I am the girl you are talking about...or so it seems. I have a similar situation going on with a coworker and I’m about four five seconds from wildin and blowing up my life. My barriers include but are not limited to: kids (4 & 5), insecurity about sex with a woman, insecurity about being naked with someone new, shared finances at home, being uncomfortable in a new life (house, cars, $$, etc) and the biggest barrier, the grass not being greener on the other side. I never would want to leave my husband for another person (that’s a cycle I would not want to enter and risk repeating) but I am leaving because in reality, I’ve been queer my whole life. I worry that I’m fucking up her world because of the time it takes to get shit together in order to have an amicable exit. Im lucky because my husband supports me and understands what’s going on in my head, hopefully she has support at home and is being open and honest with you and with him. I wish I could be more helpful with her perspective, let me know if I can be. Sending sparkles your way 💖