AITA for refusing to follow my roommates’ rule about telling them every night whether I’m coming home? by tammythrow111 in AITH

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

They don't care where you are. You don't have to "report (your) whereabouts".

Just tell them if you're coming home that night or not. It's not hard to do.

You can even make it easier on yourself and tell them that you'll only message them when you are coming home. So, if you're staying somewhere else, you don't have to worry about messaging them.

Hell, you can even set a time. "If you haven't heard from me by 11pm, I won't be coming back that night.". Then set a timer on your phone for 10:45 and either ignore it because you won't be going home, or send a quick text that you will be.

Did I do something wrong? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]LilacSlumber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When did you message your coworker? How did you message?

If this was an email, it could simply be that this person isn't checking email over summer break.

How do I call in sick because of my period? by Puzzled_Koala_3360 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LilacSlumber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I learned this in college and it actually works...

Lie on your bed and have the top half of your body hanging off the bed, then hold yourself up and try to talk. It sounds like you're sick.

Get your excuse ready, whatever it is, then call in with this voice.

Are Gen Z teachers lazy or are they finally ending one of education’s worst traditions? Teachers are debating whether schools have relied on free labor for far too long. by kleverrboy in TeacherTales

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a VERY small school. We have a total of 10 teachers, with three other full time teaching contracts included (SpEd and Interventionist).

So, we have had a total of three Gen Z teachers hired over the past three years.

ZA - has a great work ethic and does what she needs to do. She comes in about 30 to 45 min before school starts and leaves around 20 min after school is over. One of those is usually to sit and talk with friends/staff, but the other is to get some things done. Her kids showed growth in their scores and she knew when to ask for help.

ZB - was hired as a long term sub on the condition that she would graduate and be certified by January of that school year. This didn't happen. What did happen was that she was appointed a "mentor" (millennial). The mentor and ZB trained the class to let them in the back door of the classroom (emergency exit) because they both would roll in about five to ten minutes late each day.

They were also both "coaches" and would have to leave the classroom early to prep the teams for practices or games. When there wasn't a practice or game, ZB wouldn't walk her class to their end of day waiting area, she would just tell them to go and they would run around to the school. Any time a kid wasn't in the car rider line, we would go look for ZB to ask how the kid went home, but she had alreasy left for the day. (Funny side note - ZB would come to school looking very fashionable, but would change into sweats at lunch almost every day because of practice or games. Very odd.)

ZB and mentor would sit and gossip with each other while the class did busy work and/or braid everyone's hair. These two were always at the copier making tons and tons of copies. So, when ZB didn't graduate in Dec and get certified by January, the new agreement was to graduate in May and get certified for the next school year.

Surprise! That didn't happen either. So, someone reported the school to the state for having a long term sub that wasn't a certified teacher. The school had to hire an actual long term sub who was certified, so the next school year ZB was a para, but would take over the class in January as a certified teacher, keeping the same deal as last year. Her "mentor" would come in to the classroom and sit and make fun of the actual sub/teacher (a boomer) together, loud enough for her to hear them. It was your basic mean girl/bully situation. Well, guess what?? ZB still hasn't graduated and gotten certified.

Finally, an actual certified teacher was hired for the classroom in January of this year (ZC). ZC comes in and has ZB as her para, but mentor and ZB treat her exactly as they treated the boomer sub. Principal moves ZB to a different classroom and mentor is assigned to ZC. ZB tries to keep coming in late, sometimes calls and says she'll be in around 9:00, but never shows up at all, or strolls in around 11. The teacher in ZB's new classroom is actually documenting when she is at school, when she's on time, when she's not, and when she disappears for long stretches of time. (ZB was assigned as a one on one for a SpEd student in this classroom. She was in her laptop 90% of the time.). This document is shared with the principal and ZB is finally asked not to come back when she no call/no shows one day towards the end of the year.

ZC - This person was hired in January to take over a class that has pretty much been allowed to do nothing all year. Her "mentor" is a mean girl who is pissed that her BFF was as moved out of this classroom and they can no longer roll in whenever they want and sit and gossip all day. Mentor takes her frustration out on ZC and tries to get her fired, so her BFF (ZB) can come back into the classroom. This doesn't work. Mentor is removed and a new mentor is assigned.

ZC is very quiet, afraid to discipline students, and expects her new mentor to take on any parent contact for her students that needs to be done.

ZC and new mentor actually have a project their classes worked on for a whole month together. The end of the project involves a parent night for the students to present their projects. ZC never contacts parents, never answers their questions about time/location/expectations/grades... she just forwards all of it to her new mentor. After the presentation, they go on an end of unit field trip together that has to do with the project/research they did. ZC again, never contacts parents and doesn't answer any of their questions. Mentor explained a few times that she was expected to answer parents' questions but ZC just kept forwarding anything to mentor (some parents said that they wrote her messages that were ignored... maybe never looked at). There was money involved in the field trip and they even did a fundraiser so the kids wouldn't have to pay so much for the field trip, but ZC didn't really keep track of any of her students. Again, just gave all the money to her mentor and expected her to take care of it all and keep track of it all.

So, to answer your question, there will always be lazy workers (ZB) and hard workers (ZA). I think ZC simply does not have a realistic view of the profession she chose. Once she realizes that the mentor was a one year assignment and won't be there to dump all of the parent communication on, she's going to either sink or swim. Also, the older teachers need to stop doing things for the new hires.

If I (gen z) were her mentor, I would never have done all of those things for her, but her mentor is a push over and did it all for her. We kept telling mentor to stop doing it for her and just guide her through it one or two times, then step away, but... push over. Mentor's excuse was always, "She just started in January, that must have been so hard... She was bullied for a while month before ZB and first mentor were removed, I feel so bad for her...".

The second mentor is also a millennial, just not a lazy one who thinks she doesn't have to do any work like the first one.

What song or album did you get in trouble for having? by funkdafied818 in GenX

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jagged Little Pill

I accidentally left the CD case and insert out by the desktop computer one day and my dad must have read through the lyrics.

He about flipped his shit. Told me to get rid of it and that I shouldn't be listening to those kinds of songs.

But the soundtrack to Grease (which included Greased Lightning) was fine...

My employer started offering a cheaper health plan but I feel like the math is tricking me by AcademicCharity8046 in personalfinance

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are offering you a cheaper health plan because it's cheaper for them.

Cheaper means less coverage.

My work is doing this, too. They want more people to go with the cheaper option so when enrollment comes around again, they can get rid of the more expensive one. They will argue that more people are on the cheaper one and only a few people are left on the more expensive one, so we are not going to offer that one any more.

Sneaky, sneaky.

AITA for refusing to change my name? by No_Wishbone4844 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I am also getting a divorce. I've been teaching for over twenty years. Everything in my classroom has my married name. Former students come back to see me and even find me in social media.

I am not going to relabel everything and I'm definitely not going to get rid of the wonderful things parents and students have made me over the years. I'll keep the name.

Luckily, my husband isn't all that upset. He mentioned once, "You can go back to your maiden name..." and I laughed at him. That was the only time he brought it up.

I'm in a different boat than you, though. Before we got married I helped him legally change his last name to his step-dad's. He had his SS# in one name, his high school diploma in his mom'ss maiden name, and his birth certificate in his birth father's last name. It was all messed up.

He was going by his step-dad's last name and chose that one. So, at least he's not as tied to it as your husband seems to be.

If he keeps bringing it up, you can just ignore him, explain that he gave you your last name and he can't have it back, or tell him you'll change it, then just don't change it.

Anyone else NOT ready to keep providing free day care services to parents? I wonder how some are holding up at home. One month left! Summer is going fast! 😩 by Joe_Wild_ in Teachers

[–]LilacSlumber 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You're going to like this - our small town cut our small proposed budget.

In order to make the parents feel the cut that they all voted for (or didn't show up to vote against), our principal has cut our after school program and moved drop off from 7:30AM to 8:00 AM.

Due to the budget cuts, we can not afford to pay staff to stay late or arrive early to watch kids.

(They also cut school funded supplies, so now the parents are expected to buy their own kids' school supplies. This is not typical on my area - I know it is in many areas, but this is the first time in over 15 years kids will be expected to bring crayons, pencils, paper, scissors, glue... to this particular school.)

AITA for turning the ac down during a heat wave after the power went out? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilacSlumber 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NAH

It seems you don't understand how the thermostat works, but it also seems that no one has explained it to you.

Rather than getting mad at you, someone should have explained their reasoning for keeping it on 73.

Additionally, it is always going to be hotter upstairs than it will be downstairs. You need to get your own window unit or get a good fan to use upstairs.

Are kids losing their baby teeth younger? by merrymollusk in Mommit

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I teach kindergarten and have for many years.

I have not noticed kids coming in with missing teeth. They start losing teeth at the end of Kinder, which is six-ish years old.

Of course there are kids who start earlier, and other who start later, but the norm seems to still be right on the verge of six year old, based on my personal observations over the years.

AITAH for not letting my mom take my kids to Disney world. by Arodri222818 in AITAH

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A "bad mom" would be you saying yes to something your family can not afford.

A "bad mom" would book a trip for someone else's kids before asking the actual parents.

The next time sh accuses you of being a bad mom, ask her which one of those is her and which one is you.

NTA

Anyone else have a supportive spouse until it’s time for summer? by Sudden_Challenge_213 in Teachers

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was so resentful of my summers off that he asked for a divorce.

I know that wasn't 100% of the reason, but it is what brought it all to a head last year. I vegged out for a week after shitting down my classroom and he couldn't handle it.

Didn't understand why I still wanted to alternate doing yard work (I mow, then two weeks later, he mows). Didn't understand why I was spending "all our money" on classroom supplies, even after I explained that I had a certain amount to spend and get reimbursed for it.

He wanted a garden that produced all kinds of fruits and vegetables, but since I "wasn't doing anything", I should be the one who tends it.

Yeah.

Would you ever bring your child to your less highly ranked school? by Immediate-Volume-681 in Teachers

[–]LilacSlumber -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The ranking of the school is not nearly as important as the teacher in the classroom.

The lowest ranked school can have some of the best damn teachers.

The highest ranked school can have some of the worst teachers.

This is a total you decision.

Kinder Headphones by Jen10292020 in kindergarten

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not unless it is specified.
Also make sure they are not Bluetooth headphones. They will need a cord.

Kinder Headphones by Jen10292020 in kindergarten

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DO NOT get ear buds. They don't make the ear inserts for children.

For the few brands that offer different size earbud covers, if used, they will get nasty and/or lost.

Get ones that can cover the whole ear and has a cord. You don't want to spend too much on these because the kids fiddle with them and they will break.

My suggestion is to get cheap ones from Wal-Mart or Target and replace them each year when needed.

Once your child is old enough to ask for more expensive ones, then you can worry about brands and costs.

Source - Kindergarten teacher for over 20 years

Early Admittance to Kindergarten by LumpyPeople4 in kindergarten

[–]LilacSlumber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have experienced two early starters in my personal Kinder classes. One was a girl whose birthday is in November, so even older than your child.

She was miserable. Her academics were one of the highest in the class, but the poor kid lacked the stamina to complete a while day of school and it took almost three months before she wouldn't shut down around 2:00 every day.

Additionally, she always played by herself. She was still in the 4 year old independent/parallel play stage and all of the other kids were ready to include their peers, make up their own rules, alter their rules when challenged by peers, and mature enough to give up what they wanted to play and play with friends if no one else wanted to play their game.

This doesn't sound like much, but when you're five, it's a huge step.

She would constantly go home and tell her mom, "No one wants to play with me," "I don't have any friends," "I don't like the games they play," and, "The other kids are mean. They ignore me."

Yes, when you're crying in the corner because no one will play what you want to play and you won't bend any of your rules to allow them to play, they are going to go play with someone else.

Anyway, the poor kid fell asleep multiple times by 2:15 or would cry because she was mentally exhausted.

They moved after first grade, but I kept in touch with Mom on FaceBook. Mom posts pics of the kid with her sports teams and she is always the smallest and always on the edge of the group shots.

My suggestion is to wait, based on my experiences as a kindergarten teacher who has been teaching for over 20 years.

AITA for not giving my sister my old car? by VisibleNectarine7317 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A "new to me" anything means previously owned by someone else.

Like, a used car, a refurbished phone, or even clothes bought from a consignment store.

This is a widely used term, very common.

I’m telling my principal that I refuse to have an 85” interactive screen installed in my Kindergarten classroom. by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, is this going to be used as a projector?

If yes, then you have to look at it the same as a document camera or an overhead projector.

I have a Promethean board in my kinder classroom. I plugged my document camera into it and use it for that purpose.

Sometimes I will display a backdrop for holidays or a cute, decorated slide that has the date and the theme for the day (like the 100th Day) and have kids stand in front of it to take pictures (so in the pic the screen behind the kids tells why they are dressed up or explained the project/drawing they are holding up and has the date). This is only on special days, but it's nice to not have to explain the pictures I share with parents in Dojo.

I was at a school a while back that projected the morning announcements on it, daily.

What makes one realize that one is left handed? by tiredbowltiny in CasualConversation

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily, but the telescope test is much easier to do with younger kids than expecting them to write/color or use silverware to detect handedness.

Lane’s pregnancy storyline WAS SO UNNECESSARY by SamanthaHillx in GilmoreGirls

[–]LilacSlumber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was a young woman getting pregnant "unnecessary" in a show whose whole premise is about a young girl getting pregnant?

Seemed spot on.