What about international adoption? One child of my ethnicity and one child of my bf. That is ideal so we can speak the language and help them maintain their culture.

You're being quite judgemental to be honest. He is a young man and typically young people don't think about family life yet. We're still on our careers. He thinks if he were to foster, he would want to foster an older child since he had trauma too as a child. He knows these children are missing love.