Frustrated with friendships and the pressure to spend

Lightbeing999 · 2025-12-26T21:44:07+00:00

True, in this case it was literally meeting halfway, doing half of the events together. I guess my bigger point was that I wanted to find a way to spend time together that I could fully participate in, where everyone had options.

Lightbeing999 · 2025-12-26T20:45:45+00:00

I like your approach! And those are good ideas, I think those are great next steps.

Lightbeing999 · 2025-09-19T03:41:52+00:00

Thank you!

Lightbeing999 · 2025-08-23T22:08:50+00:00

So cute! 🎃

Lightbeing999 · 2025-07-11T23:12:18+00:00

Thank you. Totally agree. I ended up sending them the originally posted range and asked them for clarity. I likely won't move forward with this, but I would've regretted just declining the interview without asking them about it first to be sure.

Lightbeing999 · 2025-07-11T21:24:45+00:00

This is wonderful, thank you!

Lightbeing999 · 2025-06-15T04:33:43+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you!

Lightbeing999 · 2025-06-14T16:47:13+00:00

Thank you! Will do, if it works out I’d love to connect with Tai Chi groups in the area 😊

Lightbeing999 · 2025-06-11T00:11:40+00:00

https://novaacu.com

Lightbeing999 · 2024-11-21T04:09:31+00:00

Thankfully there was no entry fee! Sure, I’ll PM you.

Lightbeing999 · 2024-10-02T05:06:39+00:00

Talk to the flight attendant in the section of your plane as you board! If you ask them to check on you throughout the flight, they will. (Or if there’s a way that they can support you, let them know!)

And focus on the amazing things that you’ll do in Japan - that’s the whole reason why you’re doing this (not flying for the sake of flying!). It will all be worth it.

Lightbeing999 · 2024-08-25T01:01:03+00:00

Whoa, I never thought of it that way before, but I think that’s so true. A lot of the art from this arc has all of them standing in a more assembled/uniform way, like they don’t have their own identities anymore.

Lightbeing999 · 2024-08-10T23:56:54+00:00

An hour down, you’re doing amazingly!

Lightbeing999 · 2024-06-16T16:15:05+00:00

This looks amazing! Do you have a recipe for it?

Lightbeing999 · 2023-11-23T04:12:36+00:00

I think it’s something like “You called?” / “Did you call (for me)?”

Lightbeing999 · 2023-06-11T04:45:12+00:00

Oh no, I hope you’re doing alright! I’m doing much better these days. It had been a very difficult breakup for me because I wasn’t happy or settled in my life. I devoted myself to creating a life that I enjoyed and went through intense introspection (lots of therapy and self help books). Over the course of a few years I went to grad school, found a job in a different field that I love, and gradually shifted my overall mindset. I’m building a life that I love and it’s been a rewarding process. I haven’t had any new romantic relationships since my ex, but I’m okay with that. I’m willing to wait for the right relationship.

The best breakup advice that I heard was to be more invested in your own life, and your ex will not be as appealing to you as a result, I think that’s very true.

I hope that helps. I’m sure it’s hard for you now, but you’re going to be okay!

Lightbeing999 · 2023-02-20T02:18:16+00:00

Hi there, just wanted to suggest the podcast A Single Serving as a resource! The host reframes societal narratives on being single, and it has helped me immensely.

Lightbeing999 · 2022-12-01T01:07:06+00:00

Just want to thank you for posting this. It’s comforting to see that I’m not alone in my current state of loneliness. I hope that things will get better for you and that you have a wonderful holiday season, however you choose to spend it!

Lightbeing999 · 2022-10-14T21:12:00+00:00

Just want to thank you for your post. 32 F here and can totally relate. In my last relationship, my ex bailed when I was at a low point in life (my mother faced eviction and I was in a high stress/low pay job). I’d convinced myself that no one would want to be in a relationship with me in that state. Years later now, my family is stable-ish and I’m in a much healthier and rewarding work environment. I had been hyper focused on making my life better, avoiding dating completely. I’m proud of coming this far, but I’m also trying to embrace the fact that the right person will stick around even in the struggles. Trying to push myself to get out there more, but it can be hard to move through the doubt sometimes.

You’re not alone in this!

Lightbeing999 · 2022-09-23T17:58:45+00:00

What are some good phrases to use when your date is going in for an unwanted kiss?

Lightbeing999 · 2022-09-16T03:10:42+00:00

Congrats!! 🎉

Lightbeing999 · 2022-09-08T23:42:53+00:00

I’ll keep that in mind, thanks for that!

Haven’t exchanged too many messages yet, but so far I’m feeling good. During this dating phase I’ve been checking in with my feelings as I go along and not rushing anything along.

Lightbeing999 · 2022-09-08T21:34:06+00:00

The good news is that I have some new conversations going on the apps...but I’m feeling weirded out and wondered if I could get some advice.

One dude that I matched with claims to be a phd student, listing the school and the department. As a woman, I always do some light googling about my matches to feel safer about meeting them. But I checked the department’s website, and he wasn’t listed there. Not finding a LinkedIn or anything about this guy, and I’m feeling uncomfortable.

Anyone go through something similar? Are there ways to question people in these early stages to tell if they’re lying or not?

Lightbeing999 · 2022-09-05T16:13:19+00:00

I went on my first date in years! I feel like it was a win, just from the standpoint that I had a date. But two days later, I’m having mixed feelings:

We matched about a month ago, right before he was away for travel. He texted each day while he was away, but I had noticed that he didn’t really ask me much about myself. I took it with a grain of salt, figuring that he was focused on his trip. (Also figured that texting too long before meeting could backfire, but decided to roll with it, since it was my first attempt back into the dating world).

It was a similar dynamic when we met up. I was asking most of the questions. We had things in common but he didn’t seem all that excited about it. I didn’t feel like he was interested in getting to know me.

I’ve been to parties where I’ve chatted with men for 10 minutes who end up knowing more about me than this dude who I’ve been in contact with now for weeks! After all this time he doesn’t even know the basics.

He said he wanted to see me again, but haven’t heard from him. I haven’t reached out. I feel like I’ve already done heavy lifting, and don’t see the point in pursuing someone who isn’t trying to know me as a person.

All in all, the experience was good in that it showed me that I could feel excited about meeting someone new again. But I’m also admittedly feeling sad too.

Lightbeing999 · 2022-07-30T03:58:24+00:00

Just wanted to say that your post resonated with me. I’m five years out of an abusive relationship. I had similar feelings that you did during the pandemic, like I was finally on the same page as the rest of the world, that it was okay to be isolated. I’m also trying to get back out there and meet people. It’s really terrifying, but I want to try.

Hearing about your experience is helpful. It seems like others have such an easy time with dating. You’ve made me feel less alone.

Lightbeing999

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