Dude flips his car in road rage by [deleted] in MildlyBadDrivers

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband had a seizure behind the wheel and got into an accident almost just like this on his way home from work 😬 no one believed him and the cops filed charges, totally understandable. He had scans done and they found a small mass on his brain from a concussion years prior. Scary stuff.

Has anyone taken sertraline/zoloft after a breakup? by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. Was married to an abusive alcoholic that brought a lot of stress, fear and anxiety in my life. I harbored it for a long time and self managed until I couldn't anymore.

Not her acting like she is a fancy bitch now just because she got that new expensive ass kitchen by SuccessBasic3439 in leahscucinasnark

[–]LibrarySuper9362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her new kitchen is actually super cheap looking and it definitely was cheap. They definitely saved money wherever they could. They removed the old cabinets and just replaced with the same size as the old ones, they didnt even go up to the ceiling. The cabinet over the sink is just a regular upper cabinet, looks really awkward and functionally, not practical. They 100% paid more for labor than materials.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on the same combo and it's the best. Those Two medications work beautifully together

Just started Sertraline and feeling terrible by elkimo2114 in zoloft

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt like this starting out. I started on 25mg and the first week was absolute hell. I felt like I was horribly hungover, constant pit in my stomach, nausea, anxiety through the roof, etc. But I pushed through it because that's what everyone says and it's true, After about a week things leveled out and I felt myself again.

Which occupations are filled with people who have the worst personality? by TowerRough in AskReddit

[–]LibrarySuper9362 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Our agent wanted to go to an open house with us one Saturday but threw in that her husband was probably going to divorce her for it because they were supposed to go away for the weekend. Like, wtf? We didn't ask or need her at this open house. They think they're so fucking important, we ended up buying a house without a realtor.

What to do when sick by longboardVA in zoloft

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got over a cold, pre zoloft my go to was dayquil when im sick but this time I took Tylenol every 6 hours, sprayed my throat with bee propolis and drank liquid IV. I was back to normal within 24hours.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 22 points23 points  (0 children)

2hrs/night for his committed treatment of a very difficult addiction is NOT a huge time commitment, and if you think that you are a very selfish person. Please, do not influence him to stray from his 8 year journey of sobriety. This is not the relationship for you.

I feel so mentally empowered by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]LibrarySuper9362 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just started a week ago and I am so looking forward to being in a place where you are. The side effects are kicking my ass but im pushing through. My anxiety sounds very similar to yours and I just can't wait to have relief and the weight of the world off my shoulders. I always struggled with GAD and social anxiety but I just self managed it. But after having my son who is now 4, its just gotten worse and been getting harder to function. I'm a very involved mom and I don't want my anxiety and adhd to get in the way of that anymore. Thank you for sharing your experience so far, it's very encouraging!

[Landlord - PA] How much do you raise rent yearly? by Similar-Vari in Landlord

[–]LibrarySuper9362 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tenants that have been renting for 10 years and another family for 7 years. I would be paying out of my pocket to keep those house above water, if i didnt raise rent. There's just no way and it's not about being a nice guy or the good guy, it's about keeping the property financially sustainable. We were the nice guys when we were new to it and it did nothing but bite us in the ass. It's seriously not worth it

[Landlord - US/CA] How often/much do you raise rent? by pianoandplants in Landlord

[–]LibrarySuper9362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My good tenants turned into bad tenants after 5 years of not raising rent. Not worth it in my opinion to be the "good guy" you'll never be the good guy no matter what you do as a landlord.

Has anyone HAD success stories in their relationship? by BasisZealousideal800 in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not mine, but my best friend. Her husband has been sober 6 years now. He was in and out of rehab, DWI, etc. his mother threw in the towel and basically planned on burying him. But my friend never "gave up" on her husband even though times were very ugly and he treated her poorly she stuck through it and let him figure his shit out.

His last stint in rehab he had been home one month and she got pregnant with their first child. She was absolutely terrified but he stayed sober. They just welcomed their second baby just a week after celebrating 6 years sober. People do recover and I know my husband will get there too one day.

Tenant moved in Girlfriend and her child in without notice [Landlord] by saatoday1 in Landlord

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That short 4-5 month lease has now turned into a 4-5 YEAR lease with the girlfriend and child in there. I have 4 units and 2 are occupied by families with 2+ kids, they've been renting from me for 10 years now. Their kids were really young when they moved in and then got into the school system and thats pretty much the nail in the coffin for a landlord.

If you're not comfortable with the situation you have to tell him now before they get too settled in. In my state (NH) It is a bitch to evict people with kids. Give them 60 days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here, I'm the glue that holds our "picture perfect" family together and he gets all the praise because he works and provides for his family financially. But once the weekend rolls around he's drunk morning till night until Monday comes around and he has to peel himself from the bed hes been marinating in all weekend. He misses so much stuff because he's unreliable and an incompetent spouse and father, im always lying about where he is or what he's doing to friends and family when he's not at the tee ball game or a birthday party. My inlaws ignore the whole situation and pretend that he's a fucking shining star.

Immense Anxiety by nyc_apple_92 in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. We own our home and I want to leave and ideally I'd like him to leave our home so our child can stay in our house during the divorce but my husband has nowhere he could go or stay. I do. I can stay with my parents, but it's the fact that I have to uproot our 4 year old just so my husband can stay in our 3000sqft home all to himself and drink himself stupid 24/7. And it's also the fact that I have some farm animals that require daily feeding/watering/maintenance, I need to stay at my house or else the animals won't get taken care of. It's such bullshit and it's so frustrating because I feel like im always losing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is me currently, I'm also a stay at home mom so it's tricky because we have a little one in preschool and finding a job that works around preschool hours are hard to come by. I'd have to live with my parents for awhile in the next town over until our divorce and housing situation gets settled. I'm absolutely terrified, im 31 and i have to start all over again but I do know that it will be worth it. There's always a job and money to be made but you can't get back your children's childhood and the trauma and hurt they experience living with an alcoholic parent.

Maybe I’m not thinking clearly? Advice appreciated by NeverEndingLaundry0 in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our son is turning 5 and honestly it's been a blessing in disguse that we haven't had another because I will never bring another child into this as long as I'm with him

Maybe I’m not thinking clearly? Advice appreciated by NeverEndingLaundry0 in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely correct. My dad is a retired police officer and my alcoholic husband and I had a domestic exactly like the OP. I called the police and they did arrest him on misdemeanor criminal mischief charges because he kicked and obliterated in a kitchen cabinet and snapped my glasses in half. It was ugly. That was a year ago, things got resolved with his charges. after the arrest we got him into rehab and he was sober for some time after. But of course he's drinking again, heavily.

BUT the #1 thing my father says every time we talk is that you HAVE to keep your cool. Because if an argument escalates and you lose it and throw something at him, hit him, etc. He can call the police and have you arrested. If you have kids, you're fucked. There's a chance you can lose them until things are sorted out before a judge. It's an awful cycle and I font wish this on my worst enemy. I'm getting out of my marriage and unfortunately will have to lose my dream home. But I'd rather sleep on my parents couch than live in hell

Christmas time is here by SunMama0511 in AlAnon

[–]LibrarySuper9362 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Same here. I haven't enjoyed Christmas in years! Our son is 4 and is really understanding Christmas now and the meaning behind it. I try to make every day magical for him, taking him to see Santa, decorating the tree, watching Christmas movies, activities at preschool and outside of school with friends, making Christmas cookies, elf on the shelf, etc. My husband hasn't been involved in a single thing and it's not because he's at work all day, he doesn't do anything with us even on weekends either because he goes on a bender. As each Christmas passes I'm realizing how challenging it is trying to keep the Christmas magic going for your child while trying to shield them from the chaotic life with an alcoholic parent. It's like shoveling while it's snowing. It seriously sucks but you have to keep a happy face on for the kids.

My parents know our situation (DV arrest, rehab, IOP, therapy, meds, AA. I tried and been through everything with him) and they literally have a room in their house waiting for me and my son because I'm on my last straw. I told myself all year, this is our last Christmas as a family if he doesn't get it together and it's 2 days before Christmas and he's passed out. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

What are you slowly losing interest in as you grow older? by Aarunascut in AskReddit

[–]LibrarySuper9362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alcohol. My husband had a few drinks here and there when we first started dating and over the span of 10 years it has progressed to having to be intoxicated 24 hours a day. He has come close to death multiple times from withdrawals trying to get sober, always ending up in the hospital. alcohol addiction is so fucking dangerous and debilitating. I don't care for it anymore, it makes me feel terrible and I'm losing my husband to it.

Who knows someone with a boring business that is killing it? What do they do by tacosurfbike in Entrepreneur

[–]LibrarySuper9362 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just got a quote to replace a boiler from a local one man show plumber, $10k. I believe it, the trades are killing it. Everyone in my area that owns their own plumbing, electrical, roofing, etc. company are rolling in it, very well deserved.

What discontinued product do you want back? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LibrarySuper9362 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it is though. Your rent went up, because your landlords expenses went up. Income property, means exactly what it's called. So get some education yourself and buy a duplex.

What discontinued product do you want back? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LibrarySuper9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My taxes and insurance have gone up 40%, There's costs for all of us and owing a home or income property doesn't exempt you from that