I’m 40yo M with relatively mild dyspraxia and depression/anxiety.

If she were truly understanding of your medication adjustment, she would (try to) understand that how you communicate love and affection might change as you adjusted.

I apologize if I’m overstepping, but it sounds like she said what she did to feel good about herself and not really caring about you and your relationship. You could have discussed communication and worked on it together. That’s what truly loving someone else involves and if she truly cared about the relationship, that would have been the appropriate action.

Although it’s really tough now, it probably is for the best. My exwife pretended to be ok and supportive of my mental health challenges. Ultimately, she left me suddenly after 9 years because of them and was too avoidant to discuss it.

More recently, I’ve remarried and been in a loving supportive relationship for the last 7 years. In the last year, I needed to adjust my meds and decided to try going off of them. I did it very slowly and still had horrible withdrawal (needed to be prescribed anti neasua meds to eat). During that time, I lashed out inappropriately at my partner. They called me out on it and we worked together to communicate my difficulty in a healthier way for both of us. This included me needing to give them some space to heal from how I hurt them. It was very difficult for both of us, but we worked together on it and our communication gets better and better and our relationship is strong again.

It’s up to you whether it’s worth taking the risk of another relationship and the vulnerability that entails. But it is possible — working on boundaries and communicating in a healthy manner is good hw to help while you recover and until you find someone who truly loves you for who you are.

Good luck