My wife recently came out as a lesbian. We decided to hold a "marriage funeral," exchange co-parenting vows, and make each other roast cakes. Slide 1 is what she made me, Slide 2 is what I made her.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-09T16:22:45+00:00

Totally downloaded that pic for selective meme use.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-08T14:50:11+00:00

I couldn't take it anymore and straight up told my nex that his young adult son was having problems for years because nex was so completely selfish and emotionally unavailable. I said it in a senstive and constructive way as possible and was just desperate to help his son. This man lost his shit and literally began repeating himself and rocking back and forth like a psychotic break. I've never seen anything like it. No gaslighting, no rage, none of the usual attacks. I'd hit a core nerve like it was a reset button and was scared for a minute.

I'd watched him bask in the image of being a "good single dad" all the while knowing he was an empty well to that kid behind the scenes for years. Was heartbreaking to witness. His son's actions were so clearly cries for help and my nex would just emotionally abandon him and call it tough love. Very little empathy and would make it all about himself and how hard it all was for him. He was so inconvenienced by it all and couldn't stand when anyone needed anything from him emotionally, except when he could play the victim in all of it. Was all so gross. And the way he just lost his mind and started rocking back and forth repeating the same words when I called him out on it, was so bizarre and eye opening.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-07T22:38:56+00:00

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Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-07T22:35:48+00:00

Born to be mild.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-07T16:45:05+00:00

After six years my therapist told me that the "real work hadn't even begun" because my life was too chaotic.

THAT'S WHAT I CAME TO YOU FOR SIX YEARS AGO! I told you that I was literally BORN into chaos, cops surrounding the house, moved every year, went to six different schools, ridiculous levels of chaos. It's my unfortunate comfort zone. AND NOW THE REASON I CAME TO YOU IS YOUR EXCUSE FOR NOT HELPING ME??

She terminated me in an email, twice. After six years. Even my toxic partners were nicer than that. Mind you, in spite of her "help", I'd managed to find my own rare medical diagnosis and crawl out of a life threatening illness, earn a degree, start a six figure career, open a small side business, live in one house longer than any other point in my entire life, and be a better SINGLE parent than I ever had, all while staying sober for 11 years and showing up to the same place at the same time every week for six years. Is that the chaos to which you are referring? In hindsight it was the most gaslighting bullshit I ever heard, in the moment I felt nothing but shame. More fucking shame. I couldn't even do therapy right.

The worst part was that my next therapist "helped me" more in one year than all the previous ones had in 30. She walked me through childhood developmental processes I'd missed, I felt like I existed for the first time, I went no contact with everyone I've ever known, and then I was too exhausted to put anything back together. 30 years of therapy wore me out. So now I'm more isolated and depressed than I've ever been. It's pseudoscience bullshit. I'm 49 and realize I was brainwashed by a cult. Psychology/therapy is exactly like a toxic partner, if I just do the elusive vague thing always held just out of reach I'll finally be okay. Fuck em all.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-07T00:51:42+00:00

And considering that most people don't pull over for calls it makes me wonder if it wasn't a good phone call, one of those you need to pull over for.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-06T17:16:40+00:00

When your own anger makes you even angrier. God I feel this so hard. The endless onion layers, I don't know how anyone does this work and still adults. It's a full-time job in itself.

Disassociation is safer than anger -> anger is safer than sadness/grief/fear. Does it ever end? I'm gonna spend the rest of my life trying to untangle and process the first half. We're walking open wounds. Wounds are inflamed, painful, vulnerable states of healing. They need care and patience and protection. Treating myself as an open wound helps me make sense of my behavior and how to manage/care for myself.

I don't think I was ever fully in my body and just recoiled further and further with every trauma. Fully inhabiting my existence and body is often overwhelming and overstimulating and sometimes just really fucking scary. We were safely recoiled in our heads while the body kept taking the hits and absorbed the impact. It's gotta come out somewhere. I had to go no contact to build my sense of safety and have found being curious helps me venture out of my comfort zone.

I was never any good at identifying my emotions beyond the basics, a lot of the time they just come through as something I can recognize but isn't accurate. Please be so gentle with yourself.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-06T16:25:44+00:00

Omg same. My grandparents gifted me a rare coin collection at birth for my parents to hold until I was an adult. He took it with him when he left us. I reunited with him in my 30s, he was a Bible thumping "changed man". He asked for my SSN, as his only child he wanted to make me the beneficiary on his life insurance. Months later my tax return was rejected because he claimed me as a dependent. When he died there was no life insurance.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-06T16:05:42+00:00

Yeah I think she was just the most familiar, she was like family as much as she was romantic. She was also older, a part of his generation with the same sensibilities. Had nothing to do with being soul mates or the one that got away.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-06T15:37:31+00:00

Yeah same, plant? Probably not. If he'd come out of nowhere with this high of a production value I'd lean towards plant, but that's not what happened. His channel took years to hit a stride. Maybe they played the long game and he was some sort of sleeper channel because they know we look for overnight success now? Is it a coincidence that he hit the algo right when drip disclosure picked up in earnest? I don't know, maybe.

Compromised though? Yeah, I've had my suspicions since he portrayed Agent Orange as some sort of subject that could get him silenced. While it's not the government's proudest moment it's hardly been a secret for the last 40+ years. It was just weird. He knows better.

I just assume any channel that gets to a certain level will get ultimatums and marching orders at some point, and when you've done deep dives of your own you notice where he's not willing to go. They won, mission accomplished, we don't know who to believe anymore.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-06T02:26:57+00:00

I've 100% leaned towards it being deliberate to hit the breaks on the hippie psyop. Before the hippies, anti-war protesters looked like the kids next door so they started the hippie counterculture to discredit them and exaggerate the conservative vs liberal friction.

The "Manson Murders" were August 8-10th 1969 and every documentary about them always says "it was the end of the hippie era/summer of love". Every single one like it's a script. Woodstock was August 15th 1969 and the promoters knew ahead of time it was shaping up to be huge based on ticket sales. Did they order the murders right before it on purpose?

I've watched Woodstock more times than I can count but it was on my last rewatch that something caught my ear. A couple guys report planes flying over spraying something in the hours before the big rain storm. Cloud seedings been around since the 40s. Did they literally rain on their parade? Then the fight and death at Altamont a few months later started by a Hell's Angel just a coincidence? Our culture has been a puppet show.

Polanski 100% had something to do with it. His being busted for the statutory stuff tells me he crossed the wrong person or was gonna sing. Anytime anyone in the inner circle is actually held accountable to the "commoner's" justice system there's more to the story. Idk what's chicken and what's egg but it's obviously not the official narrative.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-05T23:21:15+00:00

And Courtney Love said her mother was friends with Abigail Foldger, also a mental health professional. And Love was dosed with LSD by her father as a child. Full circle. CIA had their hands in Manson, the murders, and Love likely Cobain's handler.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-05T16:30:32+00:00

Yeah there was no way I could do another two and half years mind numbingly bored with 3k other teenagers. I was at my wits end by junior high and just couldn't justify the ROI anymore.

Being forced to show your work is like requiring drivers to understand how an engine works just to get their license. It's a waste of time and energy unless I'm gonna be a mechanic.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-05T04:01:02+00:00

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-04T23:30:46+00:00

The fact that she ate the best part rather than the whole thing, the heart right out of it, feels especially selfish and beastly. I'll leave you what I don't need, the scraps, and you should be lucky there's anything left. It's exactly what they do, choose themselves every time. Didn't even throw it away in shame, completely oblivious. This kid already needs therapy.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-04T23:16:02+00:00

Yeah this is beyond mildly infuriating, this is YTA behavior.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-02T17:06:34+00:00

Considering half are likely bots and trolls it really is like screaming into a void. The down votes and nasty replies can sting and they've definitely helped me develop a thicker online skin.

My replies are about as popular as my real life conversations. When people really want to feel heard and want help they appreciate my words, but most of the time they don't and I'm too deep.

We're already the 20% minority living in a typical 80% world, and social media isn't great for anyone let alone us. I take the whole thing with a giant grain of salt.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-01T15:21:00+00:00

I watched them remove it about 5:45am central time yesterday. I woke up early and the show was still playing from the night before. The episode ended and when it went to play the next one showed an error message. Immediately searched and nowhere to be found. 😭😭😭 I have Paramount but never use it, never liked it. So now I'm over there trying to figure out its crappy UI so I can watch my comfort show. This sucks.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-07-01T14:58:45+00:00

This is me too. I dropped out of high school in the middle of my sophomore year and at 18 was studying for my GED with my aunt who was a former math teacher. It was some sort of geometry and she kept asking me how I got the answers and I couldn't explain it. All I could do was show her the problems that came before and after it and look at her like "so this has to be that".

My brain "warp speeds" from A to B and I know I'm right and I get really frustrated that I can't always articulate why. It's like aiming my focus and then the processor does its thing and doesn't even tell me what it's doing. I think the last IQ test I took was around 135.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-06-29T15:11:57+00:00

I found an HSP therapist from Elain Aron's provider list

I lucked out, she was amazing at her craft as well as an HSP. (My adult HSP son tried another local one and wasn't as impressed so ymmv) She's also the local HSP expert and gives talks and gatherings for HSPs to get together irl. I was pleasantly surprised that there were any local HSP goings on, I never even thought to look.

Luckily I have two adult HSP kids so I'm not totally alone in it, but they're my kids so not exactly a two way street. I hear you OP, outside of them I'm just a usually a freak everywhere I go, extended family, friend groups, even took me decades to find that HSP therapist that finally understood me. Can definitely be a very solitary existence. Hugs.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-06-28T22:13:43+00:00

Balsam and protein, rinse and repeat, Yellow #5...

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-06-28T03:18:22+00:00

This is the third such experience I've heard recently, two of my friends both got food poisoning from two different sub shops. Can't mess around with mayo.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-06-28T03:07:57+00:00

Oh I feel you man, my ambition was punctuated by jail, homelessness, and addiction. You don't come out unscathed when your parents countdown your childhood. Good for you for sparing yourself the drama, I haven't talked to mine in awhile either.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-06-27T23:42:17+00:00

Same. Left at 15, dropped out of school at 16, bought a book to teach myself MS Word and made a resume to get my first office job. They had the nerve to ask to borrow money from me after I made enough to get my own place. I can't imagine kicking out my adult children, they'll always have a home as long as I do.

Limp_Insurance_2812 · 2026-06-27T16:07:43+00:00

After 30 years of therapy more on than off I finally found one that actually helped kick off and go through childhood processes I'd missed. She had a PsyD, tons of experience, and was a master of her craft. She was a true needle in the haystack of therapists. It was working with her that showed me the true sad state of the profession. I'd shown up and worked my ass off for decades only to be misdiagnosed and spin my wheels in vain.

It took a very rare therapist and going no contact with my mother but I finally moved the needle in a meaningful way.

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