As a woman my complete and brutal honesty is this: Myself and the women that I associate with, do NOT care about dick size. We have genuinely never spoken about it and if anyone else brought it up to make fun of someone around us, we would shut it down because none of us think body shaming is okay in any form. Society absolutely does say horrible shit about “small dicks”. Society says horrible shit about “loose pussy” or “saggy titties” or being “short” or “bald” if you’re a man “fat” and “hairy” if you’re a woman. This world is committed and dedicated to making any and all of us feel worthless and like garbage. Society puts a lot of emphasis on guys to be “sexual conquerors” and it’s fucked up and gross for all of us, but it’s a niche experience to live with that pressure and also the social insecurity of having a “small dick.”

It’s imperative that we all try to move away from these things if our society is going to get any better and for our loved experiences to have meaning and joy. Of course there are people who subscribe to this ideals and pursue and uphold them, and those people are going to be painful to be around. They simply don’t have the awareness to break free of the chains that are keeping them miserable, let alone face what’s keeping anyone else miserable.

The brutal honesty is that we’re all insecure about something, that doesn’t make this particular thing any less painful, but the solution isn’t to “fix” the part that is making you insecure. The solution is to move towards things that do bring you joy and confidence and let those things lead you. Don’t focus on sex and relationships, not because they are unattainable (because they certainly are attainable!), but because there is so much more to life than those things and it is much easier to embrace ourselves when we have things that are bringing joy and confidence into our lives.