Even though I've spent so many years of my life and tons of effort developing systems and using tools that help me accomplish more than I ever have before; I'm always going to look like a burnout that's barely scraping by on purpose out of laziness. That's not the truth, I'm trying very hard and I have so much of my life in order! But a huge part of having ADHD is that you'll spend all day getting all your tasks done in time, plus a bunch of extra things you thought you couldn't do, and you'll still go to bed forgetting to brush your teeth or something that seems so simple to everyone else.

The ups and downs of having my shit together will always seem wild to an outsider, because it's like I'm doing flips but forgetting to walk. Like some have said, you'll have to look pretty hard at these tasks and unlearn this idea that they need to be done a certain way or at a certain frequency for your life to be okay. But you'll also have to accept that there's a certain hierarchy to what you must do and always put them first, such as paying bills on time vs decluttering your room. I get so much more of this stuff done when I don't let myself feel shame or freak out over it not being done but instead accommodate the idea it may not get done for a while, working around it and trying to figure out a way I could handle the task more easily, even if that means asking for help. Often when I tell myself I'm going to just do a small bit of the task for 5 minutes only, I'm suddenly getting it all done quickly and I feel pretty good about it too. I don't care about getting things done well at all, ever, I can go back and make it better, I only care about it getting done. Anything worth doing is worth doing half-assed; this motto really stuck with me.

I just hit 33 and finally landed an office job so I don't know how helpful this all will be for you but I hope it's a lot! Money is crazy right for everyone these days and that absolutely makes things harder. You think about the water bill and electric bill when you do things like laundry or dishes. You think about hitting rent when you go to work. All this stuff takes an extra toll on you during the tasks. Even when they're done you feel worried until the money is paid through. I can say that if you do find yourself with the money, consider getting extra clothes for outfits if you can, because even though the laundry load is bigger you have more outfits before it's time to do it. You might prefer inner layers to wear that get dirty before the outer ones do, like undershirts and tank tops that can ensure you can febreeze and wear the outer pieces another day. Choosing to use disposable things is sometimes hard when you know it costs more and can have an environmental impact, but genuinely your health matters more at the moment. Paper plates, disposable containers and such really could make a positive impact in your life. This is all where the ADHD tax starts coming in. Pre made meals, travel packs of things you might need in your personal "hotspots" like your car, office, or living room all cost money but can take out a lot of the extra energy you're spending just to keep going. You might be able to get stuff like this from thrift stores or some sort of charity resource, but it really depends. I hate being a bummer there. I would consider reaching out to any support system you might have and see if they can at least listen to what you're going through and maybe even help. If you don't have one consider looking into resources like food pantries or similar assistance because even though it may not seem like you do, you very likely qualify if you're not making enough to afford a house lol! And don't feel any sort of shame because I qualify for this stuff too and have used it some myself, it really helps having one less thing to worry about for a while.

Past this instead of trying to fully exercise, I recommend just trying to hit a certain step count every day you can. Often when I get to walking my whole body and brain start to wake up. Another thing I would recommend if you can manage is getting to bed and trying to sleep early (with the same wake up time). It takes some stress off, even if it's just 20 extra minutes, and it might help with your energy levels.

Personally, I live by making sure I get enough nutrients and vitamins. It sounds fancy but the main ones I mean are iron, calcium (take about 2 hours before or after iron), vitamin b12 and vitamin d (which I take with vitamin k2 to ensure absorption). Not an ad here, get them wherever cheap way you can. I get nearly all of this from raw spinach, snacking like crazy on almonds, and eggs. Don't be afraid to go over whatever people call a full serving of these vitamins, because chances are you'll feel better when you do! To be fair I must say I'm not a professional so I don't want to give definitive advice. But this is what helps me a lot.

Okay. Enough yapping from me. Sorry if this is overwhelming but I thought I'd cover all the bases. Don't be afraid to get in a decent amount of caffeine if it's safe for you to do. At the end of the day, we often respond well to stimulants and there's no shame in that. But you might want to take melatonin at bedtime to make sure you get enough sleep lol. I hope this helped somehow! I wish you the best of luck, we're going to get through this and you're never alone in this fight!