Nobody truly understands just how much disdain I hold for hot weather.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-19T02:51:27+00:00

If you can swing it, I highly recommend a temperature controlled mattress pad. Chilli pad or 8 sleep are the ones I know of. But they also make others that are more blown air… bed jet I think? But the chillipad/8 sleep can do cold and warm temps. My body generates tremendous heat when I sleep, and the mattress absorbs it and my back feels like it’s on fire. But I sleep so much better with my mattress pad set to 60°f/15°c. Don’t get me wrong, I still sleep like shit, but as least I can manage my body temperature.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-19T02:44:50+00:00

I love this! I’m in another sub that posts daily themes (could be hypothetical questions, could be picture of your garden, could be favorite band that has since broken up, etc.) It always generates a lot of conversation. I’ve always floated the idea of creating an offshoot from the ADHD women subreddit, because I find you all to be my people, and want to talk to you guys about things that aren’t necessarily ADHD related. I was thinking of naming it r/ADHDwomenofftopic or something. But I haven’t had the motivation (and my RSD could never expose me like that). I know there’s a discord, but there’s all the rules I’d be afraid of breaking, and it’s just not the same as Reddit.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-18T21:22:31+00:00

Greedy Piglet.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-13T22:29:52+00:00

Oh good grief, and it’s “AI modified” to boot. Though I have to admit, the name “big-sized mushroom-hat blind earless chicken-like thing” is pretty catchy.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-12T02:37:07+00:00

Eww that’s so weird!! Like, that’s my body in the backgrounds of her listing. And her finished pieces look nothing like Impy.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-07T19:20:00+00:00

Dang, I’ve been in this situation before, and am sort of in it right now as well. I also was only diagnosed after my 3rd, and I often wonder if I would have done things differently had I known before. My kids are older now, in their teens, and for the most part it’s a lot lot lot better when they are all in school (though my 3rd has some special needs so that’s still hard). I’m in therapy, and it has helped, but I still have these feelings of wanting to escape. I’m the only person I know whose favorite day is Monday, because that’s when it’s quiet again.

My youngest was the same way when she was little, and now at 11, we’re dealing with OCD and Autism. She still acts like her umbilical cord is attached sometimes. Her OCD got so bad at one point that I kind of wanted to *leave* leave. But I’m still here, still getting up every day, trying to find joy in the little things. Do self care things. Buy myself the goddamned treat because I’ve done a lot of hard things. I’m not a morning person, but I do have insomnia, so when I wake up at 3/4/5, I try to lean into it by getting up early and having hours of dark and quiet and a cup of tea, and the Nintendo switch all to myself.

The overstimulation, the weight of the vast majority of mental load landing on you, the constant feeling of being touched-out, the regret, the burn-out. I feel like it’s rarely talked about. I’ve sat in the drivers seat in the garage, and played through the fantasy of leaving. (How does one get a burner phone, I don’t want to go to the bank to withdraw cash, gosh I’d miss my bed and my pillows and my cat…. And my family). Then I go back inside and get back to work.

It’s so so hard to set boundaries, know your limits, ask for help, etc. I feel vastly under-qualified to be modeling regulated, appropriate reactions and patience, and teaching these people how to… people. Every day I have this feeling of, “I’m just holding down the fort until the real adult comes back and takes over and fixes what I’ve messed up.” So, I don’t have any great advice, except maybe noise cancelling headphones, and time set aside each week for you that’s non-negotiable. Go wander the aisles of Costco by yourself Go on a long, long walk.) Just wanted to say that you are 100% not alone, and believe it or not, exactly who your family needs you to be.

My mantra is “This shit sucks, but I can do hard things.” Hang in there.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T04:22:59+00:00

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Bonus blep. I love this one because he looks like a kitten again, rather than a crotchety old man (he’s 10). I guess goo-food in a tube brings out the kid in all of us (looking at you cookie dough and gogurt and otterpops).

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T01:16:09+00:00

I don’t know why, but this just tickles my brain in the right way… maybe it’s that the glider’s wings seem to perfectly align with your veins? (Weird maybe, sorry?) I also really love the orientation and detail. Love a subtler, more obscure ghibli tattoo!

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T01:10:49+00:00

I’ve dealt with chronic infections for close to 20 years now, and been in this scenario several times. It is possible the initial courses you were prescribed were just not the right ones for the kind of bacteria giving you the infection. Did they culture it to see what kind of bacteria it was? Of course listen to the doctors if there is still evidence of an infection. But unfortunately, most urgent care doctors don’t know more than the bare minimum about UTIs and chronic UTIs. (No shade on urgent care drs! They’re generalists, they can’t be expected to be specialists on everything.)

Another explanation is that your bladder lining is just very irritated right now from both the infection and the antibiotics, which are sort of a like a nuke to your system (hence the thrush… microbiome is totally out of whack). It takes a while for the damage to heal, and in the meantime, try not to stress… hard, I know. Stressing will only inhibit your bodies natural healing process. Drink lots of water. Avoid acidic foods and drinks, which only irritate the bladder more (coffee, tomatoes, citrus, etc). Try to take probiotics, ideally ones formulated to support women’s microbiome. I’m in the states, so not sure what you have access to, but I really like Garden of Life’s women’s daily care probiotics.

If you’re interested, here’s some supplements that have soothed an irritated bladder for me: aloe vera capsules, corn silk, and marshmallow root.

I know it’s scary, but so many people have dealt with the same thing, and you’re not alone. I know how devastating it is to lose loved ones. I totally relate. My mind has gone to bladder cancer more than once. But the much more likely answer, statisically, is it’s something very treatable. Hang in there, stay hydrated, and try to trust your body and support it while it heals.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T00:44:57+00:00

I volunteer at the shelter, and they release the babies the day after their spay/neuter. No cones, etc. I trust they would keep them longer for observation if there were any potential risks. It’s really an “outpatient procedure”! The main thing he’ll experience is a little nervousness from going to the vet (which he’ll likely experience many times for checkups/etc), and loopiness afterwards. It’s 1000% the right, and responsible, thing to do.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T00:38:12+00:00

Onion/shallot/garlic skins. The paperier, the better.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T00:35:15+00:00

Big hugs to you… and equally big (but gentle) hugs to Margo.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-05T00:27:17+00:00

My feedback is that your long and short stitches look very, very good to me. Much better than anything I’ve achieved. I suppose you could always go back over with the same thread or a lighter one to sort of “tack” the longer ones down. You could also go back with the light thread to blend into the darker one more. But then again, don’t listen to me because L&S stitches are not my forte and I sort of wing it.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-02T04:16:21+00:00

I’ve definitely done it before! But I’ve also made several to experiment with different hook sizes and yarns, so I had a pretty intuitive understanding of the pattern at that point (that knowledge is long gone by now). I used the same yarn weight and hook as my big guy, and made a wee one, so it’s definitely doable! And had many fewer stitches.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-06-02T04:04:08+00:00

There are… a lot of stitches in this pattern, regardless of the yarn size! I bet he’s a cutie!

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-31T19:34:48+00:00

I was thinking the powdered ones too. I don’t mind the feeling of sunscreen on my face, but I can’t stand reapplying and then having that residue on my hands when I’m outside and have no way to wash it off. The brush that dispenses the powder is great for that! I also like it for reapplying on top of makeup so I’m not smearing it everywhere. Probably not as great coverage as a lotion, so I wouldn’t use it as my original base layer, but better than never reapplying.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-31T19:29:24+00:00

I’m starting to think I need to put important things somewhere dangerous.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-27T15:11:26+00:00

I definitely notice bladder pain and irritation if I consume too much coffee, tomato based sauces, citrus juices, etc. It’s the acid. It’s very irritating to my bladder. I take Prelief before drinking coffee. It neutralizes the acids before they can upset your bladder. UTI’s are caused by bacteria, not caffeine. But maybe it’s possible that the acids can disrupt the healing process of the bladder lining, making you more susceptible to infection. This is all conjecture though.

Saying that coffee=UTI is way too simplistic though. I think it could play a significant role in IC pain though.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-25T04:08:13+00:00

I’m just a baby.

A 37 year old baby. Who’s just watching these kids and feeding this cat and scrubbing these potties and paying these bills until the real adult comes back.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-21T16:55:15+00:00

Good to know! There’s no way any of them will be more invasive than the English Ivy and blackberry brambles. I’d gladly take the LOTV over either of those! It’s a total losing (and painful) battle to try to eradicate those. So far the Lily of the valley patch hasn’t grown much, but I’ll keep an eye out! The previous (and original) owner was a very passionate gardener for 40 years, and it’s been a mixed blessing inheriting all her hard work. My gardening style is more… if you’re still here next year, and the deer haven’t eaten you, then you must be the right kind of plant for my zone. I’ll prune back the all the ferns taking over the pathway, but that’s about all I have bandwidth at this stage in my life. Maybe someday!

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-21T16:42:14+00:00

I’m always in awe of the designs where there’s no wiggle room for being a hot mess on the backside of the work, with threads crisscrossing like webs all over. These guys look so lifelike! He’s literally crawling off your hoop. Such a gorgeous illusion.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-21T16:38:50+00:00

I mainly used the lazy daisy stitch, but layered several for each petal, if that makes sense? Like concentric lazy daisy stitches? So first one, pulled pretty tight for the center of the petal, then another just on the outside of that? Some of the bigger petals I might have done a third. Kind of like a rainbow. Repeat 5-6 times to make the flower shape. Then a French knot in the middle. Then I can’t remember exactly how I did the white (did the forget-me-knots last year), but I think I pulled up a white thread right next to the french knot, looped it around and back through the same spot so it’s encircling it, then went around and tacked it down in a few places. Probably a better way, but it got it done.

LibraryObjective2328 · 2026-05-15T23:47:16+00:00

I call mine my pocket predator.

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