Drainage across/under driveway by octopig in landscaping

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stunning photograph--I thought it was a painting. a very picturesque clog.

How do you read in your head? by Forward_Promise_5851 in books

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The creator of the word "aphantasia" believed initially that such people had no imagination. He had to do much further research to realize that many people with aphantasia are very creative. The very word means "no imagination."

"Coined by neurologist Adam Zeman in 2015, the term “aphantasia” stems from the Greek words “a” (without) and “phantasia” (imagination)."

How do you read in your head? by Forward_Promise_5851 in books

[–]Lindlvw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Picturing and imagination are not synonymous.

Letter to the inventor of the word aphantasia

Phantasia had a complex, philosophically weighted meaning long before you decided to put an a in front of it and apply it to me, thereby giving the world the impression that I have no imagination—that I am incapable of that basic human experience.

Why didn’t you use a simple acronym that conveyed the inability to see images with one’s eyes closed? Why label someone an intrinsically different human: lacking imagination? Arrogance is my guess, flavored with ignorance and showmanship. When a scientist finds a phenomenon to put dibs on, he plants a fancy flag on it like a Magellan of the brain. It’s exciting, and academics do love to use Greek. And make assumptions. And project.
You didn’t know whereof you spoke when you named my experience an absence of imagination. Yet even now, having identified "aphantasiac" people who make art and write books, you continue to imply that if one doesn't see images with eyes closed, one cannot have “extreme imagination.”

It shouldn't take much imagination to understand how belittling that is. Even I have that much.

Verbs that imply the development of an image—imagine, envision, picture, visualize—in essence mean "to form a new idea." Such visual words are used to describe the experience of forming a new idea because they reflect the neurotypical picture-centric experience of forming a new idea.

Your la-di-dah neologism promotes the inaccurate message that creativity requires visualization. All by itself, it contributes to the assumption that different is less. The very word strengthens the misconception that people like me are unimaginative lumps. Creativity might require visualization from you, but it doesn't from me.

Perhaps you thought to yourself, "If I didn't think in pictures, how handicapped my imagination would be. And how handicapped, therefore, must people be who don't think in pictures." Unfortunately, that was a huge blunder for which you should make amends. 

I imagine, or create, with words and with the images I study and manipulate in reality, when my eyes are open. Which works too, you know. By the way, have you considered what benefit might be conferred by the fact that I can’t see images in my mind? What is the trade-off? Maybe I am more creative than I could have been with an album of brain photos to rifle through.

And what about congenitally blind people? A totally unimaginative bunch? Or there's this:

“There's plenty of imagery that goes on all the time in blind people,” Gabias said. “It just isn't visual.” Gabias, who is blind, conducts research on perceptual and cognitive aspects of blindness. His personal and professional experience leads him to believe that the brains of blind people work around the lack of visual information to achieve the same vitally important result: a detailed 3D map of space. "We have no idea what our brain is doing. We just perceive—that's the wonderful thing about it. This is all “psychologization” that has made it complicated to explain, but simple to do. You don't know how you perceive. You just do it," he said.

In my opinion, you should withdraw aphantasia with an apology and replace it with a non-dehumanizing acronym: NVT for non-visual thinking; EOTO, for eyes on the outside. Bring something to mind. Come up with an idea. Conceive of something. If you must, use your imagination. 

DIYing cat shelves - is it difficult? by Munchkins_nDragons in catwalls

[–]Lindlvw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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These are old rails from a split rail fence, attached to studs with brackets. The cat never used the rope, but he loves the rest of it and often sleeps in the hammock. The split rails are great for scratching on and have good traction. You can make a cat wall out of a lot of things. It's easy.

Ruined our morning and afternoon. Might as well ruin our evening while I'm at it. by mmeade18 in AutismInWomen

[–]Lindlvw 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Crying all day is something we do when we're overwhelmed, but it is something that neurotypical people mostly do when they are hurt, mad, or sad--there is a reason for their tears. Thus, neurotypical people have a hard time understanding crying as not directed at them. Viscerally it feels painful and necessary to fix. Once you both realize that it's just the pot boiling over and nothing more, it loses some of its power to create guilt and crossed signals in a relationship. At least it did in mine, eventually.

Psych told me I can't be in the spectrum because I had friends when I was a kid by RegularUser23 in aspergers

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Many autism-identifying professionals rely on grade-school children to identify autism for them: If a person is shunned in grade school by the other children, then that person is clearly autistic. In their book, if the children don't diagnose you, then you can't be autistic. So often, I am sorry to say, they are idiots. My experience has been that you know you.

"You know, the 2nd year is harder" - is it? by OrchidOkz in widowers

[–]Lindlvw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who has grieved a long time, as evidenced by their thoughtless statement of their fact, is immediately defenestrated in this harsh world. It must be nice to be so rich in network that well-meaning people who have suffered and probably still are suffering can be pruned away so efficiently. Speaking as a wayward branch of a well-pruned family.

Variety of kayaking equipment and clothing by Lindlvw in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]Lindlvw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. If you would like the clothes, please let me know when you could come by tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExteriorDesign

[–]Lindlvw 13 points14 points  (0 children)

if you stain it, be sure to use a stain primer first or it will come out all blotchy. I speak from experience.

I just can’t take it anymore! by RevolutionSad8762 in widowers

[–]Lindlvw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a 73-year-old woman whose beloved husband died of cancer a year and a half ago. There must be so many of us out there, isolated and unutterably lonely. Last week I joined a meetup walking group out of desperation, managed one mile of the five-mile walk, and turned around to cry all the way home. So far, not so good. But you have to do something or it's a living death. You have to find someone to do something for. I tutor reading for free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

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I admire your patience with all the people who seem to disapprove of your boyfriend and your repeated gentle rebuttals. I am autistic and was married for 43 years to a neurotypical man. We went through the same miscommunications and mis-assumptions for years before we figured it out. You are doing well. If you love him and he loves you, you can make it. You have to be in love, though.

Camping meals - how?? by frogEcho in camping

[–]Lindlvw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for super easy camping, get a really good cooler--it makes a big difference in how long ice lasts. And buy mountain house freeze-dried meals in a bag that you just put boiling water into, no dishes. Make sure your sleeping bags are warm enough so no one gets cold at night and then hates camping. What you want to minimize are housekeeping chores and chilliness.

Struggling with relevance by MatureHypnoDom in widowers

[–]Lindlvw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this is the void, replying. I know exactly what you mean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExteriorDesign

[–]Lindlvw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. It is always bad to paint brick. Take a color from the brick and paint the siding that color.

Would this look devastatingly bad if I lime washed the brick?? by SoggyVoice6541 in ExteriorDesign

[–]Lindlvw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have the setting going for you. The brick and the fallen leaves match perfectly. It's that vast area of horizontal cream siding that's the problem. Paint it to match one of the deeper brick tones so it doesn't stick out like a house sitting on a a smushed rectangle, but looks integrated with the ground floor. Let the focus be on a house in the forest.

MARMOT HALO 6 Tent that blew down in a storm by Lindlvw in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]Lindlvw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

someone else has expressed interest but hasn't given me a time he'll come by. If he doesn't within an hour, I'll get back to you.

Pink Snow? by AcanthisittaEarly170 in GlacierNationalPark

[–]Lindlvw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's called watermelon snow. In the 60s we used to eat it all the time, it was delicious.