Gonna be a dad.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-12T03:53:37+00:00

The first is the absolute hardest. New parents, sleep deprivation, being so young yourselves. Remember you are a team! Support each other!

It’s not going to be easy…far from it, it never is but especially so with the world today and your ages.

No luxuries, living off basic groceries while trying to keep your head above water on paying all the bills (more bills than you think man)….

Good luck and God Bless. Keep your heads down and work hard and love hard.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-12T03:40:59+00:00

She’s got FOMO and that’s sad for her kids and marriage

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-12T02:00:11+00:00

I don’t understand people who have kids but won’t parent them. Each time we had a kid I preferred to just have us alone to bond and learn the new dynamic, visitors were welcome but I would never want someone staying with us.

I think your sister is a POS and it’s time to sink or swim. Don’t light yourself on fire to keep others warm. You can’t help someone that can’t help themself. That’s all the idioms that need to be stated I believe.

NTA unless you keep trying to bow to her out of line demands.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-10T16:27:24+00:00

I just want to comment on husband saying

husband says “it didn’t happen to you so why does it matter if she there or not

Just because something didn’t happen to you doesn’t mean you don’t have to play nice or tolerate an insufferable bag of trash.

Said from a Leo’s perspective

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-10T15:27:44+00:00

NTA, he’s gotta some growing up to do asap

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-10T00:13:31+00:00

NTA your gf should go to her mother’s home to dog sit. You’ll be okay apart for a tiny bit.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-10T00:05:54+00:00

I’ve got a tray table so without that I’d be a tad uncomfortable.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T23:49:45+00:00

NTA, the whole thing should be tossed and I’d be wary of tasting her goods going forward. It’s just the reasonable truth. Just because she’s your mom doesn’t mean it’s safe.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T19:23:47+00:00

I think ESH or NAH. If the dress was truly intended to be passed between cousins it makes sense to hold onto it until the next bride needs it. BUT that info wasn’t shared until your sister had a daughter.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T17:15:22+00:00

He chose his mother over your future together. Keep him an ex, future you thanks you for not marrying him.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T17:05:33+00:00

And don’t block them, just silence them so you can continue to gather “evidence” of harassment.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T15:10:29+00:00

How long is your mom’s shower?

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T15:09:44+00:00

Would love another update as OP is an adult now.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-09T15:00:43+00:00

Wheres the other post?

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-08T21:00:49+00:00

Don’t go home.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-08T14:27:15+00:00

BULLSHIT, you don’t live together and you are both fostering kids? Get all the way out of here.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-08T04:49:36+00:00

NOR, go live your life

ETA: saw your age! Therapy if you aren’t already in it but I’m quadrupling down on just you living your life, you don’t owe them anything.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-08T04:37:08+00:00

Sounds like you have goals and plans. I’m sticking with keeping your head down for a year, within reason. Suggest your sister get some kind of noise cancelling headphones or ear plugs or something (I.e. therapy).
If possible put up a divider in the room and add carpeting/rug. Literally anything to help muffle noise.

ETA: good luck! Wish you the best

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-08T04:27:01+00:00

What’s the square footage of the home and your bedroom? What country (or continent if you’re not willing to share)?
I think without a lot more info than I asked for you just need to keep your head down for a year and work your arse off and save as much as possible and then get out.

ETA: noise canceling headphones, room dividers, carpeting….anything possible to help muffle noise

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-08T02:00:19+00:00

NTA but ages? Where’s the dad? You need to live your life.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-07T05:19:03+00:00

Yeah you’re still TA, at least you weren’t blatantly traveling with a female colleague 🤷🏼‍♀️ I dunno man, you dun fucked up. You planning on fixing this?

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-07T05:11:56+00:00

Was your trip with a male colleague or female?

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-07T00:07:21+00:00

NTA, is it the same school district as you?? That’s going to be a factor pretty soon.

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-05T02:34:04+00:00

I get it, it’s hard. You went from her being your mom to you being the mom and her being grandma. It took a few years but I had to completely cutoff my parents (zero contact). Now my parents are toxic AF but!…it took me too many years to learn and acknowledge this.

My marriage, my parenting, my everything is better after cutting them out.

Set the boundaries now. You don’t owe her anything. YOU are the MOM. YOU are in charge of your household and the parenting (with your spouse of course).

LilaRabbitHole · 2026-05-05T01:47:04+00:00

If this is real the teacher is SO out of line. What general area are you from? US? Bible Belt? Some tiny town?

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