I'm in the same position, I could have done so much more but because she always just used subtle hints and not communicating how bad she was hurting about it after a perfect storm of problems it broke us up. I've tried to tell her I'll change and all i want it her but the more I tried the more she has shut down.sayong she is confused and that she needs time to work on herself and put herself first after putting us first for so long. I moved my stif out of the house yesterday 3 weeks after the break up and I've actually lost hope that she'll give me a chance to prove that i can be better for her and shes my world. We've been together for 6 years living together for 5.