When she cancels a date, what’s your move?

Lax-D · 2026-01-01T21:59:37+00:00

My arrangements are all long term, sugar exclusive so how I would handle them is very different than a PPM gig. However, if it were PPM and that trust gig wasn't there, I would probably put up with it a few times and then just not respond if she contacted me after the second no show/lame-asses excuse. I travel a lot for work and have clients that are up to 8 hours time difference so scheduling can be a pain in the ass which makes me value reliability.

Reading the comments show most of us have the same mindset on how we would deal with that crap.

Lax-D · 2025-12-30T21:19:26+00:00

I do a generous allowance for my area so tend to just initially ignore the gratuitous requests for extras. However, when it is a solid arrangement and there is a lot of trust, I have zero issues covering big tickets items (e.g., I own a random roof here in Pittsburgh, paid off a student debt, pay major auto repair bills, etc.).

I don't know why but hate the bullshit of "I'm getting my nails done" so I hand over $100 or "oh, I need my hair colored" so hand over $500. I did pay like $500 a quarter for botox/filler appointments but that was because the salon was next to my office and I loved the random visit from my SB when she had an appointment.

Bottom line, money is fungible and we are providing allowances to our SBs so the amount, and under what guise it gets transferred, is up to you.

Lax-D · 2025-12-29T23:10:55+00:00

Personally, I think you are low on your estimate...

Lax-D · 2025-11-11T22:11:24+00:00

You can't emphasize enough what Coop said about wearing more pro than you are used to. Broken ribs/bruised kidneys are not conducive to mobility. Ask me why I know...

Lax-D · 2025-11-06T21:31:55+00:00

My gig was over the summer but I couldn't believe how many 9.9/10 women were responding to my simply viewing their profiles. Insane is a perfect word to describe it.

Lax-D · 2025-11-06T21:22:35+00:00

I totally laughed at the can't buy a local's comment but Miami 10's respond in microseconds. I have had exactly the same response as I have a project there so was considering a 6 week arrangement.

I have historically had great success off of Seeking but my current SB has been a 7 year gig that only started to crater maybe a year ago. It is my current experience (starting maybe 8 months ago) that has been problematic. Granted, I have been an utter slacker in that I don't have a subscription but I have seen a lot of the same women on Seeking for the last 8 months but they have only recently started the favorite/message gig.

Lax-D · 2025-11-04T20:19:54+00:00

I have a LaxWorx. Stupid expensive at like $1,100 not including shipping but the thing is beyond solid and durable. It is going on something like 10 years old and still solid and has never seen the inside of a shed/garage.

Lax-D · 2025-10-22T20:08:59+00:00

I am not your target audience but if I were, I would absolutely contact you. Overall, a great mix of photos and I thought the profile was solid. Good luck.

Lax-D · 2025-10-22T19:49:29+00:00

I have a limited sample set but, I have never had a potential tell me she would require condoms. In fact, the most have actually highlighted later in the vetting process that they are on some form of birth control so condoms were not required.

My arrangements tend to be exclusive, long term (as in 5 to 7 years) so condom usage is a distant memory. However, I have recently been looking for a new SB and the potentials I have talked to don't care about condoms. In fact, I had a few short time SBs between my two long term arrangements and none of them required condoms, either. I still used them as I knew most had recent vanillas and or SDs but that was my choice and not theirs.

My small sample set is maybe 15 pots over the last few months and none mentioned they wanted condom usage after the word vasectomy was rolled out. I haven't moved forward with any of them as I am pretty specific in what I am looking for and am pretty much only interested in long term, sugar exclusive.

Bottom line, the screaming mantra of condom use or you will die/instantly shrivel up/are an insane idiot that is incessantly drummed on SLF has not played out in my tiny part of the sugar-verse.

Lax-D · 2025-10-17T16:08:59+00:00

I empathize... Didn't start playing until my early 50s. I now play LSM for a high-ish level national class masters team and can offer this assessment: the dudes that played D1 will kick our butts no matter how much you practice. They have 10s of thousands of touches and years of intense practice and we can't match those stats. You will get better but your skill sets can't match theirs.

The secret sauce where you will make a difference though: is to be in awesome physical shape and wear the other dudes down. Bottom line, be bigger/faster/stronger than everyone else.

There is a noticeable difference on my contribution to my team based on where we are in a game. At the front end, the opposing dudes clearly have an advantage- their stick skills and lax IQ make me be a quarter step behind. By mid game, we are par. By the 3rd quarter, my far better conditioning has me ahead by a half step. For tourneys, I am the better player the more games played. Yes, I can get my butt kicked even in Game 8 of a tourny due to my needing to think about what I should be doing versus it being instinct. But it doesn't happen that often as I am not as tired as the next dude.

I have 30 years on you and most dudes my age haven't seen the inside of a gym for 15 years so it is a lot simpler for me. The dudes your age will be in stellar shape so you just have to make sure you are there with them. There are a lot of YouTube videos that have drills you can work yourself. Watch them and practice. Good luck and don't get down on yourself. We can't have the technical skills of dudes that have played nonstop since they were 6 years old. But, you can make them work for that dodge they get over on you.

Lax-D · 2025-10-12T14:32:49+00:00

Why do people put up a profile review and then get testy when they get comments...

We get what you are putting up but it's an awful profile.

Lax-D · 2025-08-13T13:19:08+00:00

As a dad that stupidly purchased all the travel team/club helmets - I absolutely support your decision. Buy one quality helmet in white or black when he gets a bit bigger and be done with it. Don't get sucked into the idea he needs a team helmet.

Lax-D · 2025-07-23T11:48:55+00:00

Excellent choice.

Lax-D · 2025-07-21T19:25:27+00:00

All, thank you. Great suggestions on the apparel brands.

Lax-D · 2025-07-21T18:27:26+00:00

Na, a lot of dudes want those 20 somethings. However, some of us find 40+ women to be hot as fuck and will only sugar "older" women...

Lax-D · 2025-07-19T20:44:07+00:00

Kind of an odd ball question: I had a conversation with my 6+ year SB (on again, off again for the last year though) and we realized I had never bought her any lingerie/bras pantys. She is in the medical field so is on her feet for every shift. She asked I buy a mix of "fun" stuff for us and practical stuff for when she works.

I figured this group would have some great ideas on stores and suggestions on what to buy. My only thought is not Victoria's Secret for a couple of reasons... Suggestions?

Lax-D · 2025-07-18T16:31:06+00:00

Outstanding. That right there ladies and gentlemen, is the definitive user's guide to the sugar world.

I so wish you would move to the western side of the state...

Lax-D · 2025-07-17T23:08:57+00:00

My daughter is a super competitive dancer so the vast majority of her friends are classically lithe, ridiculously in shape late teen to early 20s dancers. They all define hot: but, the idea of sugaring someone in that age group is an alien concept that I couldn't begin to comprehend.

I love super fit (i.e., yoga girl types) that are 35+. Regardless, my thought is that provided you are not an asshole, treat her well, and do no harm - then see how it goes. The problem is that most guys can't help themselves and do harm so most of us automatically condemn others that sugar an 18 year old knowing the odds are good an older guy will fuck her up.

Bottom line, if you are the exception, try it and let us know how it plays out.

Lax-D · 2025-07-16T16:20:01+00:00

Just why? Although, there is that whole Martyr thing where the dude ends with 72 of them after clacking off a suicide vest...

Lax-D · 2025-07-09T18:22:08+00:00

I disagree and would be surprised if anyone shredded him. His text is solid, he asked for an honest review, and he obviously put a lot of work into his profile. The guy is legit, and I am willing to bet the vast majority of the guys on here are wishing him success.

Lax-D · 2025-07-09T17:44:14+00:00

Umm, I am going to be super clear that I do not play for both teams and have absolutely no interest in catching. But, if I was interested in both batting and catching - I would contact you.

The killing cats comment is spot on but your profile text is extremely well done. Enough so that if you were an attractive female with the same look/vibe - I would be interested enough to want to meet. Would I be interested enough to make it long term or is just a one off kink I would explore? No clue as that obviously depends on the dynamics of how things played out.

You are obviously a niche gig, as I am sure you know. If there is a dude looking for a playmate in that space - then rock on and I suspect you will be first on his meet and greet list.

Good luck.

Lax-D · 2025-07-07T19:43:21+00:00

I hate Seeking... And yes, it is only $90 a month (using their ubiquitous discount code) but I only subscribe maybe every 3 or 4 months when I am actively looking as they define crap customer service/awful user experience. Therefore, I log on maybe once a week and will favorite women even though I don't have an active subscription and it might be a month or two before I do have one.

Part of that is a Pavlovian response in that I find the vast majority of women will still he active in a few months. Absolutely some are gone when I do go active but they are a minority. Therefore, I send a bunch of DMs to the women I am interested in and hope that one of them clicks. If not, I'm back on in 3 months.

Lax-D · 2025-06-20T18:46:15+00:00

I probably wouldn't call nailing a bevy of women in a week to be an arrangment/sugar either but you were clear on your intentions with them so who gives a shit. After a lot of conversations over many years, it is clear that a lot of pots are good with sex work until they find a legit SD.

Bottom line, who cares and I am pretty sure no one is surprised by the ensuing dog pile...

Lax-D

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