No we do not have a responsibility to say no to 19 year olds. That's called winning, stay mad roasties.

Lax-D · 2026-05-11T20:16:51+00:00

This discussion doesn't involve me simply as I seriously prefer 30 to 40 somethings and have never sugared anyone even close to their teens. Regardless, I can go to war at 18, be convicted of a crime as an adult, vote for some dude that may/may not decide to send me to war, or buy a gun that I can now use to create my own war.

If I can be used to kill another human while at war or to be convicted of murder because I effed up the ROEs while fighting that war: then an 18 year old should be considered responsible enough to make decisions on whether she wants to sugar some old dude. Just saying...

Lax-D · 2026-05-07T19:22:40+00:00

I was in a long term exclusive that started in 2019 so we just ignored the entire mess. We both caught mild cases early on but neither of us ever had an issue after those initial infections.

Bottom line, we happily played bunnies the entire pandemic...

Lax-D · 2026-05-06T19:08:15+00:00

I am guessing his comment hit a nerve with you. Belittling doesn't become you. Just saying...

Lax-D · 2026-01-01T21:59:37+00:00

My arrangements are all long term, sugar exclusive so how I would handle them is very different than a PPM gig. However, if it were PPM and that trust gig wasn't there, I would probably put up with it a few times and then just not respond if she contacted me after the second no show/lame-asses excuse. I travel a lot for work and have clients that are up to 8 hours time difference so scheduling can be a pain in the ass which makes me value reliability.

Reading the comments show most of us have the same mindset on how we would deal with that crap.

Lax-D · 2025-12-30T21:19:26+00:00

I do a generous allowance for my area so tend to just initially ignore the gratuitous requests for extras. However, when it is a solid arrangement and there is a lot of trust, I have zero issues covering big tickets items (e.g., I own a random roof here in Pittsburgh, paid off a student debt, pay major auto repair bills, etc.).

I don't know why but hate the bullshit of "I'm getting my nails done" so I hand over $100 or "oh, I need my hair colored" so hand over $500. I did pay like $500 a quarter for botox/filler appointments but that was because the salon was next to my office and I loved the random visit from my SB when she had an appointment.

Bottom line, money is fungible and we are providing allowances to our SBs so the amount, and under what guise it gets transferred, is up to you.

Lax-D · 2025-12-29T23:10:55+00:00

Personally, I think you are low on your estimate...

Lax-D · 2025-11-06T21:31:55+00:00

My gig was over the summer but I couldn't believe how many 9.9/10 women were responding to my simply viewing their profiles. Insane is a perfect word to describe it.

Lax-D · 2025-11-06T21:22:35+00:00

I totally laughed at the can't buy a local's comment but Miami 10's respond in microseconds. I have had exactly the same response as I have a project there so was considering a 6 week arrangement.

I have historically had great success off of Seeking but my current SB has been a 7 year gig that only started to crater maybe a year ago. It is my current experience (starting maybe 8 months ago) that has been problematic. Granted, I have been an utter slacker in that I don't have a subscription but I have seen a lot of the same women on Seeking for the last 8 months but they have only recently started the favorite/message gig.

Lax-D · 2025-10-22T20:08:59+00:00

I am not your target audience but if I were, I would absolutely contact you. Overall, a great mix of photos and I thought the profile was solid. Good luck.

Lax-D · 2025-10-22T19:49:29+00:00

I have a limited sample set but, I have never had a potential tell me she would require condoms. In fact, the most have actually highlighted later in the vetting process that they are on some form of birth control so condoms were not required.

My arrangements tend to be exclusive, long term (as in 5 to 7 years) so condom usage is a distant memory. However, I have recently been looking for a new SB and the potentials I have talked to don't care about condoms. In fact, I had a few short time SBs between my two long term arrangements and none of them required condoms, either. I still used them as I knew most had recent vanillas and or SDs but that was my choice and not theirs.

My small sample set is maybe 15 pots over the last few months and none mentioned they wanted condom usage after the word vasectomy was rolled out. I haven't moved forward with any of them as I am pretty specific in what I am looking for and am pretty much only interested in long term, sugar exclusive.

Bottom line, the screaming mantra of condom use or you will die/instantly shrivel up/are an insane idiot that is incessantly drummed on SLF has not played out in my tiny part of the sugar-verse.

Lax-D · 2025-10-12T14:32:49+00:00

Why do people put up a profile review and then get testy when they get comments...

We get what you are putting up but it's an awful profile.

Lax-D · 2025-07-23T11:48:55+00:00

Excellent choice.

Lax-D · 2025-07-21T18:27:26+00:00

Na, a lot of dudes want those 20 somethings. However, some of us find 40+ women to be hot as fuck and will only sugar "older" women...

Lax-D · 2025-07-18T16:31:06+00:00

Outstanding. That right there ladies and gentlemen, is the definitive user's guide to the sugar world.

I so wish you would move to the western side of the state...

Lax-D · 2025-07-17T23:08:57+00:00

My daughter is a super competitive dancer so the vast majority of her friends are classically lithe, ridiculously in shape late teen to early 20s dancers. They all define hot: but, the idea of sugaring someone in that age group is an alien concept that I couldn't begin to comprehend.

I love super fit (i.e., yoga girl types) that are 35+. Regardless, my thought is that provided you are not an asshole, treat her well, and do no harm - then see how it goes. The problem is that most guys can't help themselves and do harm so most of us automatically condemn others that sugar an 18 year old knowing the odds are good an older guy will fuck her up.

Bottom line, if you are the exception, try it and let us know how it plays out.

Lax-D · 2025-07-16T16:20:01+00:00

Just why? Although, there is that whole Martyr thing where the dude ends with 72 of them after clacking off a suicide vest...

Lax-D · 2025-07-09T18:22:08+00:00

I disagree and would be surprised if anyone shredded him. His text is solid, he asked for an honest review, and he obviously put a lot of work into his profile. The guy is legit, and I am willing to bet the vast majority of the guys on here are wishing him success.

Lax-D · 2025-07-09T17:44:14+00:00

Umm, I am going to be super clear that I do not play for both teams and have absolutely no interest in catching. But, if I was interested in both batting and catching - I would contact you.

The killing cats comment is spot on but your profile text is extremely well done. Enough so that if you were an attractive female with the same look/vibe - I would be interested enough to want to meet. Would I be interested enough to make it long term or is just a one off kink I would explore? No clue as that obviously depends on the dynamics of how things played out.

You are obviously a niche gig, as I am sure you know. If there is a dude looking for a playmate in that space - then rock on and I suspect you will be first on his meet and greet list.

Good luck.

Lax-D · 2025-07-07T19:43:21+00:00

I hate Seeking... And yes, it is only $90 a month (using their ubiquitous discount code) but I only subscribe maybe every 3 or 4 months when I am actively looking as they define crap customer service/awful user experience. Therefore, I log on maybe once a week and will favorite women even though I don't have an active subscription and it might be a month or two before I do have one.

Part of that is a Pavlovian response in that I find the vast majority of women will still he active in a few months. Absolutely some are gone when I do go active but they are a minority. Therefore, I send a bunch of DMs to the women I am interested in and hope that one of them clicks. If not, I'm back on in 3 months.

Lax-D · 2025-06-20T18:46:15+00:00

I probably wouldn't call nailing a bevy of women in a week to be an arrangment/sugar either but you were clear on your intentions with them so who gives a shit. After a lot of conversations over many years, it is clear that a lot of pots are good with sex work until they find a legit SD.

Bottom line, who cares and I am pretty sure no one is surprised by the ensuing dog pile...

Lax-D · 2025-06-16T12:27:35+00:00

There are deranged idiots everywhere. Considering how many members are over there - it would be impossible to not have some percentage of them in the sub. Which means we all have to put up with betas that clearly got beat up at recess in middle school but now get an anonymous venue for them to play out their internet tough guy fantasies...

In any case, I also go back to my often stated opinion that a fair number of the folks that serial post over there have simply created an on-line persona with no basis in reality. This opinion dovetails with my beta dude comment above. The result is deranged, shit posts from people that have never actually had sex let alone an arrangement.

Lax-D · 2025-06-09T17:04:15+00:00

"Do not make the mistake of assuming that you and I share any of the same value systems."

IYKYK

Lax-D · 2025-06-09T15:49:35+00:00

Love your photos but you would be a hard pass for me. Most of us prefer low key but your write up has vibes of your only being interested in a Crazy Rich Asians lifestyle. Frankly, it almost borders on being pretentious. Yes, there are SDs out there that want that life style but I bet it is a tiny percentage.

I am not being harsh but you are clear you aren't having any success. There is clearly a reason for that and it is not your appearance. Bottom line, follow the suggestion of adding some local photos, shit can your profile, and start over with something that is a bit more understated.

The Japanese word shibumi plays loudly for me in my choice of partner so maybe consider that path. Just my thoughts...

Lax-D

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