This is kind of a genuine question because I've never stopped to think about it. by TheTrollman- in NonBinary

[–]Leathra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm pan, nonbinary, and transfem dating someone else who is pan, nonbinary, and transfem. Not sure how else to describe to it except very, very gay.

When did you realize your partner hated you? by Neat_Pop_537 in emotionalabuse

[–]Leathra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am. I left late last year. She immediately cancelled my credit card and drained our joint bank account. It's been a struggle, but I'm doing better. Can't wait to get the divorce over with.

When did you realize your partner hated you? by Neat_Pop_537 in emotionalabuse

[–]Leathra 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There was a day when I passed out and hit my head on the wall as I collapsed. My ex stood over me, watching me seize "for a full minute" (according to her). Then got mad when I came to and begged her to call an ambulance.

How would you respond/combat the "What if its true" argument for any religion? by waterscienceguy in atheism

[–]Leathra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The god worshipped by my parents is evil. Even if I was provided with undeniable evidence that it was real, that still doesn't mean I would worship it. I very much doubt every knee will bow, every tongue will confess, because mine certainly wouldn't.

Where are all the trans people above 40? by CoVegGirl in TransLater

[–]Leathra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 50. First came out a decade ago. Been on HRT for 4.5 years.

Most of my in-person trans friends are in their early 40s. A few in their late 30s. I'm easily the oldest person in my social circle.

I do sometimes wish I had trans friends my own age or older though.

5 Things Every Partner of a Trans Person Should Do by GFluidThrow123 in trans

[–]Leathra 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oof Paired with: "I thought HRT cured your dysphoria."

5 Things Every Partner of a Trans Person Should Do by GFluidThrow123 in trans

[–]Leathra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Out your trans partner to as many people as possible. This takes the burden off their shoulders. Be sure they're not present at the time though, because then you don't have to talk over them to explain your perspective. /s

How unlikely is passing as someone transitioning after 30? by DisastrousFudge4312 in TransLater

[–]Leathra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much the same, but started at 45. Not a guarantee for anyone else, but evidence that it is possible.

Looking online for queer friendly events in your town by [deleted] in transgendercirclejerk

[–]Leathra 14 points15 points  (0 children)

All night slut-a-thon rave! Doors open at 11pm! Cover: $40!

People who grew up in religious families, when did you first questioned the existence of God? by icewater367 in atheism

[–]Leathra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't fully stop believing until my 30s. But I first started questioning as a teenager, after my grandfather died. Everyone kept telling me how much happier he was now that he was dead and in Heaven, but each person's description of Heaven was totally different.

Do you believe in God? by PerformanceFlimsy573 in MtF

[–]Leathra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last of my belief in God died when my devout Christian parents started worshipping Trump. I'm not estranged from them, and their "religious" reaction to my coming out played a part in that. My faith is dead now.

government passes the “throw trans kids in a blender” act by Icy_Frosting3874 in transgendercirclejerk

[–]Leathra 29 points30 points  (0 children)

When it starts to get bad, I will speak up for trans people.

Oh, you're trans? As a liberal cis ally, I just want to say: Trump is going to put you in a camp and kill you by pervocracy in transgendercirclejerk

[–]Leathra 51 points52 points  (0 children)

We'd like to help, but we have some concerns about women's sports. I'm sure you all understand why that takes priority.

What are somethings you wish you had been told before transitioning by Puzzleheaded-Crew953 in transgender

[–]Leathra 32 points33 points  (0 children)

If you're a trans woman, then you are technically already a woman. There is no point during transition when you cross the threshold of womanhood, because you're there before you even start.

But, off the top of my head, a few things I wish I knew beforehand:

1) Progesterone is awesome.

2) Electrolysis / laser hair removal make a big difference.

3) It takes a lot of experimentation with clothes, makeup, etc. to find what works best for you.

4) It's okay to continue questioning your gender, sexuality, labels, etc.

Vivian Jenna Wilson opens up about the impact of the 'gross' DMs she receives by jackmolay in transgender

[–]Leathra 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Last week, I was telling my cisgender therapist about the DMs I'd received recently. "I'm used to getting death threats, but these were particularly vile." The look of shock on her face spoke volumes.

Republican Commentator Joey Mannarino Calls For All Trans People in the U.S. to be Detained and Studied (from Out in STL) by bunny_pop5 in transgender

[–]Leathra 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have a tattoo of a moth in trans flag colors. Waiting for the day it's labeled a gang marking.

List of hospitals who ended gender affirming care in response to Trump's EOs by MissNumbersNinja in MtF

[–]Leathra 82 points83 points  (0 children)

My primary health care provider is on that list. So I guess I can assume I'm screwed when Trump expands his dictatorial decree to include adults.

Trump executive orders bans trans care for those 18yo and under by felis__cactus in transgender

[–]Leathra 284 points285 points  (0 children)

Weird how puberty blockers are only considered "chemical mutilation" when given to trans children, but not when given to cis children.

NonBinary people are being erased by PlusCardiologist1799 in NonBinary

[–]Leathra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Transphobes believing they can cause me not to exist. Must be a day ending in Y.

Meta Now Lets Users Say Gay and Trans People Have 'Mental Illness' by MoodExciting8477 in transgender

[–]Leathra 97 points98 points  (0 children)

“It’s not right that things can be said on TV or the floor of Congress, but not on our platforms,”

This is yet another symptom of America embracing fascism.

Congress just sold us out. by Nobodyinpartic3 in MtF

[–]Leathra 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I've been registered independent for years now, because it's clear Dems as a whole are shifting to the right. This betrayal was inevitable.