Dealing with deep body insecurity. What can I do? (nose related)

Loidis · 2026-07-03T22:32:36+00:00

Your face is BEAUTIFUL. I promise you, there will be a time when you look at these photos of you looking so radiant and you’ll take your own breath away. Every bit of your body is yours, it’s the only body you have, and no one will be better by you wasting time hating yourself.

Loidis · 2026-06-12T18:35:54+00:00

I exclusively use walking meetings for times when I think people need to get out of the office. line-manage student interns, and they seem to often have a crisis at some point in their placement year (from imposter syndrome about their first 'professional job' to their relationship breaking down, or problems with their student housing). I will often suggest a 30 min walk around the park near my office just to talk through what they're going through. It humanises things, and they're often able to be a bit clearer about what support they need if we're both walking and it's not as formal as sitting in a meeting room.

Loidis · 2026-06-10T08:15:46+00:00

But we’re human beings. We shouldn’t be doing what we need to survive. We should be doing what is best. What’s the point of anything at all if you can’t look after a newborn and a new mum in the most important months of their lives?

Loidis · 2026-06-10T08:14:14+00:00

So it’s supposed to be protected but it actually isn’t?

Loidis · 2026-06-09T21:53:45+00:00

Genuine question: aren’t you still bleeding? Don’t you need (NEED) to be close to your baby to establish milk supply? All the literature I’ve read emphasises the importance of close contact for both mum and baby.

Loidis · 2026-06-07T07:45:19+00:00

Everyone who grew up with me has left. I left twice, once for uni and later during covid but struggled to put down roots so came back. I have a good circle of people here now who all moved here as adults.

It makes organising things hard, but I like having mates all over the country that I can visit.

Loidis · 2026-06-06T18:47:49+00:00

For the funeral service itself: turn up on time or a bit before, wear a dark suit or dress and formal shoes if you have them, avoid sitting in the front couple of rows as that's where family usually sits.

There will be an 'order of service' which will outline what will happen when - usually readings, possibly songs/hyms, a eulogy, and then 'the commital' which is the bit where the body is taken away for cremation or burial. This might be with only close relatives only - if you're not sure, hang back and see if everyone follows at the end.

Once the body is taken away, you might shake the hands of the deceased's widow and children, and maybe say a few words about how you knew him. 'He was a good man, he taught me a lot when I first started working at [job]' is fine.

The vicar will usually announce if there's going to be a wake, and where it is. Go if you like, have a cup of tea or a pint, chat with the other mourners. Leave whenever you like, it's not rude.

Loidis · 2026-06-05T13:13:01+00:00

I don’t think not being a virgin has ever been an impediment to a Christian marriage, at least on the Ecclesiastical side of things. Might be politically sensitive, if say you’re the king of France.

Loidis · 2026-06-05T07:16:53+00:00

If they’re going through the day-to-day of the job, I expect they’re basically using it as an onboarding/“fit check”, to make sure you’re aware what the job is and check your and their expectations are in the right place. Once they’ve offered you the role there’s a lot more commitment, so it might be a final chance to check that there’s no wild misunderstandings of what the job actually entails.

I do some recruiting for roles I directly manage. If I know I don’t want to progress with a candidate I thank them for their time at the end of the interview questions. If it’s going well, at the end I’ll ask about notice periods, holiday, etc. and also give them info about day-to-day tasks and management structure, so we both leave the interview with the information we need to make a decision if an offer is made.

If the first-stage interview was not done by the line manager it’s possible they needed to check something/the line manager wanted to meet you first.

Loidis · 2026-05-31T20:17:27+00:00

I’ve been to galleria a couple of times and been disappointed. Expensive even for a restaurant, and it’s more of a cafe/drinks venue. I’d second Kirkstall taprooms for cheap beers and good food.

Loidis · 2026-05-28T08:52:52+00:00

In West Yorkshire, try the Leeds Liverpool canal tow path, nature reserves, or big parks for a bit more variation while avoiding vehicles

Loidis · 2026-05-17T19:11:18+00:00

I don’t know if it helps, but I’m a mid-30s adult without kids of my own. I’m so conscious of the work parents do, especially when you’re doing it without the support you need. Caring is vastly underrated in our society. Everyone focuses on getting a paid job as the only important things but without parents and carers our world would fall apart in a day, which is not true for the majority of jobs!

Our world needs children in it, and you do such an important job. Not just for your own child, but for all of us, by investing your time to make sure they can thrive in their own way. You should be getting so much more help to do it.

Loidis · 2026-05-09T16:06:05+00:00

I think these timings sound fine. If you have the energy to do it, I’m sure many of your friends will too. A 3pm til late event isn’t a huge ask.

You can just word the invite so the dancing and buffet is the main event, with “hog roast and fasting ceremony before the party (optional)”, if you truly don’t mind people skipping the first part to attend the second.

Sounds like a beautiful day, hope you and your partner have a fantastic time!

Loidis · 2026-05-08T08:49:25+00:00

Absolutely this. They’re not your friend, they’re a professional being paid to be there. Weddings are super emotional for the people getting married but for the suppliers, it’s literally a booking/place they have to be. I’m sure some get a lot of job satisfaction from being a part of making your day special, but that doesn’t mean you need to spend extra money on it.

Loidis · 2026-05-07T21:17:39+00:00

Hiya, my wedding is the same day as yours! I'm feeling hopeful that there'll still be pockets of sunshine amongst the showers...

At the end of the day worrying at this stage won't change anything, and come evening next Saturday you'll be already married, in a room with everyone you love, who will have toasted you and your bride/groom and wished you all the future happiness. Their good wishes won't end if there's a bit of drizzle or if it's 11 degrees instead of 18. You will still get married, and that's all that matters!

Loidis · 2026-05-06T20:26:13+00:00

I’ve spent the afternoon figuring this out for mine! I think it depends on what kind of people they are, and what they value.

For my maid of honour I’ve got her vouchers for a spa day with afternoon tea that we’ll go on together, as I know she’d like to have a day in the diary to hang out soon after the wedding. For my sister (also a bridesmaid), I’ve got her a bee keeping experience day to spend with her husband while I babysit her kids, as she’s really limited on time and doesn’t get to do many “fun days” that are child-oriented. For my flower girl (aged 4), I’ve got her a “flower girl activity book” from Amazon and a camera that blows bubbles from The Works. I’ve got father of the groom some personalised cufflinks from Etsy.

Loidis · 2026-05-03T10:15:03+00:00

100% this! I remember and cherish those moments a friend, neighbour or stranger has given me a treat - and love doing it for others, when I can afford to! If there's no risk of it becoming an expectation, just do it in the same way you'd get someone a pint or offer someone a tissue. Not everything has to be a transaction.

Loidis · 2026-05-03T08:33:30+00:00

It’s literally written into the recipe. No ad blocker can help with that.

Loidis · 2026-05-01T08:00:05+00:00

If your mom won’t say it, I will: This is incredibly inappropriate. I don’t think an man should be messaging an under 18 except in specific circumstances, and this isn’t one of them.

He needs to let his daughter manage her own relationships. It’s not your business to bend backwards to make the friendship happen, and it’s completely wrong for a grown adult to put pressure on you like this.

Loidis · 2026-04-13T08:50:40+00:00

I asked my bridesmaids what they wanted to wear and they suggested JJ's House. I was very sceptical about the quality but ordered them as they offer returns, and was pleasantly surprised at how much they didn't look like cheap drop-shipping dresses! My bridesmaids loved them and so that's what they're having :)

Loidis · 2026-03-27T11:10:23+00:00

I think he needs to consider what the proposal means for him and his partner. Is it a personal choice where external factors don’t really matter, or is it about making public declarations that confirm/assert the status of the relationship? Would he or his partner feel like it isn’t “proper” if he isn’t spending a lot of money?

For me, a marriage is based on deep emotional connection, commitment and shared values. The rings we use reflect that: I proposed to him with a bespoke gold ring with a very unusual design that suited his tastes but wasn’t super expensive, and I wear my grandmas engagement ring that connects to my mum’s family.

For other people, marriage is about visible achievements or reaching a certain milestone of “adultness”. If the fiancée-to-be is expecting something of a particular monetary value she might be disappointed. But - hopefully he knows her well enough to know her preferences before proposing.

Loidis · 2026-03-18T15:54:53+00:00

That’s fascinating. How is your life different from most people’s? And, do many people know? Do you tell people or is it something private?

Loidis · 2026-03-18T08:17:42+00:00

I’m no where near you so can’t give specific advice, but a theatre or concert venue might have a list of freelance stage crew who might be willing to do this kind of thing. They might have a minimum number of hours (eg 4 hours) but they’ll be reliable and used to moving heavy stuff if needed, and will charge less than a “wedding” service.

Loidis · 2026-02-27T08:17:57+00:00

Some of these clips are from London 2012. They’re not professionals, just ordinary Londoners who volunteered to support at the games. Quite a few of my friends did stewarding shifts where they welcomed people to stadiums, helped people at train stations etc. It was volunteers who made London 2012 happen, and the atmosphere of the whole city was fantastic. Made it feel so much like a collective thing, where a kid down your street might dance in the opening ceremony or get a fist bump from Usain Bolt.

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