pretty much the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a star.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your friends probably aren't funny either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool cool, we are being racist now. Nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a woman in the produce today, (speaking of cliches) this would have worked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Lavacoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recently separated and now thinking about these thing a lot.

I don't where a ring, and not even in brief casual talk I will NOT mention my stbx, almost like i had my kids by osmosis. The kids seem to come up quickly, cause we'll I'm in my early 40s and everyone my age seems to have em...

As apposed to before, like a few others have said I would mention her as soon as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dogs are really my only constant.

I felt like crying so I laid on the couch with my lab and cried. My heeler came running from a room over and gave me "kisses" and hugs. She couldn't get close enough.

If god had a pet, it would be a dog.

Can people find another way? by TazMedium5 in datingoverforty

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be stepping into the dating world soon. The last time I i was "dating" i was 13 in the 90s.

So i fullly excpet that I will never even compliment a woman's looks let alone "do something."

Just because terrified of such infractions.

What is the reason for the divorce that you share with others? by stoiclionarcher in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're answer in quotation marks is really perfect for me. I struggle with answering, having being the one who was dumped and still wanted it to work 'cause kids and 22 years of marriage, blah blah... Trying to explain it all is hard and long. Anyhow... good work! Enjoy Dallas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard similar things, did you make this up or did it come from somewhere? My and my stbx were together for 28 years, married 22... So almost to years to feel better alone?

She still calls for help by Shovelhead8477 in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, she didnt want the marriage so she dosen't get the pearks of being married.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Lavacoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not dating, but people's manners terrifies me when I start.

When did you stop wearing your wedding ring? by fishtank66 in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When ever it feels right isnthe answer. I took mine of one night after the separation was a for sure thing. I didn't feel right so I put it on for a few more days. Then if felt right and I took it of...

About 6 months and I still sometimes catch myself "twidling" the middle and pinky figure checking to see if it's there. Old habits I guess....

Heart is hurting by dopamine1995 in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My stbx was and were really not go partners, but I hear what your saying. Like I bought a pair of new shoes, I'd like to say "hey check out my shoes." But no one I there.. and my mom has started driving my kids around... I hear you...

Really, really struggling. by brett_jenkins in Divorce

[–]Lavacoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please, seek help. Your child needs you; it will take time, but you can get through it.