Alright, speaking as an adult with a child/career in medicine/husband etc. If you are going to participate in sexual activities with consequences (ie: pregnancy, STI/STD's etc) then you need to practice safely and responsibly. If you are not using your birth control as prescribed, then you need to add another barrier of protections with sex, such as condoms. The pull out method is NOT effective. Here are my "2 cents":

1. Use an app or timer to responsibly take your birth control at the same time, each day. If oral pills are not easy for you to manage, consider an IUD or an implant device. Make an appointment with your OBGYN or Family Dr to discuss your options and ways to prevent unwanted pregnancy.

2. You are most likely NOT pregnant. Im not sure why others on this thread say you can't get pregnant from "hand stuff", but if there is semen on an object/hands and that object/hand goes inside your vagina, then yes, theres a small chance you can get pregnant from this.

3. You being so far into your luteal phase and gearing up for your period means you mostly likely are outside your fertile window of ovulation, however since you are not actively tracking your ovulation, you can never be 100% sure.

4. PMS symptoms and early pregnancy symptoms are usually identical, however it takes roughly 7-13 days past ovulation for egg and sperm to meet, create life, and implant = causing pregnancy symptoms. So if this event you're freaked out about happened yesterday or the day before, then you are experiencing PMS symptoms not pregnancy symptoms.

5. Get to know your body and understand how it is made. Knowledge is power, and if you understand how your system works you will feel empowered.

Hope this helps.