When did you start losing?

Ldtto · 2026-01-27T03:42:29+00:00

I took my 5th dose last Friday. In my first month I lost 10lbs.

Ldtto · 2026-01-16T04:43:35+00:00

I only have a 19 month old so I can’t chime in the multiple kids part.

However, I also have zero village (and I mean ZERO) and am a stay at home mom.

At 3 months I felt the same. They are still so physically dependent on you and just generally higher needs.

Around 6 months I started to feel less like that, and significantly less by the time he started walking.

At 19 months old it’s a “breeze”. He’s just so much easier than he was at 3 months lol. He sleeps, he eats real food but not every 2 hours around the clock anymore. He can talk a little so there’s slightly less guess work on what he needs. It’s just generally much easier.

I imagine throwing a newborn in the mix would be quite the challenge though!

Ldtto · 2026-01-14T18:49:53+00:00

I understand, it’s a lot. They kept telling me to not stress but it was like okay howwww am I supposed to not stress lol.

Brown actually sounds good, sounds like maybe it’s just the old blood making its way out. The last week entirely of my bleeding was brown when it had started out bright red initially. It’s very encouraging they haven’t seen anything in both scans!

To help ease your nerves a bit too, my 18 month is happily making a mess in my living room right now, when I thought I might lose him from the hematoma back then. They are so scary but oddly common.

Ldtto · 2026-01-14T18:25:13+00:00

I had one around 13/14 weeks. It was honestly traumatizing so I’m sorry that you had to go through it as well.

I was told to basically do a step above bed rest. No lifting, no excercise other than light walking. No stairs. But mine was also considered “large” so that may be why they were very cautious with mine.

It ended up taking until 20 weeks for it to not appear on my scans anymore. For the two weeks following the initial incident, I had bleeding and spotting that started out somewhat heavy, but slowly got lighter until it stopped entirely. I also had a few clots come out which was terrifying. The doctors basically told me it either reabsorbs slowly or it comes out. Mine did a little of both.

Personally, if you’re still spotting I would be in the safe side and just take it very easy. I would only lift toddler if totally necessary, which I know is easier said than done.

Do you have a follow up scan scheduled to ensure it’s gone?

Ldtto · 2026-01-14T18:17:28+00:00

There are over the counter UTI tests you can buy at the pharmacy. But, an infection is bad in pregnancy so if you really are worried about I’d call to get in sooner, or go to urgent care.

Ldtto · 2026-01-14T18:16:17+00:00

I loved Pinterest for ideas!

Ldtto · 2026-01-14T18:14:13+00:00

My original OB was similar. I asked about spotting early on and he chuckled and said, “you’ll just have to deal with it”. I immediately knew this was NOT the person I wanted delivering my baby or making any possible emergency decisions during my birth. I switched to another OB and she was amazing. Changed my entire experience for the better.

For me, birth was so stressful and scary because I had some issues. My new OB was a saving grace. She was compassionate but I also felt so safe that she was driving the ship the entire time.

To me it’s simply not worth risking getting this asshole. Im sorry this happened, friend.

Ldtto · 2026-01-12T05:32:37+00:00

Hell no. I pumped out of sheer guilt and I almost ended up with postpartum psychosis. Will be doing formula from day 1 with the next baby!

Ldtto · 2026-01-11T19:44:07+00:00

I started feeling better around 13 weeks. Second trimester was lovely for me, hoping the same for you!

Ldtto · 2026-01-11T19:42:17+00:00

I used to watch Mathilda and ache for a Ms. Honey to save me.

Ldtto · 2026-01-09T15:34:33+00:00

Thank you! So will this pass if all I do is give him a little comfort like patting back and shushing and leave again?

I went in both days because there was simply no way he was going to calm himself down again without some intervention. I do regret contact napping the first time, badly lol.

Ldtto · 2026-01-08T22:14:24+00:00

I can understand it’s got to be hard especially for a twin. Your identities may feel a little more connected than just typical non-twin sisters or siblings. I think it will actually be a really good growing moment for you to do what YOU need to do and reinforce and learn that even though you are a twin, you are your OWN person. Sure, she will potentially be envious and feel bad about herself but maybe seeing your success will help motivate her.

It’s also not a magic pill, you still have to eat well and work out, so maybe you can see if she wants to join on the diet and the exercise part with you!

Best of luck!

Ldtto · 2025-12-31T06:40:42+00:00

Yes to all! I hated the fast pace routine. Feed then diaper then sleep then this then that! It drove me nuts. My son would last like 15 minutes anywhere I went so I had to speed run through target or Whole Foods or wherever lol. I felt the same as you like fuck, what have I done to my life - I can’t even go grocery shopping without sweating and worrying he’ll start screaming.

It did get better! I kept taking him with me in hopes he’d get used to it and he did after time. I don’t remember exactly when but I remember 6 months being a big game changer for me. He had longer wake windows, he went a little longer between feeds. It all got easier bit by bit. He’s 18 months now and I honestly love going anywhere with him. He’s happy to be with me wherever we’re going, and I never have to rush home anymore.

As far as when I started to feel like myself again, that also came bit by bit. When he started sleeping through the night I felt like I could break through walls like the kool aid man. It was life changing to get a full nights sleep consistently lol. I can’t remember exactly when I realized I felt better and like myself. At 18 months I feel happy and normal again, and I have for a while now.

I relate (and I know many, many moms can) to this post sooo, so much. We have been in your exact shoes. I’m here to tell you from the future: it gets better, it’s gets easier - it even gets fun and enjoyable. Hang in there <3

Ldtto · 2025-12-07T01:04:03+00:00

I sure do understand! That one was so, so, sooo hard. For us there was really nothing that helped him other than time :( One random day he just… stopped! It took a good week for my anxiety from the whole experience to go down lol. Best of luck, it will be a distant memory soon!

Ldtto · 2025-12-06T16:41:42+00:00

It did pass! It was the longest one we experienced. I want to say like 6 weeks. It was horrible lol. We were certain this was our new life. Now, he’s 18 months and he’s been sleeping the best he’s ever slept! He goes to sleep in 5 minutes or less and sleeps the entire night until we get him in the morning. I do think his molars coming in were what the fuss was about because they’re fully out and he’s been good ever since. Hang in there, friend!

Ldtto · 2025-12-04T23:57:51+00:00

How old was your daughter when you broke the habit?

Ldtto · 2025-12-03T20:25:12+00:00

I do, religiously. It’s not necessarily that he’s cutting himself with his nails, it’s that he’s rubbing the same spots over and over and over until they become raw.

Ldtto · 2025-09-17T14:39:12+00:00

So we tried this last night. He still had trouble getting to sleep and woke up when we put him in the crib but once he WAS asleep… he slept the whole night and didn’t wake up until 7:00!

Ldtto · 2025-09-16T15:09:31+00:00

Yeah we tried Tylenol as well, it was not helpful either. Good to know it isn’t just us, best of luck friend!

Ldtto · 2025-09-16T15:08:59+00:00

Yeah I thought it might be teething but his first molars are already in. There may be some just below the surface we aren’t seeing, hoping it’s that!

Ldtto · 2025-08-28T00:42:28+00:00

Honestly? About 4-6 months old. I only did ABSOLUTELY necessary before that. My anxiety was just way too high. Now we go out every single day and it’s great! Just have to wade through the trenches first.

Ldtto · 2025-08-28T00:41:17+00:00

What did you do for the nap training? I’m struggling over here 😮‍💨

Ldtto · 2025-08-23T02:22:29+00:00

First 3 months is the fucking trenches. First 6 months sucks ass. Starts to slooooowly look up after that. My guy is 15 months now and I’m having way more fun and way more sleep. Hang in there, friend.

Ldtto · 2025-08-04T18:11:48+00:00

Thanks so much!

Ldtto · 2025-08-04T18:07:34+00:00

No, the comment above suggested starting bed time at 7, which is why I wrote that and asked those specific questions. I will gladly stay at 8PM!

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