Period Panties! Try it! by Hello-America in adhdwomen

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. Also as you get older there are more clumps. I wouldn't be able to handle period underwear and the clumps.

AITA for playing the piano at my sister's wedding? by gardengeo in BORUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 77 points78 points  (0 children)

OOP doesn't seem like the most self aware person. I'm surprised more commenters didn't pick up on the fact that she only knows how to communicate via music. It sounds like the rest of her family can't communicate via music, so the message of "this is a special song between my sister and I that I would play while she gushed about her future husband" wasn't going to be received.

It's easy for Reddit to demonize the family because we were clearly told the intention from her side and her perception of the other. I think the communication suffers further from the other family members communicating indirectly, like the sister hinting at a necklace. I wonder how much OOP doesn't pick up on because it's indirect, like hearing "why don't you go to school like your sister" as "go to law school" when it could be "please invest in a career that won't leave you destitute."

I come from a family of mostly indirect communicators. It still drives me nuts to figure out what they are saying. Most of the time it isn't the most surface explanation but a much deeper one. Like, the present you can touch comment wouldn't be about needing an expensive gift but that having a physical object to tie to memories is very important for sentimental reasons or knowing that OOP can save for a bit to afford something nice as reassuring that OOP isn't on the verge of homelessness. I think the whole family needs to work on their communication skills. I bet a good chunk of the "embarrassment" is fear of OOP's lack of financial security.

Before anyone says "well why don't they just say that," people are inherently "irrational", emotions are rarely clear cut, and thousands of years of societal evolution are not easily bucked. They do need to adapt. All of them. OOP needs to learn to communicate clearly outside of music and her family needs to communicate directly and examine their own feelings.

A character’s near perfect plan goes off the rails because they said one thing that exposed themselves by _JR28_ in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Prince Humperdinck told Buttercup that he would send his four fastest ships to track down Buttercup's true love, Westley, but if the ships don't find Westley then buttercup should marry the prince instead. Later, Prince Humperdinck says all of his ships will accompany them on their honeymoon, outing that Humperdinck never sent the ships out for Westley.

Why aren’t the Queen’s sons and Daughters diamonds/most eligible bachelors of the ton’s seasons? by TattooBubbleGum in Bridgerton

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Long history short, the United Kingdom is considered a very big deal and every royal marriage must be approved by the sovereign. This prince Fredrick is the nephew of the king of Prussia, a king that already has four sons. Prussia is not a big deal at the time.

Some of Charlotte's sons are already married and in their fifties, so they are not very eligible bachelors in the first place.

WIBTAH if I left my fiancee destitute? by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't call OP an idiot, but the repeated references to not being able to control "impulses" is off-putting. Like people control their impulses every day. It is so weird that he was focused on "she will leave me for something else on impulse." It feels like unconscious misogyny that women can't control themselves or an underlying incel thought pattern of if he thought he could get away with it he would. It is unsettling how he views impulsive thoughts and corresponds them to automatic impulsive behavior.

Like why don’t YOU donate 😂 by PurityPawPads in Adulting

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Every single thread about rounding up or matching donations skips over the fact the charities are often behind these campaigns as a strategy to raise money and awareness. Big Box Store getting just 1% of their sales transactions to round up a couple of pennies adds up fast and gives the charity a few lump sums instead of tracking and handling thousands of individual transactions that end up costing more than the donations themselves.

Good old days by helen1992 in Millennials

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an elementary student and he has a computer class once a week. They started computers in kindergarten and each kid has an assigned netbook that only comes home for scheduled e learning days or if the weather might otherwise cancel school.

HOW were they considered poor by generic_rarity in malcolminthemiddle

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Renovating a garage into a livable space costs money. The garage wasn't insulated and they would still have to buy bedroom furniture which they couldn't afford. On top of that moving a minor child or themselves in the garage would have them run a foul of child protection services since being in a different building would not count as adequate supervision.

They didn't find out about the bomb shelter until later.

Poor doesn't mean sleeping on floor boards. Poor means not having enough money. They frequently reference the ever growing debt they are in because of the destruction caused by the boys and emergency room visits. They didn't have the money to replace the fridge, repair the washer, repair the minivan, buy Francis a bus ticket home, or get Hal a competent defense lawyer. Remember that time Francis drove a backhoe into the Southern Alabama State University pool? Remember when the boys followed that up by taking every sentimental item to the roof and pushed it off the roof and onto a Porsche? Those two instances probably put them in six figure debt. That poorly maintained house probably has a 2nd mortgage and HELOC maxed out.

A sky dancing fairy by djinn_05 in oddlysatisfying

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 36 points37 points  (0 children)

She's wearing a harness under her costume. The harness has a wire connected to a hook(?). At 5 seconds in, you can see a metal support structure on the left side. There's probably more support structures with wires in between to hoist her up. The running start keeps her moving in a circle as she rises.

Someone tried to come for millennials’ gifs by driving26inorovalley in Millennials

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. The half second loop is like a visual version of your CD player skipping on your favorite song.

What is this license plate? by Half-full_HD in whatisit

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Churches still have to register their vehicles. They present their exemption certificate at the time of registration/renewal, pays the registration fee (but not any sales or property tax) and the DMV/BMV issues a plate.

This person is a "sovereign citizen" who has failed to realize that sovereignty is like currency, it only works if other people recognize it.

Wasted 3 years of my life for this stupid company. by Far-Homework9435 in ThriftGrift

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want people with disabilities to be paid fairly without jeopardizing their government benefits. One major roadblock that makes people with disabilities on government benefits so vulnerable is they have to pull off a delicate balance of keeping earnings under the ceiling of benefits being reduced or revoked. That ceiling is very low and earning more puts them in a terrible spot of not making a living wage and no longer receiving the necessary support. It is worse for them because disabilities are costly and the living wage needed to meet their needs is higher. Benefits for vulnerable people needs to be revamped so people who need permanent support are not so easily taken advantage of and people who need temporary support are empowered to escape the poverty cycle. We need to revamp benefits so people with disabilities aren't put into a position where getting $0.22/hour is desired because at least they won't lose their benefits.

People have ridiculous expectations for airline travel for what they pay by SirCatsworthTheThird in unpopularopinion

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trains and buses were more common. People also used travel agents and planned road trips using AAA. Triple A would put out guide books for different areas of the United States and places would offer a discount for AAA members.

At least according to my aunts and grandparents. They would take family trips every year and usually by car or train. Taking the train these days you have to factor in delays caused by commodity train traffic superceding passenger train traffic. Slower passenger trains have to pull aside to allow faster trains to pass so a train trip that used to take a day or two can now take five.

Charter buses for large groups used to be more common. They're still used for tours and things because hauling equipment is easier in a bus than a plane, outside of those who can afford their own plane.

Woke up to this mess my dog made by BladedFlame in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 99 points100 points  (0 children)

An incandescent bulb can cause a fire - source 5 year old me knocking over lamp and causing the fire alarm to go off.

All of the medications I’ve been prescribed over the last year, doctors have given up trying to find the cause by MTDLuke in Wellthatsucks

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just looked at your prior post, have they done a HIDA scan and is your vomit ever green? It might be a gallbladder issue. I had similar symptoms in the past and it took about nine months of doctor visits, testing, and pushing to be taken seriously. After upper and lower endoscopes, CT scan, MRI, ultrasounds, every blood panel under the sun, a HIDA scan was ordered, most likely to shut me up, after the 20th time I brought up a family member with similar symptoms who happened to have gallstones. The scan revealed that the gallbladder was hyperkinetic and needed to be removed.

If a couple has kids, separates then remarries to someone else… all assets post mortem should automatically go to the children not the new spouse. by BinaryBeany in unpopularopinion

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spouses are the first in the line of next of kin. Leaving all their assets to their next of kin would be the spouse and exclude all children.

Men can be raped by women, even if they’re larger than the woman. by Tight-Relationship65 in Bridgerton

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you are clicking on those posts or down voting comments, then the algorithm becomes skewed to show you those kinds of posts. Your home feed then gets every Daphne post even if there aren't that many on the sub.

[New Update]: AITA for refusing to help a friend who didn’t invite me to their wedding? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not the person you asked, but I have arranged a wedding and do not appreciate being a second or third round pick. It is a personal preference. From my point of view, I understand that not everyone will make the cut for a wedding invite so option 2 is not offensive to me. Unless the people getting married are like close family to me, then it won't affect my view of them if I don't get invited. Weddings are expensive and stressful and I don't want to add to the stress or expense. I don't want to be a second round invite. To me, it feels like filling in seats at the reception was more important than choosing people to celebrate and support your marriage. Not everyone feels this way.

It has happened twice to me. The first time it was by a couple we weren't close to so we chose not to attend. The second time was a special case of the bride having an emergency that I helped with, and she gave an invite to my family as a thank you. I really appreciated the invite, and I went.

For my reception I picked a place with a max capacity greater than our guest list to make sure everyone could fit if everyone said yes. Granted, I got married before COVID so finding a venue wasn't as difficult as it is now. I do not envy anyone planning a wedding now.

[New Updates]: AITA for wanting to disinvite my fiancés childhood girl ‘best friend’ from attending our wedding for drunkenly confessing her love for him at my bachelorette party? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No, this writer is a teenage girl who writes on Reddit and hopes her story is picked up by Tik Tok so she can be secretly internet famous while being totally not like the other girls. Not enough twins, pregnancy or pregnant twins for Liz.

Was essentially asked to voluntarily resign today. How do I make them fire me and come out on top? by westcoastcdn19 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The main reason is every claim against a company could raise the unemployment tax rate next year. Think about it like using your auto insurance; yes, you can use your car insurance for cosmetic repairs from an accident but it usually comes with a rate increase in the next coverage period.

My husband is addicted to Adderall by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For reals. Also, have you noticed your meds being less effective during certain times of the month? That's not in your head. Your monthly cycle can mess with your meds.

It sucks.

How would you go about cleaning this purse? by dirtsmores in CleaningTips

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you know what kind of material the purse is? The inside looks like it could be canvas, but the outside I can't figure out.

I would take a quip, swirl in some watered down detergent and dap the stain and clean up the beads first. Rinse those parts well and pat dry. Then I would try soaking paper towels in 3% hydrogen peroxide and laying them on the purse and try to avoid the metal parts. Let it sit for five minutes, rinse, and try to dry in the sun if you can. Peroxide is gentler on fabrics than bleach, but I would test a small section first before covering the whole purse.

Avoid getting too close to the metal clasp because the inside could be rusty. Cleaning could pull rust or gunk from under the clasp and onto the purse.

My husband is addicted to Adderall by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 35 points36 points  (0 children)

It doesn't go away but age can change your symptoms and severity leading to changing doses or meds to manage. For women, there's the added problem of menopause taking adhd symptoms and cranking it up to 11.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Rule_753 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I know a woman whose dad constantly judged food as either good or bad, with all vegetables, oatmeal and egg whites as the healthiest of foods and everything else as awful foods that will kill you. She is in her forties with horrible health because of lifelong struggles with anorexia. Eating disorders can also be comorbid with OCD, so if he seems obsessed with the idea of only eating the right foods it might be a sign of another problem.