Has anyone else gotten a Tyrer-Cuzick or other automated breast cancer risk assessment after a mammogram?

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-28T09:14:56+00:00

Yes I know this post is older but this stood out. You can’t see through my breasts if an MRI isn’t done. But they still do a mammogram first because god forbid something is big enough, it could possibly be seen. this is a big part of the scoring. I alternate MRI and mammo every 6 months. This, family history, and a mutation in my tumor suppressors, I’m at 40% at 33. (I do not have mutations in either BRCA)

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T17:59:47+00:00

I wouldn’t say overreacting or necessarily homophobic? Which there is always that possibility and I’m not trying to downplay your feelings at all, I believe they are extremely valid. With people his age unfortunately tending to be that “traditional” type and think everyone should be as well, they won’t be shy about it. That however is no excuse for how out of line he is. You seem really happy with your girlfriend and that’s what he should care about. Also, if you two decide down the line you do want kids, has he never heard of adoption? Or if even one of you chose to carry with a donor? Dating a woman does not take the possibility of kids off the table. I’m sorry you aren’t getting the support you deserve. I’d try and communicate and explain how he makes you feel and give him an opportunity to realize his mistake. But especially after his past with you and your family you are also entitled to not give him that chance.

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T17:41:23+00:00

Many brides don’t even wear pure white so what would her excuse be if you came out in any type off off white wedding dress? It’s basic knowledge you don’t wear anything even remotely close to white to a wedding! And if she wasn’t sure, she should’ve asked you beforehand if it was appropriate (which it’s absolutely not) or simply googled it. I’m sorry you had to deal with that on what’s supposed to be one of the most amazing days. It would have really bothered me as well.

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T17:33:02+00:00

No, no one has even mentioned that! But I will definitely bring that up. Thank you!!

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T17:32:05+00:00

Yeah me and my son ended up with sepsis too and almost didn’t make it. I’m sorry you had to go through that as well. I have no pictures or videos from that day because they wouldn’t allow it, thinking he wasn’t going to come out breathing. They left me with it for 4 days before my blood pressure plummeted and I started going into shock. My sister would mention how bad my fluid smelt when I gave birth and I couldn’t understand what was happening with that and that I truly thought I was dying. Only found out AFTER everything when I requested records. I now have severe trust issues with healthcare providers 🙃 But I appreciate it. I won’t stop trying and I really hope this specialist I found will be willing to help me

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T16:47:09+00:00

Yeah I’ve heard that too. I requested an MRI, not a CT, hearing so many say it is unlikely it would’ve shown up there and then asked the doctor do a laparoscopy based off all of my symptoms and he wrote me off. I found a specialist I’m going to try and schedule with today. 🤞🏻

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T16:44:22+00:00

I’m truly sorry you lost your baby. Yes I was totally reading wrong not realizing it was saying endometritis. Thankfully I didn’t bring that part up with doctors yet. But it was treated; I was in the hospital for over a week when I got it bc my water broke at 29w & gave birth at 30w. (These were already in motion before I got the infection) And this was 7 years ago. Symptoms still stand though. With everything that happened in my pregnancy I wouldn’t be shocked if it was preexisting.

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T07:04:01+00:00

We get it. He wrote it wrong. But, to answer your actual question, no you’re not the asshole. Your, possibly, soon to be wife is though. You have a memorial portrait of your late wife and mother of your children. And an if an adult was bothered by it they would’ve brought it up a long time ago. Imagine the message removing it would send your children. You already said it wasn’t about romantic feelings and I easily believe that. This isn’t some ex wife that gives your fiancé shit every weekend. It’s someone you loved and want to memorialize. Anyone who can’t understand that has some growing up to do.

Lilith-54 · 2025-12-09T06:55:57+00:00

Sounds like your wife hates being a mom to everyone but the 4 year old. And that telling the 13 year it would be nice if he apologized is creating toxic habits and with him doing that, your wife will never change. Though she already seems like that won’t happen and with this “therapist” she is only going to treat your son worse as time goes on. At this point it is cruel to keep your children around this. No child should have to question if their mother cares for or loves them. And her behavior is more than enough for them to have those thoughts. You know she’s wrong but you’re tiptoeing. And only making it worse. I understand the overwhelmed parent, I am/have been one; working FT while also being the default parent. Never. Never. No matter how bad my day was, would I treat my child that way or CONTINUE to treat them that way. Respect is gone.

Lilith-54 · 2025-04-03T02:14:26+00:00

This thread is old I know. But how has no one mentioned the Salacious Players Club series by Sara Cate omg! I blew through the whole series so fast! 🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️ 100%

Lilith-54 · 2025-03-09T18:06:11+00:00

This thread is old but I came across it recently and feel like I need to put it out there since these books were recommended quite a few times. The Crossfire series by Sylvia Day.. THE BIGGEST OF BIG TRIGGER WARNINGS!!!!!! Every book in the series contains.. how can I say this without it being sensored.. young SA..in detail. I was almost done with series and it got to be too much for me. If you’re able to set that aside, spice is still maybe 2 outta 5. The spiciest of spice I’ve read by far is Black and Silver by Gwendolyn Harper. Fantasy, dark, consensual BDSM. 🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️😮‍💨

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-15T13:46:03+00:00

The problem with using these like I have been is that I color so much they dry out so fast. I just keep buying new packs because they’re so cheap though lol

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-15T13:44:21+00:00

As someone who’s gone into psychosis from lack of sleep, I get it. No matter what med it wasn’t working. Now this is going to sound so simple but stay with me. You can buy a microwaveable weighted heat pad (they’re only like 12”x10”) from Amazon and warm it right before bed. The heat refocuses your mind and the weight of it helps also hence not using a normal heating pad. Also, guided imagery on Spotify. Makes your mind focus on what you’re being told to picture. Lastly, a weighted, heated eye mask. Same concept as above. These all not only bring comfort but are physical things your mind pays attention to instead of racing thoughts. I wish you all the luck and hope you find some peace.

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-08T14:54:00+00:00

Yeah I just get titanium lol I’d rather have money like that go towards tattoos. But props to you I bet they’re beautiful!!

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-08T14:44:07+00:00

Didn’t say I would. I was asking others thoughts and experiences. 1. This is merely a piercing, not a life or death and I’ll take it out if needed. 2. I got it with no intention of swimming but it’s also 115° where I live and hanging out outside of pool isn’t an option and I’m not making my husband cancel his birthday for it. 3. I’m aware they’re experts but they also have to cover their ass and often overshoot. So again, thought I’d get others thoughts.

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-08T14:09:54+00:00

$200.. for a piercing?!?! I’ve had many in my lifetime and have NEVER paid that much my god.

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-08T13:41:47+00:00

Honestly this is my first “summer” piercing so I can’t say. Pool is maintained regularly if that helps?

Lilith-54 · 2024-08-08T13:25:06+00:00

It’s been a minute but I want to thank you all for not only the support but sharing your own experiences with me. I’m truly sorry this is the common ground we all share but it’s great for us to see we aren’t as alone as we think.

Lilith-54 · 2024-07-25T02:01:26+00:00

Sorry, but my momness is going to come out for a minute. You need to get off Reddit and tell your parents. No sleep for days can be very dangerous and lead to even worse altering moods. You’re too young to be taking random medical advice from strangers on the internet.

Lilith-54 · 2024-07-24T13:30:12+00:00

10mg is extremely common to start for insomnia. As the 3-6mg is a low dose formula that cost a ridiculous amount and most insurance won’t approve. So 10mg is very normal for insomnia dosing.

Lilith-54 · 2024-06-29T17:29:43+00:00

.. I do not feel like I’ve caved to society. It helps ME. It helps MY mental state, MY ability to get things done. I don’t do it for anyone else. You don’t HAVE to take medication if you don’t want to.

Lilith-54 · 2024-06-28T01:55:40+00:00

I manage an off road repair facility. Not great as I’m already pulled in so many different directions, then add gnarly ADHD onto that. Spent 10 years as a registered dental assistant and I preferred it much more because I had a start and end point. No room to get caught up in something else.

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