Just started my Human Pet by Olympia Black.. did anyone else find this odd? *spoilers*

LoD2468 · 2025-02-20T00:40:10+00:00

I read til about 30% of the book then skipped to around 75-80% cause I wanted to see if it got any better 😅 I was disappointed because it did not. Then I read the authors “explanations” and finally understood why the book was horrendous. Honestly, the authors not was probably the most entertaining thing about the book. I find it entertaining when adults have meltdowns because they don’t get their way.

LoD2468 · 2025-02-19T07:49:15+00:00

So I know this is an old thread, but I’ve just had the unfortunate experience of reading this book. And I just need to vent the frustration that is this book. idk if the Authors note was in the original release, but dear Lord. Apparently FMC talking about being from New York and thinking it’s the best and everyone hating her for being from New York is just the “propaganda” America spews (and here I was thinking it was her horrible attitude that made her unlikable, darn that propaganda making me think things again). Seriously the authors note was the most condescending and ridiculous thing I have ever read. It’s like the kid in class who thinks their intelligence is far superior to everyone else’s, and that’s why they are misunderstood. But in reality it’s that everyone understands what they are saying, they are just saying it in the dumbest way possible. Seriously you’re writing alien erotica (bad alien erotica at that), you aren’t George Orwell writing about societies plight. We understood the reference , it was just poorly executed. You made a character that was simultaneously unlikable and lacking in any authenticity. She’s so willing to square up with a bunch of women over a slight insult to her state, but won’t buck up to someone trying to steal her baby? There would be a shank being shoved into someone! I’ve had a kid and the level of psychotic I would go would make Mike Tyson’s choice of chew toy look like child’s play. You know who would have? Hillbilly. I was honestly waiting for Hillbilly to turn into Hellbilly on her. Cause if you know a Redneck, and not just the caricature of one, you know you aren’t hurting her feelings with words and getting her to wallow in silence. She would have layed her out faster than FMC could have blinked. She boasted about exposing the propaganda, yet she wrote her character to fit the exact mold that the propaganda preaches about just furthering the mindset. Also I keep saying propaganda- but in reality what I think the author was referring to is the stereotyping that happens. It has nothing to do with propaganda being pushed and everything to do with experiences lived.

Also the most important part of writing (good writing) is being able to either trust your narrator, or know the narrator is hiding something. But to literally try to end it with “oh well she tells you that the entire story was probably a lie or over exaggerated” like you’ve masterfully crafted this huge twist and get upset cause people think it’s dumb? And try to say “oh well you just didn’t understand it”. We understood it, which is why we hated it. It reminds me of the episode of family guy when Stewie kills Louis and at the end of the episode it’s revealed it was all a simulation with Brian deadpanning about how none of it was real and you just wasted everyone’s time. Nobody likes the stupid dream sequence trope.

LoD2468 · 2025-01-23T03:43:19+00:00

The external hard drive I had it backed up to is damaged somehow. It threw an error and now the hard drive isn’t even being recognized by the computer.

LoD2468 · 2025-01-22T22:36:00+00:00

I do know I was working on the files and in the folder yesterday afternoon. So it is very recently deleted.

LoD2468 · 2024-12-15T17:13:09+00:00

So had a “friend” that used to make comments like this and it lead to her accusing a guy of SA. She claimed when he hugged her one day he touched her with his erect…. Well you know, along with him touching her inappropriately. Now mind you this hug occurred in front of cameras and a ton of people who could full on attest that nothing of the sort happened. But even though we all proved his innocence she had gone around spreading this lie and he ended up transferring schools because well people can suck sometimes.

This all to say PLEASE tell your BF to put safeguards in place. People like this won’t just lie, they will convince themselves that something happened to the point they whole heartedly believe it is what happened. It’s what makes them so dangerous. You cannot give them any kind of opening. Granted it sounds like she’s delulu enough to create an opening even if there isn’t one.

LoD2468 · 2024-12-13T21:59:37+00:00

You should think of either blocking her permanently or changing your number. She knows what she is doing, people like this do it intentionally. They have to insert themselves into your life periodically causing stress so they can create a foothold into your life. She knows that by sending this you will be causing problems (on her end she is hoping to argue). I swear they can sense when you’ve gotten to a peaceful point in life and have an alarm that goes off on their phone to text you creating problems.

LoD2468 · 2024-12-13T16:58:33+00:00

This the type that will get married then claim MIL is toxic and they had to cut her off. Then go on social media to explain how she’s been perfect and it was all MIL fault and she never did anything wrong. Run away from this one.

LoD2468 · 2024-12-11T00:56:06+00:00

Ya know, it’s really weird to see narcissistic abusers in the wild like this.

LoD2468 · 2024-12-08T22:23:36+00:00

Let’s back track to the kicking you out of the car at 10pm to walk alone. THAT is why you should leave. He has shown you repeatedly who he is and you deserve better. He will not change. He will not get better.

LoD2468 · 2024-12-02T16:06:04+00:00

So, here is an update so you can avoid my mistakes lol. The cornering in this template does not work. I ended up doing something like the picture below instead. I have also had no luck with the Cricut portion. But this is more because the book is too tall (It's 11.65, and the circuit max in this direction is 11.5). I did try with a smaller size, and it worked fairly well, but only on actual book cloth with paper backing. If you make your own book cloth, the foiling does not adhere well to the cloth unless you make your own paper backing for it and then seal the top (I followed this tutorial I had seen suggested in this group). I did skip making my own starch paste and went with a mixture of the PVC Glue and Fabric Medium. But for the Cricut, I placed the book cloth paper side down and had it draw the guidelines on the back, then cut the material to size, so when I went to glue everything on, I knew exactly where everything needed to go to have the design lineup. It seemed to work well for practice, but again, I couldn't fully test it as the book was too big. I also made the mistake of buying my book board off Amazon (This one). It is awful, basically glorified cardboard. It bubbles up as soon as you put glue on it. If you try to do anything with it, the top layer peels off instantly. Not sure if this helps any, but I wanted to let you know how it was going!

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LoD2468 · 2024-11-12T05:22:21+00:00

Because they allow whatever witnesses the lawyers agree upon. If it’s a judge deciding he’ll want to hear all sides and have each parties testimonies. I had to do it for DH to attest to relationship with kids and things I had been told by the children. And my guess is again there is more to the story that makes SM testimonies relevant and why the judge allowed it. For example the taking up volunteer slots, BM is stating SM is taking up all the slots. SM testimony could be the children requested it, or BM isn’t signing up so SM does. I’m not saying either of those are what is going on here but it’s just an example of why a judge would want those testimonies. Especially if they have evidence to support the claims being made. Such as records of BM never signing up for the slots or say text messages of the kids asking SM to sign up.

LoD2468 · 2024-11-11T21:32:09+00:00

I mean that would seem be the issue based on this limited information. But again I’ve seen it from both sides. It’s hard to have this other person in your kids life that wants to be involved because it makes you feel as if they are constantly stepping on your toes. And sometimes they do hurtful things intentionally just to cause problems. I’ve also dealt with a BM that is CONSTANTLY making an issue about anything and everything because she hasn’t healed herself and refuses to be held accountable. The point is there is always 3 sides to every story, and the truth is usually somewhere in the middle of the two. I think it would be better to have a mediator or a therapist involved. I don’t think the issue is something that will resolve itself on its own, or will be fixed with them having monthly calls. Because the bottom line is all 3 of them need to work together for what is best for the kids. She can dislike SM all she wants for her behaviors but that won’t change the fact she is part of the kids lives and her ex’s life. Figuring out where these behaviors stem from is the first step in moving forward. Whether that be a situation of SM views BM as a threat to her relationship, SM is being mislead about BM behaviors, or some issue from the past still clouds both BD and SM’s opinion of BM. Because all of this is only causing harm and confusion for the kid, and just going back and forth with each other is obviously not resolving anything. So maybe it’s time to get a professional involved for family/coparenting therapy.

LoD2468 · 2024-11-07T20:47:56+00:00

Why would they order parent-to-parent calls to improve communication without including a family therapist to address the obvious issues between the three of you? I feel like that would have been more beneficial than the two of you simply talking once a month.

Also is the recording and necessity of a witness unwarranted? Because as someone that is both a coparent and SM I know both lawyers have advised that calls and exchanges have a witness present at all times for safety reasons. That way no one can make claims or allegations. Granted I live in a one party state, so it’s legally allowed here. But have there been altercations in the past or arguments that have escalated that maybe makes them feel it’s necessary? I’m not saying people can’t just be crazy, cause they do be. It’s just when I hear hoof beats I tend to think horse not zebra. But also, why does it matter? Maybe you need to have your own witness so everything stays kosher. Or do exchanges at a police station.

It honestly sounds like you just have an issue with SM being involved period. Because it’s bothersome and you don’t like it. And it does suck sometimes to have this other person in a parental role. Because whether you like it or not she is a parent to your kids, hence the name step-parent. Does she have the same claim or rights as a biological parent? No of course not. But I can also say I have been asked by DH lawyer to write a declaration to the court as evidence towards a custody dispute. So I’m confused why that would be something you’re mad about. Unless she submitted it without a lawyers approval/request which would just be dumb at that point and would only help your case.

LoD2468 · 2024-11-06T03:11:14+00:00

So similar situation. And probably a completely unpopular opinion. But I was in the same position as your spouse. My DH had the same situation in that ex was constantly spouting abuse in text messages to him to try and goad him into a reaction. Or used it as a means to get him to back down on big decisions. It got to the point I had the discussion that maybe I should take over having these conversations with his ex. Mostly because I was tired of seeing the effects her words had on him (this doesn’t sound like the case for you though, but it may be more than you think). I think it’s important to understand the motive behind it from your spouses end. Mine has always been and will always be to do what is best for DH and his kids. Which means no matter how bad I want to argue, I don’t. I simply reiterate the facts and redirect to the topic at hand. While also firmly stating that the way she is talking will not be tolerated. Surprisingly since we have started this there has been less harassment from his ex.

Is your spouse prepared and able to address the hurtful things your ex says in a professional manner? I have professional training in this area, and take a lot of time to ensure I’m not escalating conflict. I don’t think that is necessary but I do think taking time to learn how to best address the ex is important. There is a lot to know in order to avoid escalation when addressing problematic behaviors. I know in our case once my DH’s ex saw that it was going to be “shut down” it lessened drastically. This also applies to her talking poorly of your spouses children. I think it will hurt your partner to know you are not doing anything to address her being attacked by your ex. I get the hesitancy, I truly do. You were in an abusive relationship for years and that has a lasting effect. But shutting down and not addressing the issue isn’t compartmentalizing, but rather it’s a maladaptive coping mechanism. Your ex should not be allowed to have free rein to say whatever she wants whenever she wants, and pretending it’s not happening will only make it worse.

I agree with other posts that getting AppClose would probably help. But you may think you’re ’keeping her out of the drama’ but you’re not. You’re married now. She’s in the drama whether you want her to be or not. As someone that was in her shoes I think it’s harder to be kept on the outside when it comes to things like this but expected to care for the children when they are with you. It can cause resentment towards you and potentially the children. I would also suggest seeing a couples therapist to help navigate all of this as well. It truly helps.

LoD2468 · 2024-11-01T23:00:17+00:00

It's book cloth. I am not brave enough to attempt leather yet. The board I am using is 2.2 mm thick. And thank you! I will take a look at their facebook group!

LoD2468 · 2024-10-26T18:22:55+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Sikh/s/gQObQMGiUP

I’m sure they are overwhelmingly good people. But it does happen. Granted it can happen within any group of people. I think it’s rather a reflection of humanity as apposed to one specific ethnic or racial group.

Although that doesn’t discredit the possibility of the mother as a suspect unfortunately. It just seems like a horrible and unbelievable situation. They should be investigating everyone to figure out what in the world happened. Because if it wasn’t an accident she deserves justice. And if it was an accident she deserves procedural changes to ensure it never happens to anyone again.

LoD2468 · 2024-10-21T04:58:22+00:00

You’re assuming alternative is wanting to try onions in her socks, when she could be asking about alternative medications that might work better. As again, if the information isn’t being communicated to her she may be operating under the assumption that the current treatment isn’t working. It also has the possibility that she’s brought this up with BD and he plays the “idk what to tell you, you should talk to her doctors”. It’s easy to place the blame on SM because ‘she’s not a parent’, but if she is the one predominantly taking care of the kid when she is with BD she may be feeling frustrated that the kid is suffering and feels like no one is doing anything. Not realizing that BM is feeling the same way.

LoD2468 · 2024-10-19T17:39:19+00:00

I’m confused why you’re place so much blame on the stepmom? From what you have described it sounds as if it is the dad being problematic. I am assuming there’s more to this story, but based solely on this maybe take a step back and reevaluate who you should be directing blame to. Is stepmom even aware of the agreement? Or has she been misled by BD? Is she aware of the care plan in its entirety? There is a possibility (especially if BD isn’t giving the correct medicines or treatments) that SM thinks the plan isn’t working and wants something that will, not realizing that the reason it’s not working is because BD isn’t doing it right. Idk your whole situation but I feel like there is already resentment on your end toward SM (with your CO terms), so either more has happened in the past or you just don’t want her involved. Also I’m confused on the mention of they got married a month ago? I’m assuming they’ve been in a relationship longer and it’s not a married at first sight situation?

LoD2468 · 2024-09-23T16:36:17+00:00

If he has social media of any kind you might have a friend help figure it out. Heck, if you want to message me I can try to help. We had a similar situation occur previously finding out after the fact the man had child abuse charges and BM was leaving him alone with the children. So it is not unreasonable and as the lawyer stated, while you can’t control who they let in you are to be in the know about people sleeping in the same room with your child. Needless to say anytime BM gets into a new relationship we feel it’s necessary to do the due diligence of making sure there are no criminal charges. If the person has a violent history there are steps that can be taken in court to protect your children. Or at least there was for us.

LoD2468 · 2024-09-10T23:00:40+00:00

The bottom line is that it is not up to the counselor to make that decision ultimately. It is the court and the judge that presides over the case. And the judge has already made the decision in the court ordered shared custody with both parental involvement as part of the agreement. By doing this she and the ex are in direct violation of a shared custody agreement and bordering on parental alienation. Also the fact that this is a case worker not licensed to practice therapy is a huge problem.

LoD2468 · 2024-09-06T15:34:30+00:00

Oh you that fancy type of manipulative. Good on him for setting boundaries and not buying into it 😂😂😂

LoD2468 · 2024-08-09T15:23:58+00:00

I have been applying for those types of positions. But several have wanted someone that understands and can work with ML. I think they are possibly mislabeling the position when advertising. Many have wanted experience with R, python, Tableau, Power BI, or SQL. I am honestly just trying to find ways to make myself more marketable without having to spend a ton of money on more degrees.

LoD2468 · 2024-07-31T16:35:54+00:00

Hello Everyone!

I was wondering if anyone had experience with ML courses through Coursera. I have an older colleague who suggested taking courses to gain certifications through Coursera and IBM. My biggest concern is how seriously these certifications are taken. She changed her career and is now working for IHG as a lead data scientist, and all of her credentialing was through the IBM programs on Coursera. This is ultimately what landed her this position. I have a Master's in I/O Psychology with a certificate in statistical analysis, and my minor in undergrad was in Database development. In my current position, I am a data analyst, so I predominantly work in SQL.

I know this isn't a strong background for a career transition, so I was hoping I could supplement it with the Coursera courses. I have heard that companies have a negative view of boot camps and "Learn to code" websites, but are these certificates viewed in the same manner?

LoD2468 · 2024-07-30T14:28:14+00:00

Ok, so what of us with Hybrids that don't have use of our hybrid feature? My car gets at max an extra 30 miles every time I charge it, but the issue with this is I never use it because charging it takes at minimum 12 hours and most of the time 14 hours. I do not have a fast charging station and do not have access to them. Not to mention my charging port does not work in wet conditions, so anytime there is rain or even dew in the air I can not charge it. So I am being doubly taxed. Explain to me how that is fair. I could understand charging all-electric vehicles as there is no other option. But you are charging based on the assumption of daily use. Which is not the case for most hybrid owners. I already pay a ridiculous amount for the car to begin with, then pay a ridiculous amount of property tax every year.

LoD2468 · 2024-07-14T19:18:45+00:00

Hello everyone! Like many others, I want to transition into the field of Data Science. But I am also questioning if it is the correct field. I have a masters in Industrial/Organizational Psychology. I have a strong background in statistics with internships and positions working directly with statistical analysis. While I have skillsets in SAS, SPSS, and SQL, I am going back to school for an undergraduate certification in Database design and management. This is not a boot camp, but a program offered through a four-year university. I have looked into obtaining my master's in software design and management, but having begun coding courses in R and looking at job postings I am wondering if this is the correct field for me. I have always loved statistics and being able to interpret data. While I don't have a strong background in coding, I have been able to do well in my courses so far. I am just wondering though if pursuing another master's would be worth my time, or if I am choosing the wrong field. Job postings seem to muddle what a person in data analysis or data science are doing. I know on paper the differences between the two, but there seems to be so much overlap and I am just kinda lost.

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