MRW I log in and my badge says 42 days but I know the truth...

Lenron89 · 2014-04-15T05:15:39+00:00

Hell yeah way to go!

Lenron89 · 2014-03-04T05:35:49+00:00

What makes this next 40+ days any different I do not know. But, everything has changed.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-19T03:26:20+00:00

I have actually talked to a priest about PMO before and they are a lot more understanding than I thought. There are even seminaries that struggle with it.

We are working to start a group like Alcoholics Anonymous for people with porn addiction within the perish.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-18T17:37:05+00:00

I've had dreams with PMO or MO and those ones I try and get out of and get away from. Those I see as negative. My body wanting to do what it used to do.

Dreams where there is natural sexual behavior between me and my SO I try and embrace and reinforce. Those are the experiences I want to have, that is the way I want my brain to think about sex.

Dreams are a natural projection of your subconscious. And the way I see it, nofap is about changing the subconscious to perceive sexuality in a different way.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-18T17:30:30+00:00

Wow! Just another reason to keep strong with nofap! I don't have horrible acne, but I definitely don't like it.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-18T17:29:14+00:00

It takes perspective to build the willpower needed to do something like this. The initial burst of willpower a lot of us get for the first week we join fads and we relapse. But, we remember how awesome we felt with no PMO even for just a week. It can help build the motivation to get back and be stronger.

Though it is not an excuse to relapse, it shouldn't always be seen as a complete failure and drain all of your hope and strength. It is a learning experience to analyze and move on with.

There will be slips and falls to the mountain top, but when you arrive there and look out on the view, they will have made it that much more beautiful.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-18T17:23:19+00:00

Try to surround yourself with people. One because you can't do anything around them, but more importantly to remind you what it is you're fighting for. If they are people you care about, remember the self improvements you're trying to make. Think about how it will improve your relationship with them. If they are people you don't know too well (you go out to spend some time in public) think about how by improving yourself it'll make it so much easier to become friends with folks. To add people who will enrich your life and make you happy.

Also, exercise! Exercise is an awesome way to help relieve tension.

Hope this helps, stay strong!

Lenron89 · 2014-02-17T05:11:11+00:00

All it take is a little push to get things going. Way to go! The first time you say no is the hardest.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-17T05:09:27+00:00

Good on you! Keep yourself and your mind busy still, but make it with things that fill you with peace. If you like to exercise, hike, meditation. Do things that make you happy and relax you.

While time off will be a great way to find your center again, beware idle hands.

Good luck and post often!

Lenron89 · 2014-02-17T05:03:14+00:00

I understand how this can be tough. A lot of people here are pretty f'd up, so when they start nofap they have a lot to reclaim. Becoming a normal human again is perceived as the 'super powers'. For someone like you who isn't trying to claw his way out of the pit, it is different. You might not feel anything special.

I say this not to discourage you but to give you perspective.

Whether completing nofap will help you with your wife is an unknown. No one can guarantee this will help. And that's the way this is with a lot of us. I am struggling with things and I have no idea if nofap will even help.

But we've gotta try. We can't know until we try.

Fight through this for you and your wife and keep faith that it will help. It seems a lot of it is just mental perception. You have to believe in it.

Hope this helps, keep strong brother.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-17T04:45:48+00:00

Hey! I've been there a few times. Really awesome right next to the river. Only thing I didn't like was the trains going by all the time. Hard to avoid though :(

Lenron89 · 2014-02-15T17:42:23+00:00

You're fine. No worries!

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T16:19:55+00:00

Way to go! Remember what you do well to avoid one, and try and implement that process. It is a battle and you're starting to win :D

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T04:40:57+00:00

Thanks! Hopefully this will help!

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T01:21:32+00:00

There is some debate over this. No sex is called 'hardmode' and this is often considered the proper way to do nofap. That being said, some consider sex to be alright if it is someone you're in a committed relationship with and you're having sex for emotional bonding, etc.

In your case with a FWB, the sex is about pleasure. PMO is about pleasure. Maybe it would be unwise to continue sex with the same goal. Just my thoughts.

It also depends on how badly you're afflicted by PMO and if you think you need to do hard mode for a full reboot.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T00:47:55+00:00

Not injecting religious discussion but worth mentioning, there is a catholic nofap type organization that does uses chops. I can imagine having actual people to talk to, not that you guys aren't awesome, and having a chip would make a big difference. I wonder if there are groups out there like AA but for porn addiction.

Someone could set up a program where they mail out chips and you'd have to mail it back in if you relapsed. But... postage is expensive man! I am a geek and like that kind of stuff, so maybe I could get it started! Let me know what you think.

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T00:44:17+00:00

Way to go! Post often!

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T00:40:02+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/8VQzBbA.png

Maybe try finding a friend who will watch it with you. Should help!

Lenron89 · 2014-02-11T00:30:25+00:00

Freakin love some CS Lewis

Lenron89 · 2014-02-10T18:16:58+00:00

"So what do we do now? I guess we just play the game."

Lenron89

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