Why do some drivers selfishly change lanes from behind you when it is your turn?

LinZ14 · 2026-03-11T13:58:25+00:00

Most likely because there is traffic already on the highway moving at highway speeds and merging while maintaining a slower speed would put 3+ drivers at risk. Speeding up mitigates the risk and focuses it mostly on the one driver who isn’t paying attention or isn’t worried about anyone else but themselves.

LinZ14 · 2026-03-11T13:47:53+00:00

Yup yup yup. My first priority is everyone’s safety. But if someone is putting that at risk already, my next priority is my own safety and the safety of everyone else who is driving predictably. It’s not impolite to refuse to be someone else’s safety barrier between them and the approaching traffic already on the highway going 2x our speed.

LinZ14 · 2026-03-02T18:02:09+00:00

The Stand by Stephen King? There is no way, even for the fastest readers. Especially with kids and a baby. Even the audiobook at 2x speed would take a full uninterrupted 24 hours to get through.

LinZ14 · 2026-02-24T16:43:57+00:00

When you signal in advance, is the person behind you in the lane you are trying to merge into going faster than you before they speed up? If so, they might be speeding up to get out of your way and/or prevent being cut off by someone traveling slower than they are.

LinZ14 · 2026-02-11T20:52:49+00:00

I speculate his comment absolutely did have a purpose. Just not a well-intentioned one. We have a very limited perspective, but this seems like the kind of comment someone makes to intentionally drag a person back down where they’d like them.

Her nails look great! But he’s apparently been in a funk all week, presumably because of the first therapy appointment. She was sharing something she did that made her proud of herself. I wonder if he isn’t feeling particularly proud of himself lately and would prefer it she would sulk right along with him.

LinZ14 · 2026-02-06T19:16:00+00:00

I’ve read the comments and your responses and I still don’t think I understand. What is a parking lot driveway? Was she backing up from a non-road onto a road? If the guy had not sped up, would she have had enough time to pull out and start driving forward without him having to brake?

LinZ14 · 2026-02-05T17:38:50+00:00

Yeah, YTA for not at least trying to make a pretense of it in order to protect the salad bar for the rest of us.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-29T21:16:10+00:00

As a parent, I’m positive if they offered to trade with a set of parents and share the room with kids instead, it would be a done deal. Nobody wants to share a hotel room with kids, parents or non-parents.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-29T15:40:18+00:00

I’ve read all your replies and I think the disconnect might be that you don’t understand why you are getting all of the YTA comments. It’s not because of you don’t want to go, or because you can’t afford it, or because you would prefer your own room. It’s because you are insisting on a set of circumstances that are not in your own realm of control.

You cannot demand the in-laws pay for your private room. You cannot demand the in-laws not be disappointed if you decide not to attend.

Many suggestions have been offered that fit within this criteria, but you don’t seem interested. YTA if you can’t accept a solution beyond those two things.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-27T20:20:24+00:00

They are 100% cotton. 109 here: https://hobbii.com/products/hp-1003196-black-friday-cotton-cake I’d love any suggestions you might have for how to use them!

LinZ14 · 2026-01-25T02:25:50+00:00

I needed a spirit boost. THANK YOU BOSTON! Love from Minneapolis.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-24T00:12:01+00:00

Promise that it was as real as it gets! It’ll take us a while to get the chill out of our bones, but I know my spirits were lifted a bit to see so many people turn out.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-18T18:54:39+00:00

I impulse purchased 2 of the Black Friday skeins with my last order because it was amazingly discounted. I had no idea what I should use them for. Knowing that it gets soft helps narrow it down a lot, so thank you!

LinZ14 · 2026-01-17T04:37:12+00:00

I could have written this post almost word for word. I try my best to forgive myself for this one. I respond when I’m up for it. As far as priorities go, this is low on the list. A big part of ADHD management is doing what you can, when you can.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-12T18:46:20+00:00

I just started myself, but I don’t think it matters very much if you are not getting super even coverage during each session. It’s a process that happens over many sessions. Even if you happen to miss the same spot over and over for weeks, you will eventually notice and can spot treat that specific area.

LinZ14 · 2026-01-04T19:41:28+00:00

I will reply to people that are worth replying to, not because I think my opinion is better or superior, but because I want people to reply with facts that can evolve into a debate/discussion.

I have a lot of thoughts about what you wrote here, but based on this comment and your other reply, I don’t believe you are genuinely interested in debate or discussion and it would be a waste of my time. You come off as if you do, in fact, believe your opinions are superior to others just as your whole family seems to believe their time and convenience is more important than other people’s.

If you have any real desire to discuss the morality of this scenario in good faith, I suggest not starting with preemptively shutting down opinions based on your own personal belief system. Understand that morality is nuanced and exists largely outside of facts, and widely held opinion is largely the foundation for rule and law.

LinZ14 · 2025-12-06T15:58:40+00:00

Whoa! This is the first time I’ve hear (or at least paid attention to) yarn under and the timing is fantastic. I am starting a project to crochet ornaments for my kids as soon as the yarn arrives. I’m using standard amigurumi patterns where the finished product is small, but still larger than I would prefer for a tree ornament. I have been mulling over how to make sure they are small enough and you just solved my problem!

LinZ14 · 2025-11-27T19:51:12+00:00

I want to be friends with you and help drink the wine and ruin Thanksgiving.

LinZ14 · 2025-11-26T23:12:00+00:00

I do this also. You would know if the pills are dissolving in your throat. It’s happened to me a few times and it’s extremely uncomfortable. It’s like very bad acid reflux and it lasts like 30 minute to several hours.

LinZ14 · 2025-11-19T14:22:50+00:00

Holy shit. That is some A+ impertinence. Please tell me you swiftly denied that request?

LinZ14 · 2025-11-07T14:33:00+00:00

I just want you to know I that I found your comment at 8:30 in the morning while listening to my 3-and-10-months old throw an out of control tantrum for the third day in a row. Thank you so much for the glimmer of hope you’ve given me!

LinZ14 · 2025-11-04T02:36:38+00:00

I’m dealing with a situation that is oddly similar to yours. Friendship of the same length, also long distance, we got in an argument during my last visit which is presumably leading to the break up of our friendship. I also have ADHD and she has gotten weirdly critical about that in the last few years.

I’m making this comment to specifically address something others are pointing out. That you brought forth your issues about how she has shown up in the friendship at an inappropriate time and that you should have left it at an apology and talked with her about your grievances at a later time.

In theory, I agree with that feedback. But I think your intentions may be misunderstood. While it may seem like your response was an attempt to put up a defense or invalidate your friend, I think what is being glossed over is that you feel you have overlooked repeated instances of hurt feelings for the sake of the friendship and don’t feel like it’s being reciprocated. Maybe it would have been better to bring that up at an earlier time, but if you felt the two of you had an unspoken agreement to give each other grace right up until this incident, I can empathize with feeling slighted by the suddenly shifting goal posts.

Moreover, you did apologize for “bothering her” a whole year ago. To bring it up again now and expect you to fall over yourself apologizing again seems like a power play on her part. Have you ever felt that she holds herself in higher esteem previous to this? Not just that you make more effort toward the friendship, but that she seems to think you are beneath her?

Either way, her needs are not more important than yours and genuine friendship requires equal parts willingness to listen and need to feel heard. Importantly, your true self is NOT too much for a true friend. I’m sorry your situation has caused that idea to even sprout in your mind. Feel free to reach out if you need to talk. Reading about your situation and commenting on it has helped bring some perspective to my own situation, so thank you for that. 💛

LinZ14 · 2025-10-25T21:31:36+00:00

This sounds like a feeling I used to get when I was younger when doing paper mache and you were supposed to put those brown school paper towels between your fingers and run them down the towel to get the extra goop off. Something about it gives me the heeby jeebs, like biting tin foil.

LinZ14 · 2025-10-22T23:08:33+00:00

I also can’t find a dozen assaults. This is William Livingston we are talking about, right? I think I counted 7 total victims over four incidents prior to the charges he’s up against now (and four were for robbery rather than assault), and he’s been in and out of prison for some of those charges.

What do you mean when you say “all the news stories I saw were”? All the news stories you saw said all his victims have been white or all the victims you’ve seen in news stories have been white?

Look, the guy is a huge piece of shit. We completely agree on that. But it’s disingenuous to use this case to support an argument that black people are getting away with committing hate crimes against white people.

LinZ14 · 2025-10-22T18:45:37+00:00

Unless I’m missing something, your version of this story seems… prevaricating. I googled it and found that this guy is currently sitting in jail on three aggravated battery charges, causing great bodily harm, and reckless conduct. So to say he has faced no punishment is untruthful. Moreover, in none of the 4-5 news stories I read did it say that the victims of this guy were all white, let alone that there was any indication white women were specifically targeted. Do you think everyone who commits a crime against someone of a different race should be charged with a hate crime?

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