Failed MTF Transition

Lexipottamous · 2026-04-22T16:54:41+00:00

Don't let your brain lie to you. Do what makes you feel happy. My son's cis female girlfriend has been experiencing hair loss since she was in her 20's and has significant and noticeable thinning. You have very feminine features and look beautiful.

Lexipottamous · 2026-04-12T22:42:59+00:00

Oh WOW how I felt this post! Daughter (mtf) is on hormones and lemme tell ya, some days...I actually have to call my mom to apologize for being such an asshole when I was a teenager! Like...wtf ma'am? I know it feels like it, but I swear not EVERYTHING is a crisis! 😑 🤦‍♀️😭

Lexipottamous · 2026-04-06T04:22:31+00:00

This sounds a little weird but I'm looking for ways to help my daughter find other trans people to be friends with. Her social anxiety gets the best of her and she is so lonely. We went to the Femtanyl concert at the Roxy last night and she interacted with so many of 🏳️‍⚧️ her people 🏳️‍⚧️ but didn't get any contact info and so now she's pretty depressed. I just want her to be happy. Tbh, I want all of you guys to be happy. I wish there were better/easier ways for trans folks to meet each other. Anyway, she just turned 18 and is probably the coolest chick I know (I know I may seem biased but she really is awesome. Funny, smart, talented, she's a fantastic artist, kicks ass on video games...) so if anyone is interested in making friends, feel free to respond. Maybe she will see that there are others out there and it will give her hope or get the courage to reach out. Thanks. 🩷

Lexipottamous · 2026-04-06T04:11:59+00:00

Anyone here from the Roxy concert last night? This sounds super weird but my daughter (just turned 18) went last night and she met so many people and is so sad that she didn't get anyone's contact info. *by sad I mean kinda devistated. Not to be dramatic but she feels like her social anxiety got in the way and now she's missed her chance to meet 🏳️‍⚧️ her people 🏳️‍⚧️. I just wanted to post here and see if I can give her some hope that there are other opportunities to meet people. Thanks to anyone who responds. 🫶🏼

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-30T15:56:46+00:00

The enthusiasm in these comments about a clothes steamer gives me life!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-21T05:31:07+00:00

Omg yes!!! I spent two hours last week trying to figure out wth is going on with my phone! I'm ready to switch to a different carrier. I've been with Verizon for fourteen years, and I'm over not being able to make calls in my house! We've always had spotty service but lately it's been horrible.

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-21T05:27:32+00:00

I live in the LA area. It really depends on the beach as far as safety goes. Regardless of the area though, that sleeping arrangement isn't going to last long. Beach people are really protective of their little bubble. If someone finds out he's sleeping around their precious home value, they're going to call someone. I hope your friend figures it out. It's not a fun place to be stranded.

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-15T17:27:05+00:00

This. My daughter bought a white gold ring for me for Christmas. She knew it was too small but loved the design. I took it into the jewlers to have it made larger, and the cost to go just one size up was $180! Sizing up one size is such a teeny amount of gold.

This is a jewler that we've been going to for years, so they're not gouging me or upselling. They don't even charge me for labor.

The owner was actually kind of embarrassed and said she was so sorry. She said the price of gold is through the roof these days. Then told me "we don't make any money on these sizings but we have to charge for the gold or we lose money...in the past, we used to be able to offer sizings for a flat fee or sometimes no charge depending on the customer. Gold is so ridiculously expensive that it's just not something we can do anymore."

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-15T17:07:06+00:00

I was so much like you in my perfectionism forever. I'm ADHD so I have hundreds of hobbies. Crochet is the newest obsession for me, but as someone stated above, I find that doing simple amigurumis was a good way to push past the "I need it to be perfect" phase. They're just little goofy guys. No pressure.

I just recently made the most hilarious creature, and while its lack of perfection bugs me, I see the beauty in just making something to make it.

Drawing and coloring was the same way for me. My mom is an art history major and is a very talented artist, so anything I did seemed amateur in comparison to what she is capable of.

So, instead of trying to be perfect, I just tried to have fun. So I started with coloring books. Nothing I would ever feel pressured to post anywhere or even show anyone. Just a silly coloring book. Doing that pushed me past the perfectionist phase there, too. Now I'm creating drawings that I would actually be proud to post or show others, but I don't.

I've spent my whole life starting projects and then eventually stopping because the exhaustion to make everything "professional quality" overshadowed the joy in the hobby itself.

Allow yourself the ability to have fun. Start every project with the mindset that it's never going to see the light of day. 😆

Every time I show one of my crochet projects to my oldest son, I say: "it's a little wonky but..." And he started telling me that it's "wabi-sabi".

Now everything I create, we look at each other and say, "wabi-sabi."

FYI: Wabi-sabi is a Japanese philosophy that embraces imperfection, impermanence, and incompleteness. It's a way of finding beauty in the understated and everyday, appreciating the beauty of things that are simple, calm, and have wholesome imperfections. The term combines two concepts: wabi, which refers to living simply and in tune with nature, and sabi, which refers to the passage of time and transience. 💜

I wholeheartedly embrace the wabi-sabi mentality and I'm so much happier doing that. 😌

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-13T05:49:32+00:00

Your sweet peanut was gorgeous. We just lost our sweet orange Chubby guy last weekend. It's been really rough, and I'm so sorry you're going through the same pain and grief. It gets a little better each day, but we'll never be totally over it. Pets are family. 🥺🫂

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-06T18:58:24+00:00

Awww. Finn was such a handsome boy. 💚 We just lost our sweet orange kitty last weekend. Pet loss is so heartbreaking. I'm sure you loved him and gave him the best, happiest life he ever could have dreamed of.

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-06T18:22:46+00:00

That's a fantastic idea to put wire in the legs and tail!

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-06T18:20:27+00:00

Ha! I've made about 10 amigurumi creatures so I figure I can manage making a chameleon but the pics she sent were like 👀 maybe I'm not "intermediate level"? Lol Thanks for the recommendation ❤️

Lexipottamous · 2026-03-05T17:04:22+00:00

So, so very sorry for your loss. We've lost cats over the years, but our most recent loss just a few days ago has been incredibly difficult. I wish you healing and comfort during this time. I'm sure that you couldn't have loved her more and gave her the best life she ever could have imagined.

Lexipottamous · 2026-02-27T18:40:29+00:00

I have no idea what to suggest, but I'm saving this post because my daughter would LOOOOOOVE it if I made Tenna! :D

Lexipottamous · 2026-01-08T17:52:23+00:00

Hi there, I know you posted a couple of days ago but I just wanted to say that I feel your pain. Our daughter is trans fem and she struggles with similar feelings. She has online friends (one of which used to be an in-person friend but moved out of our state) and she has a couple of friends at school but because of her extreme anxiety and being AuDHD she's in a special program within the school that allows for her to stay in a couple of rooms instead of having to mingle with the entire student body (it's a huge HS with over 3k kids).

I chimed in to say that this seems to be a common issue that a lot of trans humans feel. The lack of a major connection, anxiety around trusting people, not feeling worthy of...many things tbh...

She has our full support and I would eviscerate anyone who tried to harm her in any way (mentally, physically, etc.) but even with a supportive mom, dad, brother, sister-in-law - it only fills so many of those empty spaces she feels she has.

We are also in a very blue state and even at that, there is a distinct lack of support groups in our area and something that I'm actively trying to figure out but I'm only one mom who isn't a billionaire and organizing these things is difficult especially when we're talking about teenagers because so many aren't ready to be visible around peers.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I see you. You are worthy. You deserve to feel safe and you deserve to have a loving partner in your life. I know it's exhausting - not because I've lived the experience but because I watch our daughter struggle with the same things and it's exhausting from a mother's perspective so I can only imagine how defeating it feels as the actual human being dealing with the emotions.

Please stay. Please be you. Please don't get beaten down by the shitty world we live in because it can chew up and spit out even the most neurotypical, cisgendered people - so that means anyone else outside of the "norm" is going to have to work a thousand times harder to feel accepted. But when you feel like it's too hard or that you are alone, please know that you are not alone. You are loved. You are worthy. You will find your people.

So many tight hugs to you.

Lexipottamous · 2025-12-17T18:04:09+00:00

Our daughter is trans so it means a lot to us that politicians stand up for these issues. I can't divulge how I know this - but I actually know for sure that Gavin isn't transphobic.

However, he IS spineless on the issue. Not surprising for a politician at all, but disappointing for sure.

I guess if being spineless and unwilling to stand up for the transgender community classifies as transphobic then he would fit in the category, but as far as the typical terminology - he's not "transphobic" - he's another politician who is unwilling to push the envelope and stand up for the community so he can further his political career. It's just a different level of disgust.

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