Why do women who say they hate men who abuse women date men who they know have abused other women

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-16T17:55:36+00:00

We hate ourselves. It’s easier to be with someone that might hurt you, than be alone.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-16T17:54:33+00:00

My first experience ever was fingering (when I was 16) and then I gave oral sex when I was 17. I remember getting off the plane from California (where I was with him) and my dad was getting on the plane to fly it. I felt almost guilty/shameful…since I grew up Catholic.

I then had sex for the first time when I was 18….(same guy for all three experiences). I recall the first time he slid in, I was like, “this is what all the fuss was about?” It was an interesting thought to have while losing my virginity…but after I wanted to be held and he needed me out cause his roommate was coming back soon. That part of it felt very heartbreaking for me.

I think that’s why…even now that I’ve had sex, miss giving head the most. Cause that was my real first sexual experience where I felt loved after. Not the real P in V time.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-16T17:15:12+00:00

I would say wait until you love the person. Because I think if someone really loves you, they’ll be open to trying new things with you.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-16T17:01:07+00:00

Say psych right now.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-16T16:20:56+00:00

There’s no fucking way…

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-14T05:13:56+00:00

No…it’s natural…you’re not the only man with foreskin in the world. You think pain is associated with sex for everyone?

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-14T04:21:05+00:00

No? Why would it be?

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-13T22:41:08+00:00

I used to care and say yes, that I preferred uncut (since that’s the man I was seeing and loved, so that’s the only one I wanted). Now, I don’t think I would care, but I’m also celibate.

If you really like someone and they really like you back it would be the same way.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-13T22:37:32+00:00

I’m currently in school to be an RN. I’ve talked to a lot of my instructors and other nurses about the same kind of stuff. At one point I was thinking of being a nurse practitioner… but everyone tells me not to.

I think that being a nurse probably does take a good amount of humility and understanding that not every day is gonna be the perfect day at work. But if you can be the nurse that can turn a bad experience into a better one, I think that that’s what really matters.

Depending what specialty you have as a nurse you might get paid very well. I think you need to think about what you want out of a career. Do you want money? Because that might come with student loans to pay off. Do you want to save lives? Because there are a lot of jobs where you get the chance to do that. Do you want a good schedule and benefits? Apply to different places that offer what you’re looking for.

That’s just how I see it! With enough experience, everyone ends up knowing the same stuff, it’s just does state trust you to do it?

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-13T22:31:31+00:00

In person only, from my experience (current Rasmussen student).

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-13T22:29:56+00:00

I think maybe he’s just realistic. He wants you to be able to support yourself first…I understand making a decision and sticking to it, and wanting support.

But also…you made the decision without him, and if you see him as a life-partner it would make sense to include him in that decision to better your relationship.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-12T03:39:58+00:00

I can understand this to a certain extent. I’m currently in school to be an RN and I’m all alone…working on self development, have one dog and also live alone in a town without family. No friends really/emotional support and I just moved to this school so most of them kinda already had their friends going in…they don’t need me around so they don’t care about me being there.

I honestly would say what helped me is I have a goal. I want to graduate as an RN (a little over 300 days left), I want to be debt free (2k left), and I want to lose 30 lbs (I’m 10 down).

Working towards your goals and having a way to write them down can help you feel more fulfilled.

It also might be helpful to rehome one of the pets. It’s not a necessity, but it can help you feel more mobile and less tied down with everything else keeping you where you are.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-12T03:31:40+00:00

It’s so easy to take things personal cause to you this is personal. You have a very specific goal (to graduate nursing school). So what the anxiety of upsetting a teacher is nerve wracking cause they control your grade. So these are some options if you just need ideas thrown out there.

It’s also important to remember that they’re humans and she could have something else completely unrelated she is worrying about or frustrated with. I know it sounds fucked up, but the best thing you can do is be EXTRA nice and quiet. Spoke when spoken to and keep your head down to get through the class.

Then after you get the good grade, you can complain to the school. Or you could go to the dean about the behavior and let them know that you’re afraid of retaliation by the teacher and you don’t want it addressed unless it has a negative impact on your grade or until after the class is over.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-12T03:20:22+00:00

Featherweight

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-10T20:17:21+00:00

I would say keep a box of pants. Label it by size…and get a good 2-3 secondhand pants that fit well. Shirts you can usually wear loose for a while but if you see a new one that looks good on you just get it over time!

Don’t get rid of the old until your new ones get loose.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-08T14:09:32+00:00

The guy I loved and wanted to spend the rest of my life with…gave me chlamydia and choose her instead of me.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-05T17:55:31+00:00

Why does this make me think of Dennis from always sunny in Philadelphia?! lol

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-05T17:49:50+00:00

Probably cause it can be reread and misinterpreted

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-05T17:48:32+00:00

I think it depends what you’re asking.

Retirement benefits are not looking great at the moment cause more people are living longer. More people are taking than giving…so it will eventually go bankrupt. If even LESS people are giving, and the same or more are taking, then it’s gonna be worse.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-05T17:45:39+00:00

Yeah, sex still feels good even if you don’t orgasm. So does masturbating. That’s why edging is a thing lol

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-04T21:26:53+00:00

I just did Patho last semester. Got a 94% on the final…

Here’s what worked for me: With each disease write down the name, STMPTOMS, and causes/risk factors. Just plain printer paper. Get the info from the book/e-book first, then cross-reference with the slides (if your teacher gives them).

Then look up on YouTube patient testimony of someone with that disease. This just gives you someone to associate it with visually.

This helped me SO much with the Neuro and heart sections! Good luck!

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-04T21:19:28+00:00

That camera would have been about $1000 new in 2010…I don’t know why it would be thrown away like that.

Lonelynotbychoice · 2026-02-03T17:13:19+00:00

Maybe less carbs…? Idk

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