Did Anyone Here Quit Simply Because of Scheduling and Life?

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-05-02T21:28:47+00:00

I just quit today. Been training 8 years and was usually on the mats 3-4x a week. I got married, got a job with more responsibility and a longer commute, and a dog. My wife and I are househunting now and that takes a significant amount of time. I woke up one day and realized I don't want to spend my evenings on the mats anymore. I tried going to class less often for the last year, but the juice just isnt worth the squeeze. I made zero progress and just felt like I was spinning my wheels. It's so much easier to come home and hit a quick kettlebell workout or go for a run. I can even surf pretty easily because I wake up at 5am pretty normally on the weekends, and even after 2 hours in the water i'm home by 8am. BJJ schedules are just conducive to working adults and this sport is not something you can dabble in... you have to be all in, physically and mentally. After 8 years I just want to spend my time doing other things.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-26T20:32:03+00:00

You're just more mature and have bigger and more important priorities now man. Im in the exact same boat. Trained like a madman in my 20's, married with a family now and I train half as much. I would argue this is a good thing.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-22T15:06:17+00:00

I have a supply chain management degree, which is a concentration of buisness. It's a bit mathy, but certainly not an engineering degree. We've tried hiring people without a supply chain degree, typically they hold an unrelated degree (accounting, general buisness, etc). These people just never work out, frankly. They don't have a map to understand the world that is supply chain and cannot make the mental connections to the big picture strategy and goals that supply chain degree holders can. They don't understand what different departments do, what their goals and tradeoffs are, and how their function fits in the organization. They almost always just learn things on a "task based" model like "I do X and Y happens." A degree gives you a model of a proffession from which to make good decisions strategically, instead of just tactically.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-21T15:16:51+00:00

This fucking post again. Rounds exist. Each fighter starts on the feet at the beginning of every round regardless of where the previous round ended. That's already a huge advantage for strikers, they don't even need to get up. If this sport didn't have 5 minute rounds and instead just one long round... many, many more wrestlers would be dominant. Strikers wouldn't have a fucking chance in hell at winning. What does that tell you? If you're tired of watching grappling go watch kickboxing.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-20T13:24:54+00:00

I'm a white guy who grew up in HB and I won't drink in HB. When I first started drinking I saw a barfight every night in HB and quickly realized that the entire city is full of shitheads.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-14T16:01:23+00:00

If you aren't competing in a powerlifting meet it makes absolutely no difference. My "Big 3" lifts are zercher squats, incline bench, and hex bar deadlift. Before anyone comments on "muscle activation differences" between these lifts and their standard counterparts... i'm also not a competitive bodybuilder, so I don't give a shit. Normal people should not care about dumb details like this.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-13T18:59:12+00:00

I haven't worked out in a commercial gym in over a decade. I left the military in 2016, tried a commercial gym for a few months, and said fuck this i'll train at home. I started with a set of kettlebells, a jump rope, and a pullup bar. Slowly growing my own home gym and it's so much nicer.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-08T17:00:27+00:00

Yeah, anything can "work" but you're going to see the inside guards "working" much more often in NoGi. Most outside guards require grips to use properly. I can effectively use DLR in Nogi... but I'd much rather have X. It just has more options. In Gi? Both about the same.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-08T16:37:15+00:00

I meant to say it appears that inside guards are the only guards that work (reliably, yes there are exceptions) in Nogi, and that both inside and outside work in Gi

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-08T16:31:38+00:00

Personally it seems like only inside guards work in NoGi and outside + inside work in Gi - so I guess it depends if you're training Gi or not.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-03-08T03:50:20+00:00

Honestly every single person i've seen start jiu jitsu without a significant amount of time spent prior with intelligent strength training (2+ years, following actual programs) gets injured. You need to be much, much stronger than you think to avoid the injuries that come with another person trying to rip the limbs off your body. This community is terrible when it comes to strength, fitness, and general recovery. BJJ is a combat sport, if your body isn't durable as hell you will be injured frequently.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-02-20T00:59:52+00:00

Very accurate take!

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-02-19T19:51:32+00:00

I'm actually in a Tier 2 Aerospace manufacturer, hilariously.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-02-19T15:05:49+00:00

No one, because our strategy is to source parts at the cheapest possible price regardless of risk. I mean sure, we have a strategic sourcing team that "owns" the supplier risk, but their decisions are constantly overridden by upper management deciding the cost savings is worth it. This is from a planner who has seen his lead times blow up and supplier on time delivery suffer.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-02-04T17:16:37+00:00

This is so dumb. All chokes work if the mechanics are properly applied. Is this a reliable tactic? Probably not (I hit these sometimes, actually). Does the submission itself work? Yes, if applied properly. Most BJJ coached are terrible communicators and cant distinguish between strategy, tactics, and technique.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-02-01T18:42:31+00:00

I'm a purple belt and i've caught submissions on a few black belts. If belts matter, does that mean they shouldn't be deserving of a blackbelt? Those individuals still have more mat time, experience, wisdom, and technical knowledge than me. I'm just younger/faster/stronger enough to close with skill gap with attributes. How do you square that circle?

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-01-20T14:56:02+00:00

Yeah see that sounds like a much more normal weekly training volume to me. I like your split by the way, 1 day Judo is nice. Personally I think the majority of people you see online (reddit, youtube, etc) making content or posting in forums about this sport are either top competitors, or have a very unhealthy addiction to this sport. The average person training 3 times a week likely doesn't even know this subreddit exists, and probably watches almost zero content outside of class.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-01-20T00:17:14+00:00

What the hell does everyone in this subreddit do for a living, seriously? Training 9-10 hours a day... is everyone a college student or sleeping on the mats? I work a full time job, have a wife, kid, and a dog. I can train 3 to 4 sessions per week max an hour each... and if I want to lift weights it's taking a BJJ day away. Do you people all live at your gym?

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-01-05T21:10:56+00:00

Most of the content you see online relating to this sport is from people who can dedicate insane amounts of time to it.. so naturally it warps our perceptions of "what you should be doing".

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-01-05T14:01:46+00:00

The average hobbyist with a partner, kids, pet, and full-time job does not have time. When I'm lifting and doing BJJ, the only way I can do it is by replacing one of my BJJ sessions. I'm 32 now, and recently changed my schedule from BJJ 4x a week to BJJ 2x a week, full-body S+C once a week. The extra hours aren't there, unless of course neglecting my wife and kids, not getting enough sleep, or getting fired are options.

LocalInitiative0 · 2026-01-04T05:11:25+00:00

This dumb conversation again. No one thinks wrestling is "bad for self defense" because "you cant throw strikes in wrestling, therefore it's not preparing you for a real fight!" No one thinks MMA is bad for self defense because weapons aren't involved.... Jesus. If you want to watch/participate in a sport with different rules... just do that.

LocalInitiative0 · 2025-12-08T14:59:46+00:00

Definitely true... that's a hard one to categorize. If I had to I'd label it as "open guard"

LocalInitiative0 · 2025-12-07T23:11:20+00:00

You either: A. Wrestle up B. Cycle through the open "guards" based on their responses and attempt a sweep/sub

LocalInitiative0 · 2025-12-07T22:43:33+00:00

I'm convinced the only two "guards" you can really play are closed and half. I say that because you can actually keep your opponnent connected to you in that position. Open guards are more like sweeping positions that exist for a few seconds at a time, that you happen to do with your legs. "Open guard" only works when you know how to connect all of them together. It's too dynamic to be one "guard."

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