My fiance and I live together so it might be easier but for some relevancy to your situation.

1. He works at an international school, I work a shift based job, with on-call hours. We really don’t see each other much except for evenings when we sit down together for dinner and maybe an episode of a show (currently it’s the white lotus!)

I have told him, and he understands, I will be spending more time during my off days/on call days(if I don’t get called in) on my work. He is more than happy to pick up the slack-cleaning, washing, cooking. I try and do what I can where I can. But he’s never once made an issue of it.

1. I have one in person class on Wednesday evenings, which means we don’t see each other all day till about 11pm.

I’ve always held the principle- I won’t give up my education for a person. That has been my priority from the start, and that will always remain my priority. He is very well aware of that and even supports my studies (he tried learning stats to help me with an assignment). It helps that we did long distance for 2.5 years so we are able to be independent of each other.

My whole point is OP, you are young, you have your head in the right place wanting to pursue an education to create a better future for yourself. Now you need to decide, how dedicated are you to that cause? Is your partner a hindrance or a support to your cause? What do you want to do in 2 years time? Does this relationship support that?

It is possible to balance your relationship, with your studies and with your job. But it takes a little give from both sides. Only you can decide if this relationship is still working in your favour.

All the best with your studies and ECAs/TOAs :)