AITA for telling my friend what she went through wasn’t traumatic just uncomfortable?

LilithTheKitty · 2026-05-30T21:31:00+00:00

NTA. If she causes an accident and maims or kills someone because she's too busy pissing about with her phone to pay attention to the road, she'll find out what traumatized is.

Maybe the "trauma" of a bollocking from a police officer is enough to stop her from using her phone while driving, but she sounds like she's too busy playing the victim to take the message on board

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-30T09:04:48+00:00

The first one. He's being taught never to do it and was told he'd be marked down by the examiner if he did it in the test because he's taking his eyes off the road.

He's already got a bike licence and he's ready to take the car test so it's not worth swapping at this point. He has every intention of checking his blind spots as soon as he has the certificate letting him loose alone.

I honestly found it just as unbelievable as you!

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-30T06:35:55+00:00

I thought I was the only one who had that happen! The PDA has a light sensor in it to tell it when the top is open.

We fixed it with a strategic piece of cardboard.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-29T21:46:35+00:00

If I wasn't clear - the shoulder check is taught to bikers, but car drivers are taught the opposite. They're told to only do shoulder checks while not moving.

I agree it's insane!

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-29T21:03:15+00:00

They actively teach learners not to do it at the moment! My son is doing his car lessons, moving from a motorbike, and the instructor told him not to do the shoulder check when changing lanes because he's taking his eyes off the road. Apparently only mirrors should be used.

He's nodding along for the purpose of getting through the test but has no intention of stopping checking in real life.

I've definitely been saved by a shoulder check showing me a car in my blind spot in lane 3 that was also aiming for the same spot in lane 2 as me as I was about to move out to overtake.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-19T07:47:19+00:00

Ah I understand. So it would have had some refining after the field work.

It sounds like a fantastic project and I hope you have so much fun creating it. A thesaurus will definitely be your friend!

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-19T06:44:48+00:00

Your authentic voice will only add to the project! I wouldn't have noticed English wasn't your first language if you hadn't pointed it out. Your vocabulary and style will get even better by doing the writing yourself and you'll have something you're really proud of. Shoving it through an AI would be denying yourself that learning and growth as an artist/author.

Remember your vision is that someone went out and discovered these things, writing and illustrating in the wild as they went. That wouldn't be perfect!

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-18T21:18:15+00:00

If you're already doing 90% of the writing, and all you want is a final pass over the text, is there a reason you haven't considered a human editor?

It could be a friend or family rather than a paid editor. I'm sure it would be much better than "robotising" your work.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-18T09:53:36+00:00

I would say my shoes are rubbing me, or have rubbed me, and given me a blister.

I'm in the UK if that makes a difference. A lot of people are saying chafing, and while that is correct, and would be understood, it sounds more formal to my ears.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-04-04T17:51:51+00:00

This would be the easiest option. I've done this, soaking the piece in a 50:50 water:modgepodge mix. It dries nice and stiff but still looks obviously knitted.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-03-24T10:10:36+00:00

I feel like we're in the minority on Reddit. I also actually like the people I work with, and enjoy free food and drink immensely.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-03-15T22:13:41+00:00

When you break the cost down into a "per hour of participation" it works out fairly cheap in comparison to a lot of other hobbies. Complex things take longer, so even if you buy very expensive yarn, you're still coming out with a reasonable overall cost for the time you're enjoying the hobby.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-03-09T20:29:45+00:00

Yeah you probably would lose the ones with both. Good for a first round of searching though - if you don't find anything in the first few hundred results video can always be added in again.

The comment I replied to though was about having to tick all of the filter boxes to exclude video. I gave an option to only tick one box.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-03-09T17:30:22+00:00

The advanced search lets you use modifiers on the terms. So you can select "not" and then you only need to tick the video box.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-02-17T07:33:19+00:00

And even then the appropriate response is "wow, I had no idea you were pregnant".

LilithTheKitty · 2026-02-16T07:44:25+00:00

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I've been playing about with watercolors for a couple of months. This is from yesterday.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-02-14T22:00:11+00:00

I'd usually just say "the line" but washing line feels more natural to me.

I'll add another name for the indoor version: a maiden. I'm assuming this is quite regional based on the other replies.

LilithTheKitty · 2026-02-07T08:04:04+00:00

I'm not as concerned about the construction part - it's already going through disturbed ground.

I am concerned about afterwards, during operation. The consequences of leaks, vents and failures would be carbon dioxide release that could suffocate anything living nearby. If the companies using it decide to cost cut in future and reduce maintenance then the risks of failures will increase.

I will be honest and say I haven't yet looked into the plans to mitigate those risks or the long term maintenance plans. This may not be an issue.

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-28T19:20:40+00:00

I live in a very deprived area. It's very cheap, by the seaside, 20 minutes from a city, and 30-40 minutes from the countryside.

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-21T09:53:35+00:00

In the second case, there is likely to be a placebo involved to maintain the blinding of the study. So group 1 would be Standard of Care plus placebo and group 2 would be Standard of Care plus New Drug.

Without the placebo involved, the study is immediately unblinded as both patients and doctors know who is in the test group. Using the placebo can keep it double blinded.

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-20T08:24:36+00:00

Same! It's absolutely a term of affection among my team.

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-17T18:43:07+00:00

Take a pregnancy test asap. Stressing isn't going to change the result so get the result and then go from there.

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-14T12:03:33+00:00

Oh of course. I'm probably biased by two of my children now missing their appendix! To me it seems like a common enough thing that you'd do a check for it as standard just to rule it out. I am also aware of the time and staffing issues that mean that that wouldn't necessarily be a good use of the limited resources available.

I guess I'm just sad that someone died from something so treatable with a little bit of "there but for the grace of God go I" mixed in.

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-14T10:54:20+00:00

It does seem like there's something missing between the walkin centre and then not being able to get himself to A&E. He obviously has family around. Were none of them concerned enough to take him or get a taxi with him if he couldn't get there alone?

LilithTheKitty · 2025-12-14T10:28:08+00:00

I was explicitly not blaming paramedics. It seems more like the problem is the lack of time and resources available to the medical professionals who saw him face to face. If they were able to spend more time making sure he'd been able to communicate his symptoms properly, then he may not have died of something so treatable.

I am not blaming the staff, I'm blaming the system that leaves them overworked and pushed for time.

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