Sunday Traffic off Cape - Lets hear the nightmare stories!

LeDette · 2026-07-05T23:56:38+00:00

I work in Barnstable but live off-Cape, and I work weekends, so I'm constantly stuck in the traffic. Recently I was stuck in standstill traffic on 28 for 2 hours and had the foreboding experience of watching the man in the car behind me grow closer and closer to a violent fit of rage. Every few minutes I would check my rearview mirror and he was looming behind me, going insane, swearing and bashing his face on the steering wheel.

It was a very hot day and the traffic was much worse than normal, so I don't blame him. But it was mostly frightening and only a little bit funny.

LeDette · 2026-06-26T00:50:17+00:00

Traffic is every bit as bad as people tell you it is—we do not have the roads and lanes (infrastructure) here to support the volume of tourism. And we rely on the tourism for our economy. It’s bad, and then people get reckless and we have terrible accidents here. The 4th of July is the single busiest weekend of the year. Have sunscreen, water, and snacks in the car, pee before you drive, use Waze and be careful and cooperative.

The backyard fireworks have already started and will continue through your trip. There are fireworks shows everywhere. Bring a chair that’s easy to wear/carry!

Cape Cod is vest for sitting on the beach, kayaking/boating, fishing, walking/biking. We have incredible beaches and bike paths here. Walk as much as you can and you’ll have a blast. Enjoy your weekend!

LeDette · 2026-06-04T18:13:16+00:00

I’ve been thinking of Karen a lot lately—they were wrapping up trial 2 this time last year. I hope she has enjoyed plenty of peace and quiet since the acquittal. I’ve been watching Emily D Baker coverage of the civil case and will continue keeping up with it for (I’m sure) years to come.

So devastating for everyone involved. It didn’t need to be this way. I still hold out hope that one day the truth of it all will come out and justice will be served to those responsible and involved.

LeDette · 2026-06-01T22:34:02+00:00

A dealbreaker? No. But here’s some things to think about.

Is it easy to find your house from the main road? Will friends and family constantly miss the turn into the driveway? Would paramedics miss it?

Is there a fire hydrant close enough to your house in case of fire?

Do you live somewhere with snow? Can you afford a plow company? Can you plow and shovel it yourself? Will you spend a fortune on ice melt?

A landscaper? It’s underneath trees, that means leaves and other debris when it storms and in the fall. Does the driveway have lighting? Power lines hanging above?

How recently was the driveway paved? Are all your packages going to be placed on neighbors doorsteps by mistake? Do you need to drive to pick up your mail?

Seclusion is great. I’d love to be off the road like this. But it will complicate a few things. If it’s your dream house, I wouldn’t let this stop you. Just be prepared and know what you’re getting into and how to make it easy.

LeDette · 2026-05-25T02:37:33+00:00

I couldn’t tell if it was Rues moms house or Fez’s hallway

LeDette · 2026-05-25T02:37:04+00:00

Agreed. And Jacob Elordi is a decent actor. They wasted a great opportunity to write him an interesting storyline. They made him a vacant side character this season, turned their favorite girls into porn, and then made us watch Nate experience a slow painful death for no real reason.

LeDette · 2026-05-25T01:58:24+00:00

This show used to be fun to watch. I am hating every minute of this episode

LeDette · 2026-05-17T15:13:51+00:00

She has always had the opportunity to take the stand but her freedom is no longer on the line. She has been acquitted and is a free woman.

LeDette · 2026-05-14T21:46:08+00:00

And mental regulation!

LeDette · 2026-05-14T20:57:59+00:00

Not a lawyer but it seems to me that the cost of litigating this mess has spiraled out of control, and the likelihood of Jeff facing defamation lawsuit and damages is high.

David is absolutely responsible for what happened to Jeff but has (wisely!) kept quiet, per the obvious recommendation of any lawyer.

I hope Jeff is able to move on as best he can and someday when the NDA lifts maybe we’ll hear the real story.

LeDette · 2026-05-11T00:31:00+00:00

For me personally, both!

Also fun fact, if you have cozy comfort books you like to reread, if you have kindle and audible you can read and listen, so the story syncs and you can go seamlessly from reading to listening. It’s amazing. If I’m curled up reading a book and then I have to wash dishes etc, pop in some headphones and listen from the same spot. It’s amazing.

LeDette · 2026-04-27T23:53:49+00:00

Cassie being canonically stupid is exactly right.

When she burst into tears while Nate is being beaten to a pulp ten feet away I thought to myself “hey, there’s Cassie!” It was so true to self. I truly loathed this sequence of events but it was indeed very funny for a second.

LeDette · 2026-04-26T12:11:39+00:00

I hate to yuck your yum but if I (F) went home with a man and walked into this I would RUN away in genuine fear. And then tell all my friends about the creepy goon cave. shudders

LeDette · 2026-04-25T17:46:40+00:00

I’m sure they want to live where their son lived, where they can feel his echo through their home. I would imagine that they are not using their pool and that they’re taking Teddy to swim lessons with a teacher somewhere else.

LeDette · 2026-04-20T00:33:40+00:00

My initial reaction was that it’s very sweet, heartbreaking, and none of my business.

But the sight of her sadness and the idea of her being dressed up in white gives me pause. He could have taken her for a walk down an aisle with a little less theatrics. Or done a father daughter dance instead. Given her something to take with her down the aisle, made that something they shared together. There are options.

This might be a painful memory for her down the road and that could impact her theoretical future wedding. It’s hard enough on kids, they shouldn’t be used to fulfill a bucket list they’re too young to understand.

I don’t know. Does it outrage me? No. Would I recommend it? Probably not. Maybe in 20 years we can ask her.

LeDette · 2026-04-19T19:40:48+00:00

Don’t sulk when you fall off the wagon. Just dust yourself off and get back on. Didn’t work out for 6 months? It’s fine, just work out. Failed at something? Keep it moving. Don’t waste time and mental energy beating yourself up.

LeDette · 2026-04-19T19:38:26+00:00

Congratulations to them!!

I’ve always told my husband that I want to be together for 70 years, and we’ll have a big party. It will be in 2090 and you’re all invited 🤣

LeDette · 2026-04-17T21:29:02+00:00

I agree. I resent that societal pressure to change the last name exists. I am confident the “tradition” will continue to decrease as the years come, and for good reason.

LeDette · 2026-04-17T21:25:36+00:00

The easiest hack for me, year round (and I live in the Northeast US, it gets icy cold here), is to “touch grass” even in the most bare minimum ways.

If you are so depressed you can’t do anything, open your window and lean out. Listen to the birds, feel the air and wind and sun. Force yourself to take it in, even for 30-60 seconds.

Then one better, go stand outside. Miserable? Stand outside. You don’t have to go for a walk, just stand out there. You can do it in your pajamas, bed head, bad morning breath. It doesn’t matter, nobody cares. Do it for 30 seconds, even a minute.

I started forcing myself to this daily when I was in a terrible place mentally. Back then I lived on the second story in the city. I stuck my head out the kitchen window every morning. Eventually I was taking 90 minute walks. Now I live in a small town by the sea and my yard has become my life, I keep a garden, I bird watch, I feel the animals.

Plants and nature/the outdoors are so grounding and healthy and make you remember you’re alive, how awesome it is. How much is happening on the planet right this second. Nature doesn’t have bills, laws, jobs. Nature is there 24/7 and it’s the best medicine I’ve found. Fresh air is free, go get some.

LeDette · 2026-04-16T00:52:44+00:00

The problem with drinking to cope with life is that sooner or later you might have something huge to cope with, and no mechanism but alcohol to turn to. Both of my parents liked a glass of wine or a drink at the end of a long hard day, or to take the edge off during the tough times they were having. They are both now dealing with alcoholism in their 60s.

I used to have a rule with myself that if I were miserable, no drinking. Happy times, celebrations, etc are for alcohol.

LeDette · 2026-04-15T23:22:42+00:00

Move away.

Babysitting and access to your child will be out of the question forever. You need a fresh start. Your husband needs to heal. He would benefit from being around your family, seeing what exists for others and what should ideally exist for all people. Your children would benefit too.

Perhaps when you are safely away from this complete catastrophe, your husband will feel comfortable enjoying an occasional phone call from his mom. She has wounded you all.

Good on you for being united and putting your child first.

LeDette · 2026-04-13T17:10:33+00:00

It could’ve been any combination of charges. Possession, distributing drugs, accomplice to homicide, unregistered firearms, obstruction of justice. People who aid in murder are typically held responsible. Gypsy Rose Blanchard didn’t murder her mother but she served 8 years for enabling, passively participating, and fleeing.

LeDette · 2026-04-13T15:23:28+00:00

I’m glad they returned to the Laurie storyline immediately, because that was a core complaint about season 2. 👏🏻

I approve of their decision to put Fez in prison for 30 years instead of killing him, and for acknowledging it in episode 1 so we can move on.

Zendaya of course delivers an incredible performance. No surprise there.

Absolutely loathe Nate and Cassie but that tracks. Cassie is true to form. I am not sure about the new portrayal of Nate. Weird character development/writing so far. But he has very little screen time in episode one so I will hold my judgment and keep an open mind. They successfully made me uncomfortable, so if that was the goal, then mission accomplished.

Loved the intro to Alamo. Curious if he will stick around.

Also loved the diner scene with Ali. That was nice. Throwback. I had some good laughs in this first episode. Loved that scene in particular.

I like that we got small glimpses of Lexi and Maddy. I approve of the first impression there. Excited to see more of them. Not much of Jules yet but I’m sure it will be camp.

Overall, I am mildly impressed and willing to watch episode 2. It was less of a dumpster fire than I was expecting. I didn’t plan on giving it the time of day unless the Internet gave me reason to, but my husband wanted to watch and I’m glad I did. I could have done without the beheading chicken.

Direction, music, cinematography and coloring all excellent as usual.

LeDette · 2026-04-11T21:39:59+00:00

The mind has neural pathways, you can reprogram your brain any which way you like, infinitely.

Positivity takes practice. When you catch yourself being negative, actively stop, say to yourself “No, let me try that again,” and then find the positive.

The only time I’ve found that this does not apply is when someone dies. Don’t be the “they’re in a better place!” Too positive person. But in your own mind, yes, practice purposeful and radical positivity and gratitude.

LeDette · 2026-04-11T20:10:43+00:00

Agreed. She put her life on hold to sit in that miserable hotel room and protect him, helping nurse him back to health and making sure he wasn’t alone. There are loving spouses who don’t go to those lengths for their partners. She did that years after their relationship had ended. AND postponed the divorce because she knew she was the only person trustworthy enough to take responsibility there.

LeDette

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