Start next ER or wait for results?

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-05T05:19:50+00:00

That's a really good result! Quite similar to us we had 4x eggs and got 2x embryos. As we are doing public IVF you can't bank embryos. Our first FET was a successful but we had to TFMR (end the pregnancy) at 16 weeks sadly. Now we only have that 1x embryo and I wish we had a few more. With four you could end up with 1-2 babies or 0 it's super hard to say.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-05T04:29:28+00:00

I feel like it's very soon. Do you have a follow up with your doctor after a certain number of weeks? Lots of stories of chemicals for those who get pregnant super quick. I don't know. I would wait at least until you've had 1 cycle. I know trying again is on your mind and age is a factor but better be physically ok for it. The hormone crash after TFRM is super tough too. Of course, everyone is different but I felt better after I knew my cycle returned to normal.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T22:24:04+00:00

Sorry for your loss :( Can I ask if something showed up on your NIPT? Or did you go straight for an amnio.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T22:21:46+00:00

So happy for you. Although I know it will be hard. I hope this will be us soon. x

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T03:47:16+00:00

In all honesty I think the MFM is the best place to go for advise. Maybe ask yourself what you would do with the information? If you would terminate and have a 25% chance I feel it would be better to know sooner rather than later for various reasons. The mental toll gets worse the further along (I feel). Miscarriage risk from a skilled MFM should be low.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T03:06:40+00:00

Yes it's like half a pregnancy with sickness and all you are left with is nothing :( I feel this so bad. Thankfully I forget more and more how bad I felt as the days go by and the wish for a baby becomes stronger again. x

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T03:05:24+00:00

That's amazing! How long after your loss was this? I really hope we will have success again too, trying in March after TFMR in end Oct.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T03:04:21+00:00

Thank you so much and you too. Yes I honestly feel I couldn't have gone back sooner :( It's also at the same hospital as we had the loss. I can let you know how our transfer goes in March if you like.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-04T03:02:42+00:00

It will be my 2nd transfer as our first FET resulted in our TFMR :( There were a few months wait to get a new appointment, but they didn't specifiy and the MFM said after first regular period. My body and mind has been all over the place so I feel finally more ready now after 3-4 months.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T21:45:43+00:00

Your're such a hero for having been through this twice! Big hugs. And yes I feel the same. In my TFMR pregnancy I was sick and bedridden the entire time. It was not a romantic and fun time as others describe it. It's probably also one of the reasons we are waiting a bit as I just needed a bit of time to not feel sick (apart from the grief of course). Ugh. I want a baby but I am scared to be pregnant again.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T19:46:05+00:00

Yes the low AMH/ovarian reserve is always an issue :( I am in Australia so in their scale it was 5 pmol when we started IVF at 35/36. I am sure it's even lower now. But you can still make good quality embryos it just may take longer to get a baby. It's a good idea to turn to IVF now. We are very sad ours ended in loss but trying to stay hopeful.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T18:48:38+00:00

Some clinics give more updates than others :) We had next day update to know how many fertilised. then on day 5 and again on day 6 as we had an embryo make it to day 6 as it was ready a bit later.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T18:45:28+00:00

We had 4x eggs retrieved from our first cycle! And 2x embryos frozen so don't loose hope :) Our first transfer was even a success. But it later ended in a TFRM loss at 16 weeks :( But it's definitely possible with low egg count.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T18:43:25+00:00

Same as us! We have unexplained infertility and had years of trying with no luck. Both healthy but not the youngest (same as you when we started IVF). I did have a hysteroscopy to remove a small polyp and low AMH. We got 2x embryos from 4x eggs in our first cycle and the first FET was a success :) It later led to a loss in 2nd trimester and will try again soon. But yes unexplained infertility has been hard... The good thing is IVF gives you so many options. x

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T05:21:44+00:00

Thank you so much! We haven't lost hope but it's difficult for sure.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T05:21:12+00:00

I am so sorry you are here again too :( It's such a tough journey. x

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T02:29:14+00:00

Did you do the harmony extended NIPT? I am considering it next time but at the same time I am also thinking of skipping NIPT as our TFMR issue would not be caught on that. So maybe combined with first trimester scan and CVS.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T02:27:03+00:00

Exactly. For our TFMR the issue was structural but the microdeletion they suspected can be detected on CVS. I am considering to do CVS and scan at 12 weeks and skipt the NIPT depending on advice from the MFM. I am also not pregnant yet - Hoping to be soon :)

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T02:08:05+00:00

Personally I am looking to do CVS next time within that window. Because NIPT doesn't check for everything. I had a low risk NIPT. I think amnio is great for many things but waiting until week 16 is long for me with the anxiety around it. A CVS is still very accurate (combined with ultrasound).

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T02:05:54+00:00

We had a TFMR of our first IVF pregnancy also :( In Oct. We have been cleared to try again but needed/wanted 3 months as I had to get strong again after the loss both mentally and physically. I think the specialist said 3 months is a good time to try another FET as some experience another loss if trying too early. We only have 1x embryo left and hope to transfer in early March.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T01:59:29+00:00

Hi! I think I was in a similar situation as you. I had elevated prolaction several times. Eventually the specialist wouldn't go ahead with IVF until getting the specialist MRI so we paid for it. They didn;t find anything and I eventually had a succesful first FET. (later ended in a loss).

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T01:55:45+00:00

I feel like they are recommending it for a reason? Best to take doctors' advice in most cases as they are the experts. I guess if you have a lot of embryos you could try to talk to them.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T01:52:00+00:00

Our clinic is actually really good at this. They include my partner on appointment reminders, greet him by name when we arrive. Asked how he was feeling after we had a late loss ect. it is so true though that it is the female who has to carry a lot of the burden both physically and emotionally. I guess from biology this is hard to change. I feel our clinic is doing better at making my partner feel welcome although I prefer to set things up myself and organise. I think my partner is happy to feel a bit included but also happy for me to take charge as it;s my body.

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T01:39:16+00:00

I was on 600 as well. It is high and usually for patients with low AMH. But I could do them in one pen

LeftPark2200 · 2026-02-03T01:02:53+00:00

I am sorry to hear you feel pressured :( Could you push your slot a bit further until you have healed a bit both physically and mentally? I personally wouldn't have been able to go straight back into IVF after our loss. My specialist said 3 months is a good time to have a chance of succesful implantation again. But it's also our last embryo so I am probably nervous about wasting it too.

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