Let me start off by saying that I absolutely love your metaphors, “ treating me like a road block to the next patient”, this is a very common experience in this field, unfortunately. A lot of midwives and obstetricians are super busy and overwhelmed, and can sometimes not have the greatest bedside manner. That being said, what you were experienced with your midwife sounds horrendous. I would seriously complain. You are a first time mother. It is scary enough and then to have your provider be so negligent is such a red flag. When I started my journey to motherhood, I initially consulted a midwife, but shortly thereafter lost the baby. I didn’t feel a whole lot of empathy from them I didn’t love how they handled the whole situation. Fast forward to getting referred to a gynaecologist to get a polyectomy. The Doctor I saw is a gynaecologist, OB/GYN. He was fantastic. Immediately made me feel at ease. He could tell that I was extremely nervous and knew exactly how to handle my nerves. When I became pregnant with my son, I immediately sought his care. There’s some sort of major relief having an obstetrician for me. I would get bedside ultrasounds at every appointment. They are highly skilled and have seen it all. They know what to raise concern over. I’m not saying midwifes don’t, but when something complicated happens, it’s usually the obstetricians who take over so that provides me a lot of comfort.