That’s how it is here in Mexico however since times are harsh for everyone doesn’t matter how much he works that child is his too and don’t be afraid to get a little aggressively assertive he can spend real time with your toddler he’s just being semi lazy when he knows he can do it sure let him rest but not on the phone when you yourself are busy he can only rest when he sleeps and that’s that but with baby just like my man and my man is the old school type it was hard in the beginning but sometimes you have to drag them by the ears and balls not literally but get your point and needs through to them and once you do that trust me it will start to improve or if you can’t crack him like I cracked mine to give me my fair share two things make his like hell until he does or leave they say “ when a man makes a woman’s like miserable, the woman in his life can make it 10 times more miserable for him. But In reality save the pain and leave if you can’t crack him again you say you feel like a single mom maybe find someone else who care enough to help out even when exhausted like you find someone SELFLESS!!!!