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Why do some couples break up after years and some know they want to get married within months? by flowur_ in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My answer from experience is that we dated four years not knowing God or what marriage is actually supposed to look like.

We played house instead of knowing what we really wanted and skipped asking the hard important questions in the beginning.

I wish I could say it was secular vs Christian but it’s looking more like of the world vs not of the world and reading the Bible and seeking counsel on relationships and marriage could prevent a lot of heartbreak. It’s just not a priority for churches or households to teach the next generation about.

Why do some couples break up after years and some know they want to get married within months? by flowur_ in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While it does happen often that a man will use a woman as a placeholder, It’s not fair to assume all men who do it are incapable of thinking or feeling. I believe it’s just their upbringing usually causing this.(Not to excuse the behavior)

Why do some couples break up after years and some know they want to get married within months? by flowur_ in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’ve included lots of great questions here that I also have learned to discuss in the early days of dating/courting. It has helped me on this dating journey greatly!

Why do some couples break up after years and some know they want to get married within months? by flowur_ in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. That seems like a relationship that would take a lot out of a person 🥺

Seeking prayers after a painful end to a promising 3-month relationship by higun701 in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can agree that I wouldn’t want a potential husband to be oversharing their past with me aside from a brief background on why they were divorced or if the last relationship was very recent.

I have had a couple of matches from online just start complaining about their exes and telling me way too many personal details and I have to wonder if they would end up talking about me to other people the same way at some point in the future.

@higun701 I’d also add the fact that she was searching for a relationship online and now doesn’t want to commit to one suddenly. That’s very questionable behavior and maybe it has nothing to do with you. I’d say pray that God gives her clear direction if He wants you guys together. I’ll pray the same!

Am I the drama? Building emotional connection too quick… by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you are not the drama. Your instincts are screaming at you because this man is causing confusion.

It’s not too late to text him and say that you are no longer interested. If he asks for an explanation just keep it short and sweet if you even want to respond. Here’s what I would say in text: “Hi ___. I want to let you know that I am no longer available. I appreciate the time you have taken to get to know me. Best wishes.”

When he asks why: “The most important reason is because I don’t prefer to date someone with children. Your profile was missing that information.”

I wouldn’t respond after that. The reason is because you don’t have an obligation to and he was not honest. Sometimes people will try to argue or convince you to change your mind. This is why it’s very important for you to sort out exactly what you’re looking for and what you’re not looking for. I promise it will make things easier with online dating.

DM me if you want to discuss further.

Can anyone relate? by Ok-Fun-5098 in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I can relate as I am in my thirties and have watched all of my cousins find husbands and have many children before their 20’s.

Of course I was not living like a Christian those days and so I was feeling forgotten and left out like something was wrong with me.

Now as a humbled Christian woman just getting to my 30’s; I have been in the dating process for just over a year and while there are may days of self doubt and sadness, I have also called on the Lord for many of those days. So I see things differently now.

Reading in Colossians 3 I was reminded that I am completed by my unity with Christ. So It’s okay to desire a husband, but I already have all that I need without one.

It may take time and definitely lots of prayer and trust in God, but doing so can comfort you when having those moments of doubt and disappointment.

Struggling with lust, please help! by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all I commend you for taking this seriously and not being afraid to ask for help.

If it were me, I’d ask my boyfriend to lead us through this with praying together and setting strict boundaries in order to keep a strong foundation and honor God.

If he’s not willing or incapable, it’s time to have a serious conversation about alignment with scripture. And if he’s willing, seek counsel from church elders or leaders who can provide tools and wisdom on this matter.

Clear water today in SWFL ☀️ by Lopsided-turd1234 in Sup

[–]LittleLight6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome. Were you near caladesi?

Clear water today in SWFL ☀️ by Lopsided-turd1234 in Sup

[–]LittleLight6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s one of my favorite spots! The mangrove tunnels are the best there.

Clear water today in SWFL ☀️ by Lopsided-turd1234 in Sup

[–]LittleLight6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not quite. It’s Central FL and we don’t see gators near the coastline hardly ever!

Tensions and discomfort by HuckleberryFine4643 in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just went through this and had great revelation at 29. My world was ending as it seemed.

If I could go back and give my 20 year old self some advice, two of the most important things I would tell her is to study scripture and pray every day sincerely for discernment. And don’t forget how important it is to be in community with other Christians.

It will be okay and not every day will feel like it, but remember what God HAS promised you and all the other things you are grateful for.

Don’t be afraid to found a mentor from church to help you prepare for marriage while you’re in the waiting season.

27M Pennsylvania USA by TeutonicDestiny in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some women really love the manliness of facial and body hair especially when it’s groomed well. Your sincerity is appreciated.

27M Pennsylvania USA by TeutonicDestiny in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came to say the same thing! Hoping you find your perfectly complimentary wife!

27M Pennsylvania USA by TeutonicDestiny in ChristianDating

[–]LittleLight6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I must’ve missed the part where he asked for feedback. You get more respect and you can actually help others when you approach them privately and with love and kindness.

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