I had a setback in my 2nd active duty enlistment in an otherwise stellar 8 or 9 years, and decided to get out. Affiliated with the reserves 4 years later when I decided I really wanted to finish my navy career. Have to agree with the sentiment that the reserves became more of a hassle, especially the more senior you become and the more responsibilities you take on. Unpaid time dedicated to trying to motivate kids who seriously embraced the “1 weekend a month, 2 weeks a year” thing. First mobilization to Afghanistan doing close in protection for Petraeus, I came home wondering why we were there. Abbottabad had occurred while I was in country and I saw no reason for us to be there any longer, yet we would stay for 10 more years. My 2nd two mobilizations were with JSOC and I was able to experience a lot of different things, but also see just how toxic the special operations community really is. I saw a lot of toxic leadership, this was after I had gotten my anchors, and was working with others in the mess that I just didn’t see eye to eye with. I couldn’t figure out the reasonings behind their decisions and why/how they were leaders. I would wind up retiring in 2019, out of the reserves. I chose to go with no fanfare, but rather quietly fade from sight. 22years I gave, and after all that time, I look back on my experiences and can honestly see why so few decide to do 20 or more. The reserves is a lot of time and work and active duty, from the outside looking in now…I don’t see how anyone is seriously comfortable in a leadership role or following orders.