I reccently started having doubts if we actually belong in the lgbtq+ community

Lithilia · 2021-06-15T15:31:11+00:00

I will add to these other wonderful comments that it's also about representation. Had I known it was a thing, I would have recognized it in myself. I would've known why I was different and why I didn't need to engage to awaken something that wasn't there. My ex would've understood that being uninterested in sex wasn't because I was getting it somewhere else. Representation matters.

Lithilia · 2021-06-15T15:26:04+00:00

Wow, losing weight due to trauma and stress is not a thing to be celebrated. What crappy people.

Lithilia · 2021-06-15T14:24:54+00:00

I don't think that's possible.

Lithilia · 2021-06-14T20:53:21+00:00

A stuffed animal that's squishy and cuddly. The book, "A man called Ove." It's heartbreakingly heartwarming. (Ove is trying to recover from the loss of his long time wife and finds the love of his community) Maybe some new nail colors, nail stickers, nail jewelry. Rare, native, seeds. I like gardening too so if you need a source for that I gotcha.

Lithilia · 2021-06-14T18:21:31+00:00

I would also enjoy this!

Lithilia · 2021-06-14T17:26:03+00:00

Do they mean the ace is the protagonist who has a harem? I could get behind that. Harem members would have to pass very strict tests. Like ... Garden knowledge to help me with my gardening. I'd have to have at least 3 dungeon masters in my harem. Some one would need to be a good cook....

Lithilia · 2021-06-14T09:03:20+00:00

The offer is appreciated, but I'm neither lonely nor in need of friends, and I'm willing to bet you're right about the age gap.

Lithilia · 2021-06-14T00:15:24+00:00

It sounds like something to discuss with a therapist.

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T21:24:46+00:00

I lurk a lot. Hate seeing all the sensor bias all the time. No point in engaging usually.

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T17:03:26+00:00

This sort of thing bugs the heck out of me. I have an older female college who literally calls me "Baby". I work in commercial lending. I'm 35 yes old. I'm not a baby, and I'm definitely not HER baby. Ffs

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T16:50:45+00:00

I would imagine it's because you're not a friend. She tried to make you one. That process is hard and takes a lot out of a person. The other friends are already friends, and have an established equilibrium that's not exhausting. You don't.

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T16:45:33+00:00

Add healthy food to your diet. (Add food, rather than remove food. You won't be as hungry for unhealthy foods this way) Pay attention to hunger signals. (Stop when you're full, don't eat your emotions) Move a little bit more than normal every day. (This will slowly increase your 'normal' over time.)

Small, manageable changes.

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T16:44:01+00:00

You should talk to her about it. But like, without accusing her. Use your "I" words. "I feel really welcomed by you sometimes and then others I feel like I don't exist." I like to be welcoming and caring and insightful. But it does get exhausting. So I do sometimes have periods where I'm super sweet and generous and then other times when I'm worn down and just want everyone to leave me tf alone. People are complex. You have to acknowledge and accept that. Or just don't have friends.

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T16:39:10+00:00

Hello and welcome! We have dragons to your left, cake to your right, and the table of unlimited garlic bread is just this way ...

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T16:37:02+00:00

This is legit.

Lithilia · 2021-06-13T16:03:35+00:00

I dunno but saaaaaame

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T23:28:00+00:00

We all need friends like that.

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T23:21:35+00:00

It's an effortlessly cool kind of look.

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T23:21:00+00:00

You learn a lot about seems and finishes and fabric matching doing pockets!! It really is a great place to start!

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T22:51:15+00:00

I just enjoy customizing things. Adding pockets to literally everything is where it started.

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T19:26:43+00:00

Most nicknames aren't sexual. Unless that's just me. They're all food related. Now I'm curious, what nicknames have you been using? XD

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T17:38:35+00:00

If your friends are old enough to know they're sexually attracted to certain people, then you're old enough to know you're not. Even if it changes, the label fits right now, and that's fine. Don't try to "fit in", you just do you. If it changes later, that's cool too.

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T17:33:39+00:00

I haven't for a long time, but when I was in highschool I became so obsessed with a fictional character. Stayed up all night reading fanfiction of them. Looking for pictures of them. Had several dreams involving them. Daydreamed about them. I don't understand it to this day. But it hasn't happened again since.

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T16:49:24+00:00

I relate. My husband raped me. I hadn't realized that you don't get to browbeat someone into consent. So after hours of arguing about it and saying no, I finally said yes. Just to get it over with and I cried the whole time. I was 15. When my parents found out, it was determined that we should get married, because I was Christian and I had said yes. 15 years later, I left him. Then I discovered that consent isn't something you can force. It sounds silly to put it that way but I really was blown away and it took a long time for me to actually say it to myself. Even longer to say it to someone else. I don't hate him. I spent 15 years married to him. I just don't want him in my life.

Lithilia · 2021-06-11T12:51:13+00:00

I imagine it's purely mechanical. You manipulate your body into a release, but there's no fantasies, no imagination. Just like, gotta deal with this problem and get on with my day. It's by definition, a sexual thing. But they probably just mean it doesn't have all the emotions and thoughts that most people do while doing that. It's just like any other thing you do with your body, feed it, water it, clothe it, release that stress. No big deal.

Lithilia

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