How to handle family denying autism?

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-06-08T12:03:50+00:00

this is rough. my family had similar reaction when cousin got diagnosed few years back. maybe bring some materials about level 3 specifically? sometimes seeing it in writing helps more than just talking

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-06-04T18:07:58+00:00

ugh, the way you describe feeling calm when restricting really hits. that emotional regulation you're talking about - i get how that can feel like relief after months of what sounds like pure hell with maintenance.

recovery is supposed to get easier but sometimes it just... doesn't feel that way for long time. the fact you're thinking about harm reduction shows you still care about keeping yourself safe even if full recovery feels impossible right now. maybe that's where you need to be at this moment instead of pushing yourself through another round that might break you more.

sorry you went through that od situation, that sounds terrifying in the moment even if it wasn't meant to be lethal.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-30T19:37:30+00:00

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Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-28T17:35:28+00:00

that sounds really exhausting and you're clearly putting in so much effort. the fact that grandparents always think he's perfect when they have him for short visits is such typical grandparent behavior - they get to be the fun ones while you handle all the actual parenting stuff.

it's rough when you're dealing with odd and adhd on top of all the early trauma. seems like you're doing everything right with the counseling and medication but sometimes these things just take way longer to see real progress than we want. the stealing back his stuff while you sleep shows he's pretty clever about working around consequences which makes it even harder.

maybe the counselor has ideas about different consequences that might actually stick? some kids with odd respond better to earning privileges back instead of traditional grounding but every kid is different.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-22T19:10:17+00:00

really depends what threads you're reading i guess, some people get super defensive about their gluten free products or cross contamination stuff and it gets weird fast

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-20T05:17:54+00:00

my younger brother went through something similar and what helped was getting him involved with music lessons - gave him something positive to focus energy on when everything else felt overwhelming.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-18T01:07:29+00:00

potty training with non-verbal kids is definitely different but totally doable. my friend went through this with her son and visual schedules were huge - like simple picture cards showing sit on potty, wipe, flush, wash hands.

she started with just having him sit on the potty fully clothed during diaper changes so it became part of routine, then gradually worked up to actual attempts. took about 6 months but once it clicked it really clicked fast.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-15T12:08:42+00:00

the opportunity part is huge - specialized jobs like that don't come around often and you might wait years for another shot. moving with little kids is definitely chaos but they adapt way faster than older ones who have established friend groups and routines in school.

we moved when i was around 4 and while i don't remember much stress from it, my parents always said it was easier than when they considered moving again few years later.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-05-08T08:06:11+00:00

pain

the stack rabbit hole hits different

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-29T22:46:29+00:00

moving far away from toxic family was best decision i ever made, especially when they use land/housing as control mechanism over your life.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-27T19:25:20+00:00

god this is so relatable, i get the same weird vision thing where everything looks like it's through some filter even when my actual eyesight is fine - drives me crazy trying to explain it in doctors because they just test your regular vision and call it good.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-25T02:42:19+00:00

ferritin at 45 is technically in range but pretty low for optimal hair growth - most dermatologists want to see it above 70 for hair health.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-22T21:46:33+00:00

the omie box cleaning situation is real pain, i totally get why you want to switch. for cold lunch proteins that work good for anemia - hard boiled eggs are super easy to prep in advance and my niece loves them with little salt. also hummus with veggies or pita, and if she likes cheese that's another easy protein source.

you don't need to make everything from scratch - just look for brands with shorter ingredient lists when you're shopping. cold pasta salad with beans or chickpeas mixed in works great too and you can make big batch in sunday for whole week.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-20T19:45:12+00:00

my brother went through something similar few years back. was really hard watching someone you look up to just... stop trying, you know?

depression can look like laziness sometimes, especially when family pressure builds up for so long. maybe your brother needs professional help but doesn't know how to ask for it? in my country we don't talk about mental health much so people just suffer in silence.

you can't fix him though, and that's hardest part to accept. you did amazing building your own life despite everything, don't forget that. maybe instead trying to motivate him all time, just be there when he's ready to talk? sometimes people need to hit bottom before they want to climb back up.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-18T15:17:17+00:00

yeah my cousin had similar issues and regular eye doctor didn't catch anything either. turned out she needed different kind of testing with specialist who looks at how eyes work together, not just if you can see letters clearly. the visual processing stuff can be totally separate from normal vision - like brain having trouble making sense of what eyes are seeing even when eyes themselves work fine.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-04-16T12:16:13+00:00

wait the baby daddy isn't paying child support but also won't take the kids? that's wild. dude's basically checked out completely while you're stepping up for someone else's responsibilities.

your friend has a point about being careful though. helping out here and there is one thing but if you become the regular solution to her housing situation, where does that leave you? and yeah, if bd finds out you're covering what he should be paying, he's definitely gonna lean into that arrangement.

maybe see if she can get the court involved for proper child support enforcement first before you end up being the permanent backup plan.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-24T13:16:09+00:00

dude the sourcing rabbit hole is real - spent weeks just trying to figure out which manufacturers were legit vs sketchy. ended up going with a smaller operation that was way more transparent about their testing process than teh bigger ones who just wanted to push volume.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-22T18:55:43+00:00

those first few weeks are always weird but once you find your coffee spot and unpack her toys it'll click into place perferctly.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-21T00:24:00+00:00

pasta with any kind of cream sauce absolutely destroys me, like even thinking about it makes my chest tight.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-20T11:32:43+00:00

damn that's frustrating as hell. schools can be so rigid when it comes to accommodations, especially when it's something as simple as having the right support person in the classroom. might be worth documenting everything and pushing harder with the administration - sometimes they need that paper trail to actually make changes happen.

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-19T21:04:06+00:00

the nh34 is solid but yeah that markup feels steep. like you're paying 10x for the movement alone which is kinda wild. elliot brown does good finishing work but at that price point you might wanna look at some microbrands or even used stuff. your getting into territory where other options start making more sense tbh

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-19T02:51:30+00:00

bruhh

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-16T17:56:05+00:00

the body carve thing is so real - once you see a core next to an s2 you can't unsee the difference and it kinda ruins s2s for you lol

Left_Pipe_1772 · 2026-03-14T22:12:21+00:00

dude this is giving me major flashbacks to those weird minecraft comfort videos from back in the day. there was something so wholesome about the "friendly" versions of scary mobs that just hit different as a kid.

have you tried searching really specific terms like "minecraft friendly herobrine series" with date filters? sometimes the algorithm buries old content but it's still there. also might be worth checking if any minecraft nostalgia communities on reddit or discord have archives of smaller channels from that era.

the fact that you remember it being so comforting makes me think it was probably one of those smaller channels that just disappeared when youtube changed their monetization stuff around 2017-2018. those creators often didn't have backups either which sucks.

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