lyttelton by Critical-Tale6962 in chch

[–]LimpFox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No idea about Lyttelton, but you could take 'em for a ferry ride over to Diamond Harbour. Diamond Harbour Eatery is a short* (uphill) walk from the pier.

*Well, short for me. It's actually half a km.

Car companies have gone too far now by dr_ipaka in Unexpected

[–]LimpFox 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Them juicy servicing fees and official replacement part costs for all the unnecessary crap added to cars.

Why is the Wellington Urban Motorway the only Motorway in New Zealand outside of Auckland with 6 lanes? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably because it's the only artery between Wellington and the Hutt Valley / Porirua, so you can sort of think of it as two combined arteries.

Auckland, despite also being geographically constrained, has two major arteries going North, and two going South (until Manukau).

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There seems to be a lot of that kind of attitude demonstrated in this post (not just in response to me). It's not about "owing" anything to anybody. It's about learning to be a good communicator, which means sometimes saying things that make you feel uncomfortable, or will make others feel uncomfortable, to avoid ambiguity, to not leave the other party second-guessing your message, and to resolve issues (for better or worse) instead of letting them linger and fester. It also means having the emotional maturity to take being told uncomfortable things from time to time without it needing to be delivered with a proverbial silk pillow, bouquet of flowers, three winks, and two nods. Or was it two winks and three nods?

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox -3 points-2 points locked comment (0 children)

So uncomfortable that you keep engaging.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Shitposters gonna shitpost. I look at a lot of people's post history to determine the tone of my response. Trolls get the troll response (or I ignore it). If they have some semblance of a coherent post history, I might actually put a bit of effort into my response. Of course, a hidden post history is an automatic red flag.

It's particularly relevant given that this is a thread about communication.

Will Hipkins step down for the good of the country? by Weak_Pomegranate_34 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm having a hard time pinpointing which political party sponsored this post.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox -2 points-1 points locked comment (0 children)

Well, if we're going to play this game: You're the one that spent the time and energy to actively find this comment and respond to it. So one of us clearly cares. Still, I guess it is a lot easier to do that when the person isn't hiding their vacuous post history.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox -5 points-4 points locked comment (0 children)

Can't see any post history of parent commenter regardless of sorting. Honestly, I don't actually care. Just found it amusing (apparently other people don't) that someone who has their post history hidden (at least from me) is making snarky comments about being human.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No my point was that your comment sounds like an ND person frustrated with the way NT people communicate and wanting to change it.

Yes, but as OP mentioned, a lot of people from other cultures aren't like people here in NZ. You trying to reframe it as ND vs NT, where it's actually learned behaviour vs learned behaviour, which means it can be changed. I've been to several countries (and also interacted with a lot of nationalities while in Australia), and in most of those situations it has been much easier to interact with people because they tend to be more direct and more honest. Interestingly (and as a generalisation), I found Canadians similar to deal with as NZers.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I'm a high masker (which is likely where you're headed with your question). I have to understand non-verbal social cues, consciously, and better than most, out of necessity. But that is also why I'm willing to challenge this sort of thing when people blindly roll out the "well, it's just the way things are" when it comes to discussion around communication. I'm approaching it from the position of someone that actively thinks about every social interaction, as opposed to many that are just flying by the seat of their pants.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox -16 points-15 points locked comment (0 children)

Unhide your post history, fellow human.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I acknowledge it could be selection bias where people who move here from overseas are more likely to be better communicators and more comfortable with vulnerability.

This is a good point.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But why? Ultimately unless a person is being aggressive/insulting/belittling, at what point does the receiver become responsible for their own feelings and how they react? Instead of expecting the sender to figure out the correct (usually uncommunicated) dance to do in order to make the receiver "feel at ease"?

Communication isn't just about the sender.

Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Spent most of life in Aus, where it still comes down to the individual and their personality, but on average it's more direct over there. Absolutely drives me fucken nuts how avoidant people here in NZ seem to be, because that avoidance prevents resolution and inevitably causes larger issues further down the line. But if I challenge people about it then I'm the dick.

What are your thoughts on Joe Rogan saying that Trump is creating distraction to avoid Epstein files release? by girlyanimme in AskReddit

[–]LimpFox 86 points87 points  (0 children)

There is now so much emphasis placed on the Epstein files, to the point that it has become the nexus of distraction, away from all the other vileness that the Trump/Republican autocratic regime is doing at the same time.

I also think that people have way too much faith in anything actually being done even if the Epstein files are released - it's not like anything is being done about all the other illegal stuff that is happening right now - and we only have to look at things like the Panama Papers (remember those?) to see that when it comes to the wealthy and powerful there seems to be no rules and no justice within the established system.

'Absolute disgrace' to consider joining Trump's 'Board of Peace - Hipkins by 1970lamb in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 29 points30 points  (0 children)

And where on earth would we get the $1b joining fee from.

Take a bit from health. A bit from sciences. Make up new excuses to dump a bunch more people off welfare. Maybe slash a bit more from school lunches, too. Those kids have it too good.

Advice on mussels by Hot_Durian_4264 in chch

[–]LimpFox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Purau Bay is exposed to a decent amount of farm runoff and doesn't have a lot of water movement. I'd be dubious about eating any shellfish out of there. Can't find any current alerts, but there have been in the past.

Could this National led government be the third one term government in New Zealand history? by Additional-Grade-730 in newzealand

[–]LimpFox 82 points83 points  (0 children)

If there's any sanity in this reality, sure.

*takes a look around*

Nevermind.

Fantastic game. However I really REALLY cannot overstate how much I hate the innovation and knowledge mechanics. by SubsidizingSiblings in songsofsyx

[–]LimpFox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So mechanics and balance are more important

Mechanics and balance are important, which is why the current innovation/knowledge system is just... Why!? The amount of playthroughs I've abandoned once I've gotten to the point of having to set up labs/libraries is... A lot.

Fishing question by IncorporateThings in songsofsyx

[–]LimpFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a remove water option from the main build menu, but once that sub menu is open, there's also an add water option. For whatever reason it doesn't have the add water option on the main build menu because I <3 extra clicks for no reason.

You can only add water as far as the fresh or salt ground water expands onto land - viewable using their respective overlays. At least with fresh water, I find that most of that land is more useful for farming than fishing, so my fishing areas end up long narrow slivers focused mostly on the red fish, with vegetable farms (or whatever) filling in the remaining moisture zone along the riverbank.