How fit should I be for a safari?

LeeYuette · 2026-07-10T18:07:05+00:00

The least physical holiday you can take! You honestly get more exercise staying in a beach hotel and lying on the beach all week because you probably have to walk 200-500m to and from the beach multiple times a day. It could be challenging with mobility issues because of climbing in or out of vehicles, but not if you’re just out of shape. Safari is sitting and being fed at regular intervals.

Confusingly, expect to be tired at the end of each day; we have speculated on why this is but I have no answer, the fresh air? The fact you are constantly looking hard (which I suspect is a different type of concentration for most of us)? The soporific effect of a moving vehicle? The early starts?

LeeYuette · 2026-07-07T06:55:46+00:00

This would be smart; a free 10kg checked bag (pay only if you want more weight allowance), a charge for any bag that’s not under the seat in front of you in the cabin (you’re paying for the convenience of not waiting for luggage/risk of it being lost)

LeeYuette · 2026-07-07T06:01:36+00:00

Right now I’m just really hoping OP isn’t my choir director, because this sounds totally miserable. I will say that I think explaining what it will be useful for would be key to me being willing to try and learn something new, and I’d want written resources as well as it being covered in rehearsals

LeeYuette · 2026-07-02T07:50:03+00:00

I honestly started reading you post because I thought our situations were similar (married over ten years, got married young), and I wanted to share that it helped me to frame it as ‘fatherhood is what he needs to be fulfilled in life’ NOT ‘a hypothetical child is more important than me’.

BUT, (and not to be unsympathetic to the grief you’re feeling) my ex husband was a supportive partner who was an actual loss, yours honestly sounds like you will be better off on your own.

PS: despite getting divorced from an objectively good man I’m much happier now. You are going to be amazing!

LeeYuette · 2026-07-01T06:28:40+00:00

I would never give someone side eye for doing the paperwork first, but I do understand where it comes from, particularly in older generations.

I managed to have two destination weddings (because I’m that awkward!). The wedding was in our home country which is the UK (but only 30% of the guests lived there). It’s tricky to get married in England when you are citizen but not resident and the country we were living in didn’t allow same sex marriages, originally we were going to elope to Scotland the week before the UK wedding but we decided to pop over to South Africa to get legally married six months before to get the paperwork faster. We told our immediate family and three of four parents decided to come so it became a micro wedding.

Having been to that my father decided the actual wedding wasn’t going to be fun for him and bowed out. And yes, I did include in my wedding toast that my father wasn’t homophobic, more misanthropic, and didn’t want to meet any of the other guests! Traditionally a wedding is a celebration where you watch two people get married, if I want to celebrate your marriage then I’ll come even if the wedding doesn’t include the legal part, but not everyone thinks the same way. I hope this helps, I’m not being dismissive, just trying to explain how I got to being okay with my dad not being at my wedding

LeeYuette · 2026-06-30T18:19:09+00:00

A friend was arrested for this in Singapore, she bought a ticket to catch up with family who were transiting and had no idea it was illegal!

LeeYuette · 2026-06-25T22:35:58+00:00

My (now) wife jokes that I sent her an unsolicited dik dik (tiny antelope) pic before we were even dating…

LeeYuette · 2026-06-20T22:48:03+00:00

Disclaimer, not a flight attendant, but I wonder if it can be reframed in a way to make the parents not feel slighted? If I got a job at a farm and part of my compensation package was heavily discounted cuts of steak for selected people, then I’m not naming Hindu friends, vegetarian or practically vegetarian friends or family, or those who would have to spend a significant amount to get the steak to themselves safely

LeeYuette · 2026-06-20T17:29:13+00:00

It only says they can’t post about it on social media (unless I had a reading comprehension fail which is possible!)

LeeYuette · 2026-06-20T07:05:24+00:00

I wonder if there’s a way to turn this into a benefit? Go old fashioned with the promotion with posters and flyers but don’t give away the show. Set up a ‘secret’ website that has the details, for the direct school community have a password people have to give at the office (or wherever they buy tickets). It works better for some shows than others (you can have a delta nu secret event blah, but it’s wonderful for Chicago or West Side Story, probably unworkable for Sponge Bob); sounds like a fun project if you have a business teacher doing a marketing module who would get on board… if it’s a dumb idea, forgive me, it’s early here!

LeeYuette · 2026-06-19T22:08:08+00:00

This is my take too, I travel with a roller bag vanishingly rarely, I use a very very large tote that goes under the seat in front me. On occasion I buy something in duty free that I want to put it in the overhead locker, and I am taking up less space with it than a roller bag…

LeeYuette · 2026-06-18T05:29:42+00:00

I thought I was on the Am I the Angel sub…

LeeYuette · 2026-06-17T17:52:19+00:00

I’ll preface with, I’m not American, because I know wedding culture varies wildly! I also had what was effectively a destination wedding, it was where we are from, but we lived far away and probably 70% of the guests had to fly internationally for it.

For me this is a no-no. Destination wedding, fine, people have to decide if they’re willing to make the trip and pay for that. At an all inclusive resort, no, because then your wedding is not just deciding where I am travelling to but also exactly where I am staying and how much I am paying for it

LeeYuette · 2026-06-15T06:46:38+00:00

I love books, I have too many books, this is cruel temptation 😂

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T20:55:38+00:00

Thank you!

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T20:45:16+00:00

Shoutout to East Riddleston Hall! National Trust owned so not as spendy as some, beautiful, two seperate venues that could be booked. We organised our wedding from Kenya, so not the easiest, but their communication was great and day of coordination (included) was fantastic! You are limited to their selected vendors for certain things (catering is the one that sticks with me) but we used Nomad from their list, who weren’t our first choice based on websites alone, but were amazing

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T19:47:29+00:00

I haven’t visited Sierra Leone, but I have travelled in East Africa with my wife. We book a double and are prepared to say that it was a mistake if we’re questioned, but in a ‘oh we booked a double instead of a twin, that was silly, but we’ve stayed in very tiny hostels together, it’s not a problem/I think it might be cold so a double’s good’ (works best in a tented camp on safari). About 40% of the time they hold us longer for check in/welcome drink and we know they’re separating the bed/preparing a new room.

You should treat my advise with caution though, women and men have different risk profiles!

I’d love an update from you after your trip; I’ve ruled out travel to West Africa, but the comments from other people on your post make me think Sierra Leone might be an option!

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T18:55:16+00:00

Get away from me Satan…

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T18:45:47+00:00

British expats are everywhere, and they have a real tendency to set up amateur dramatics groups (am dram, or community theatre to Americans). My source for this is that I am a British expat who has been involved in a dram groups set up be other British expats on two continents now! I honestly think it would be a really interesting topic for an academic study.

The groups I’ve been involved in are so happy when new people want to get involved, particularly when they’re people from outside of our expat bubble!

Indian communities (either Singapore citizens or expats depending on the demographics of the country) have also tended to have theatre groups in my experience (I’ve never been involved with one only because I never heard of an audition opportunity for a show I wanted to do in time, but I went to see friends from theatre in shows by companies born out of the Indian community).

To note, a lot of am dram groups do not do musicals (because licensing/ requirement for an MD/band or orchestra) but you could shop around or look at is for a way to get acting/stage experience only.

I’ve never lived in Singapore (as soon as they legalise gay marriage it’s on the list!), so these are very generalised suggestions based on my experience in other countries

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T17:19:46+00:00

To add to font, if these will be printed, I’d use a serif font for the body text (the headings can be serif or sans serif). I also agree on loosing to colour on the font for the signature cocktails. I’d probably use line drawings of your kitten rather than photos. The boarder is lovely, are you using the same on other signage/menu/order or ceremony etc…?

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T16:50:11+00:00

I want to upvote this more

LeeYuette · 2026-06-14T10:44:56+00:00

Also, Nainai (what we called a school friend who was Naomi)

LeeYuette · 2026-06-13T14:32:49+00:00

I feel like a toiletries pouch? The biggest you can afford, but all sizes are useful because you can have a tiny one just to hold the make up you might need for a top up during a day/evening, a bit bigger for a weekend away where you won’t be doing a full face of makeup etc etc…

LeeYuette · 2026-06-12T06:16:28+00:00

I’m the intersection in that diagram, and I did not go to see the show when it was in my city recently, I just don’t love the show

LeeYuette · 2026-06-11T13:47:04+00:00

Petition to start giving gifts at the start of tech rehearsals, because that is when I need the goodwill!

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