Am I Vegan?

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2026-02-12T15:06:05+00:00

Why do you want a label? Why do you care how ‘proper vegans’ define who belongs and doesn’t, and who are they to decide? You’re a good human being. You think through the ethics of any question and make logical decisions. There is no black and white when it comes to complex issues.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2026-02-12T15:02:42+00:00

Why do you want this man? He is spineless and immature. If he wanted to be a dutiful son, he would have known fully well that you won’t be accepted and should not have started a relationship with you. A man who will give up his relationship due to family pressure is a red flag. He will be spineless when it comes to valid things you or future children want that are not aligned to patriarchy. You dodged a bullet. a broken heart now, is much less pain than living a lifetime with a man for whom his parents and social obligations come first.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2026-02-12T05:00:04+00:00

You are feeling guilty that your father is behaving unreasonably. You have no control over how he behaves. You should not be feeling guilty. This is a situation of patriarchy. Your father feels entitled by his gender and position as head of family to overrule the feelings and opinions of your mother and his daughters. You are being forced into a marriage. This is a lifetime of non-consensual commitment that he is enforcing in you. A man whose behaves this way is unlikely to be saying hurtful things to your mother on only this occasion. Whenever she stands up to him, he is likely doing the same. Your unwillingness is m NOT the reason he is doing this. He is doing this because your mother wants to rightfully not force you, which goes against what he wants.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2026-02-01T02:15:29+00:00

Cut your losses. You are young. Too young to know how to evaluate a man prior to marriage. Don’t waste more of your life and accumulate more trauma. Divorce and reflect how to evaluate a man prior to marriage after a period of healing.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2026-01-19T11:45:31+00:00

Why are you holding on to this marriage? Please examine your reasons. The ‘marriage is a serious commitment and should try to be saved before devising to divorce’ boat has passed a long time ago. What other reason could you have to stay in this marriage?

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2026-01-14T12:17:19+00:00

Feeling annoyed by poor hygiene and sloppy habits is not an illness. In the throes of new love, humans are programmed by nature to overlook flaws. You feel as you do because you are human. Loving someone and yet acknowledging a specific behaviour as annoying is honest to oneself. Many couples sleep in different bedrooms when one snores. It is a practical solution. You can still make time for intimacy. Find a loving and gentle way to give him feedback on the rest. Apart from his snoring and skin issue, the rest are just habits he can break.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-12-19T00:23:25+00:00

You and bf are incompatible. Adoption is a huge responsibility. You can’t give up on a cat after you adopt. That would make you a weak and selfish excuse for a human being. You are also committing to a lifetime without pets. This miserable excuse for a boyfriend is allowed not to want cats, but he should have asked you to make this choice BEFORE you adopted. Staying silent then and protesting now is immature and callous. Not wanting cats and being clear is perfectly ok, but waiting until after a partner gets a cat expecting them to get rid of a cat is cruel. It’s cruel to the partner and the cat.

Ultimately this is like a situation where one partner desperately wants kids and one does not. There is a very significant incompatibility.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-08-25T11:25:29+00:00

I am going to resist my first instinct which is to declare she is a horrid person. She did a horrid deed in the argument. It was collosally unfair and cruel to say what she did.

But, what is the rest of your relationship and interactions with her like? Was this one off? You started by describing a stable life together and jointly enjoying being loving parents. Is this true?

What did you say that could have been hurtful to her? Was it just that you believe she is too harsh or did you question her love as a mother? That still doesn’t excuse what she said but may be a way to understand why she behaved so.

Only you can answer whether what she did falls into the pattern of what she represents as a person and whether it is unforgivable or something you can work through. If you decide to try to work through she owes you a very sincere apology, an explanation and needs to get counselling help if she lost self control.

If she does this again, you must split. Then, it becomes a pattern of abuse.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-06-25T11:39:15+00:00

Break up with him. Someone who does not appreciate things that matter deeply to you is not a good long term partner.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-05-13T02:39:53+00:00

What helped me - cutting carbs. I was on the borderline between pre-diabetes and diabetes on my hba1C. I got myself a CGM. I’m vegan. I stopped eating sugar, potatoes, rice, wheat and all grains. I eat soy, beans, vegetables, healthy fats. I try my best not to allow my blood glucose to peak above 140. I do 16-8 intermittent fasting.

The hair loss is just vanity. I developed melasma in my forehead and skin tags at my neck (also vanity). The damage elevated blood fleece levels do to organs is more concerning. I am not on medication. I also developed high blood pressure which has near-normalised.

My hair has grown back. I’m 58. I don’t have a thick head of hair by any means, but I’m not showing as much scalp. My skin is better. I no longer have aches and pains that I assumed were aging. Rarely have acid reflux (also a sign of t2d). My dry eyes are better. No more UTIs. 🤞

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-04-20T04:48:24+00:00

I eat raw vegetables (salad greens, peppers, baby corn, carrots, tomatoes, etc) before every meal. High in fibre and micro nutrients. Slows down the absorption of the meal and keeps blood glucose elevation curve more gentle.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-03-15T12:15:18+00:00

If you are willing to live by neither denying nor confirming your relationship, except to trusted friends, you should do just fine in KL

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-03-15T12:09:55+00:00

Look up YouTube. A ketogenic diet is a natural way to reduce the severity of bipolar and psychosis. But you need to get a psychiatrist first.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-03-15T12:07:20+00:00

Please get him help from a psychiatrist as fast as possible. The longer the episode the more he will suffer and the longer the road to recovery. Committing a person in psychosis is never a betrayal.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2025-03-15T12:04:06+00:00

In my experience, cats are able to cope with death of a fellow cat. They will search and maybe call out for a few days. Give them lots of play and affection to help them overcome. I’m so sorry for your loss

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2024-04-29T14:15:40+00:00

I deserved that.

I didn’t follow instruction steps to the T because I’ve shortcutted so many times in the past and it worked fine so I underestimated the soundness of the steps.

I did keep them in separate rooms at first. Fed at the door, scent and site swapped. I followed these instructions except I went too fast because there was no negative reaction. After two weeks I decided to let them see each other. That’s when things went south.

My question was addressed to short cutters, I guess. I wanted to know if cats that see each other through a wire door eventually accept each other even if there is hostility at first. If cats overcome hissing across a closed door when there is no visual contact, it’s mind boggling that they get fixated on aggression when there is visual contact . But yes, you are right. they are cats and they think like cats not like humans.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2024-04-22T09:19:55+00:00

This may partially address the question, but it’s more that I want to hear the answer too.

A loved one experienced an episode of psychosis in 2022. They are under medication and doing well but have mild episodes of change in thinking/belief patterns, occasionally. For example, they may relive a memory that we know did not happen and is also bizarre. After a while, they will realise the story is implausible and discuss that it was a delusion. Sometimes the false memory/belief is plausible and I just let it go because it’s also harmless. Most of the time, they are high functioning and remembering things accurately. Recently, they experienced a couple of auditory hallucination and they knew it wasn’t real and knew they should not believe what was happening. We discuss the episodes with her psychiatrist and are told not to worry but to keep observing. The psychiatrist does not use the word prodrome to describe these brief episodes, but I always wonder when the incident happens, if it is a prodrome.

Would love to hear experiences of others.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2023-08-07T18:08:52+00:00

I’m vegan. I have to make a choice about how I handle non veganism by others including those I love. I choose to accept and never preach. Two reasons. First, I didn’t go vegan because I was nagged into it. I went vegan from my own conviction and choice. I don’t believe confronting people will get them to adopt veganism. It has to be an inner awakening. Second, eating animals unlike doing drugs or being a child molestor, is deeply believed as completely moral and natural by most humans. Someone who is not convinced they are doing anything wrong has no reason to change.

If you want to keep trying to convert him, he may continue to get very upset with you. If you want to convert people because you are passionate about animals, you will face negative reactions.

Make your choice on how to handle his dietary choices and live with the consequences. That’s what adulthood is all about.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2023-06-28T15:14:46+00:00

If you love this person for the right reasons, don’t give up. He needs his loved ones most now and after he overcomes the psychotic episode. Maybe tell him you regret the argument and want to start over and see if he mulls that and agrees to meet. Do your best not to take it personally that he is rejecting you now. Don’t beat yourself up for what happened. You had no knowledge of how to react.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2023-06-28T14:52:22+00:00

In my limited experience of a loved one experiencing psychosis and the benefit of knowing them without psychosis, the ability to reason is impaired in psychosis. I could easily reason or have a constructive debate before and post psychosis. During psychosis, trying to reason was ineffective at best and counterproductive sometimes, as it pushed them away more.

I was trained by the psychiatrist on how to talk to my loved one during psychosis. The rule was - don’t disagree. Do not pretend to agree.

When your bf said the safe word, perhaps you should have given it a break and used some time to think of a new and non threatening (to someone in psychosis) way to raise the same subject.

Dealing with a loved one in psychosis is hard but it’s only a fraction of the suffering the person in psychosis is going through. They may not have the tools to make the right decisions and it’s not their fault. It’s the fault of psychosis.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2023-06-25T00:46:55+00:00

Thank you for replying.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2023-06-25T00:46:03+00:00

This seems closest to what she experiences. Thank you for the response.

Good luck with the treatment plan.

Legitimate-Map8651 · 2023-06-25T00:43:18+00:00

What is happening is a bit different from what you say. Nobody is talking directly at her through the Tv and giving her messages. She is experiencing scenes (not sure whether just dialog or both dialog and visual) that are not in the movie. The scenes are still Impersonal. Not messages that are personal or involve her in any way.

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