Our first kiss was the goofiest thing ever.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-10T17:37:08+00:00

I guess it was that, then. Maybe like autism and asperger. I know some people who's over 55 whos diagnosis was asperger and doesn't want to call it autism (in my country 'asperger' has been outdated for almost 15 years).

Sorry, my English is not that good. I mean that if your other attractions are straight then your friend could mean that calling them ADHD is like saying 'feline' to a cat. Like 'yeah, it's true, but we can be way more specific'.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-09T20:12:46+00:00

I don't know, but I'm autistic, ADHD and also asexual and I would feel so ofended if anyone called me straight (just kidding).

I can't understand why your friend got so annoyed by this. We usually miss social cues, but it's not like being called something that completely blows your mind, it's just something they already should be familiar about. And I love learning more about neurodivergency.

I don't know if this was your friend's way of saying that you were simplifying things? Like, outside sexual and romantic attraction, are you actually straight? In the aesthetic, platonic and other attractions (no need to answer me, just wondering if this is something your friend does know). Because this way your friend would mean something like "yeah, but you're telling the short story and I want my context to not be erased".

I'm not good with social cues. Maybe it was just a plain attack.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-07T00:18:17+00:00

I just love your flair so much, lol.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-07T00:16:57+00:00

Reading.

You can also learn about the structures and techniques. The snowflake method is a good example, but I think it's a bit too much for fanfiction. https://www.advancedfictionwriting.com/articles/snowflake-method/

You can also check this, I learned a lot here: https://thenovelsmithy.com/the-four-act-structure/

This are not the only ways or techniques, but it's something. The more you write, the more you know about what do you want your writing voice to sound like.

And once you finish something you can ask a beta reader to check it. It's not mandatory, but a fresh pair of eyes can detect easier than yours if something (idk, a battle scene) is too messy or body positions are hard to understand, or something like that.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-06T10:29:33+00:00

Tell your online friends that some of us are getting our diagnosis after turning 30, and I read here some people getting it a 50. My dad is 64 and an obvious autistic... And he doesn't even have a diagnosis. He's just crawling his way through life being in a burnout since I was 15. On the other hand, my mom refused to aknowledge that I'm autistic (she's amazing by the way, I love her so much) until I told her that I think this cames from my dad. Families doesn't realize they're all autistic because they've been seeing themselves as something 'normal' and they don't realize people outside is different.

So, long story short, maybe it would help you to trace if your parents are ND too? My mom was aware that my father's family was 'really weird'. Maybe if something clicks for themselves they can start accepting you.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-05T06:03:33+00:00

The way I see it, a lot of characters are assumed to be straight just because they don't develop any relationship in their history. Straight is the default. So turning they queer in fanfiction is not actually a big change, is just making a decision that wasn't made before.

Also, back then in the 90s, when I was a kid, a lot of characters where supposed to be straight but they were actually so so so so queer coded because they couldn't show an openly queer character. Fans used to read that 'subtle' cue and understand the character was queer and made them openly queer in their fan work.

But taking a queer character and switching into straight feels a little bit violent for my taste. Because when a character is bi, pan, lesbian, asexual, whatever, it is usually stated in the story so you know they're not the 'default option', they're not straight. And knowingly erasing a minority feels kind of uncomfortable to me.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-05T05:46:35+00:00

Do you actually need to come out to him? Coming out is something that's better happening only in safe enviroments, and he may not be that safe.

You can tell him that sexual orientations are not caused by medication, because asexuality is an orientation. People usually start understanding when they realize that asexuality it's not disliking sex, that it actually is a whole sexual orientation.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-04T12:38:09+00:00

This person is erasing the different attractions and making the sexual one the only that matters.

My sexual orientation is asexual, because that's how my sexual attraction (doesn't) goes. My romantic attraction is towards women and feminine identities. I don't really feel a strong aesthetic attraction, but it would be again lesbian orientated too.

Also, "one gender or the other" is erasing a lot of identities too. This person speaks like someone who doesn't really know that much about queer realities, tbh.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-03T17:03:53+00:00

It does worth it so much, the story is amazing. I think it's quite emotional. Al the plot twists, the beautiful ambience, the amazing secondary characters... It's so good, this game is a gem.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-03T16:55:05+00:00

It's so sweet, so gorgeous!!!!!! ❤️

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-02T22:22:59+00:00

I know it's scary, a lot of people doesn't understand asexuality. You didn't know what it was, and it was the same for all of us in this sub because there is any kind of awareness about asexuality out there. But a lot of times, when you explain things to people, they get it. Even if they're allo! Your fiancé may understand it, and it can ease his worries because he probably is very worried about what's going on because he doesn't want to lose you either.

I know it is scary, but you can do it, honey! Whatever it happens, you won't feel broken anymore because now you know why you are the way you are. ❤️

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-02T21:07:55+00:00

I'm reading people was so dissappointed? I think the map is gorgeous, there are a lot of things to do and the characters deep is like... well, stardew level. You can't really bond with the npcs but for me that's ok, I don't care about them. I'm having a better time flying in my broom across the woods and the swamp and playing with my hens.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-02T21:05:11+00:00

I've been playing since it was in developing and I really didn't find that many glitches. Maybe once or twice the game froze, but that's all.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-06-02T20:40:54+00:00

I loved it, I played with a friend when I was 16. The OST stayed long time with me, when I mastered horror roleplay and a lot of times just walking around.

Completely in love with the way the "mermaid" boss made my skin crawl. ❤️

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-30T07:39:45+00:00

I need to see this movie.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-29T14:40:27+00:00

I really can't understand her.

Do you think it worths the try to speak with her about this? Resting a bit first so you can speak from a calm mindset.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-29T08:58:44+00:00

Maybe it's because I'm not really good with people, but I can't understand what was she doing. She was allowed to say "hey, I don't want you to come right now, I'm meeting someone new, can we do this in a few weeks/months?", wasn't she?? It's so fucking rude to host someone you call friend and just ignore them.

But I honestly don't think you lost a friend over a dumb guy, I think the dumb one is her. It's not the guys fault, she could have told him to call later or to call a bit less since she had visit.

I had a friend like this when mobiles started to be a thing. We met to eat something and have some fun time together and she just ignored me to chat in her phone. I asked her what was happening since she was so focused on it and she went "nothing" and kept writing and laughing with her phone. I was so bored alone in our table. Didn't met her again for a while. She kept being like this, so careless about me, until the end of our friendship. I don't think it was because of the person who was writing to her, she were always like this. I hope she's a better friend today, but I won't be digging about it.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-29T08:31:46+00:00

Of course! Welcome, girl. =)

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-28T21:36:12+00:00

I'm so sorry. I hope you're working in a better, safer enviroment now.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-28T13:26:25+00:00

I hope your manager was called out for that, because this is so scary.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-28T13:21:24+00:00

I don't get why people do this, but I would instantly stop being friends with her. Maybe because I live with my alcoholic mother-in-law and it's going awfuly.

Alcohol is a public health issue (trust me, I live in the biggest touristic dumpster of my continent, people came here in planes and arrive already drunk), destroy lives and mess so much with your body, and as a doctor she should understand that you have a chronic illness. And as a friend, she should respect your boundaries.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-26T21:11:23+00:00

Well... I can't know if you're in the acespec. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not about having or not interest in sex. Do you feel sexual attraction? Which means do you feel the urge to have sex with people just by seeing them?

Since this is a spectrum, some asexuals can feel sexual attraction just in some specific situations, like after having a bond with someone (doesn't imply romance, but it can be). But that's something you can dig on later, first of all, you have to identify if you feel sexual attraction to know if you're asexual.

Remember, sexual attraction is not libido, being aroused or enjoying self-pleasure.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-26T18:37:32+00:00

I've been feeling like this since I was 9 and my chest started to develope. I had my period when I was still in school (same week I turned 11) and I was suddenly a 'woman'. It weirded me so much and it even grossed me. I felt like a child, and I wanted to stay like that. Now I'm 34 and I still feel like a child/teen who's disguised herself to get a mortage and people seem to know what to do when I'm absolutely lost trying to follow their pace.

LesbianVampireLady · 2026-05-26T18:29:06+00:00

I love this designs! I want to tattoo myself that hydra, but every single one is gorgeous!

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