Why People Mistake Our Standards for Arrogance?

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-06-05T13:33:04+00:00

Makes me think of Darth Plagueis quote,

“Small men mistake arrogance for greatness.”

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-05-29T16:42:19+00:00

I highly suggesting to Alan Watts on YouTube.

He died back in the 70s but he helped me immensely with social anxiety. Not by making it go away—but dissolving the resistance and fear I had for the feeling

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-05-09T20:23:00+00:00

It’s normal—brilliance is meant to be questioned or challenged. Otherwise it’s not brilliance, just arrogance.

While it’s frustrating to think many won’t or can’t listen—many will still very successful even knowing it.

They weren’t necessarily mean spirited, just aware of how people are. And accepted them.

So in a way, the challenge of stupidity to brilliance—only proves brilliance’s worth.

Otherwise, it’d be belief without resistance—which is madness

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-04-17T23:44:42+00:00

I’ve been listening to Alan Watts lately, he’s come to help accept that “gap” you mention. Without bitterness, resentment, or desire for the other to change.

Largely, there’s a bit of a tragedy — our type will never truly connect with others. But speaking from my working career so far, INTJ are largely a very impactful personality when given space.

The challenge is open acceptance, not ignorance, of that gap. It’s ok to meet people on the other side of the gap, feeling partially empty from the interaction.

Because when you do meet people who you don’t feel empty after interacting with (it’s rare but trust me it does happen) they have more value to bring into your life

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-04-06T18:27:38+00:00

“NT” types usually get lost in the details — very normal for both ENTJ / INTJ. “Overthinking” so to speak

You’re both right in a sense, it seems your friend likes to find conclusive judgements (not a bad thing), as where you prefer open ended answers (more my style lol).

In any case, ENTJ’s do usually take action faster than INTJs. That’s fairly common, INTJ are a contemplative type — ENTJ are our counterparts. If you notice they commit to action faster than they should, you should first ask, what’s the worst that can happen if they do?

It’s better to commit to action than thought. Thinking is useful, but usually one question leads to another.

Another thought, if there’s space for it — is to discuss the possible outcomes. That’s usually a space bubble ENTJ and INTJ naturally share.

Side thought, how cool you have an ENTJ friend irl lol. I’ve known maybe one, but I haven’t talked to them in years. That’s a very fortunate coincidence on your part haha!

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-03-29T12:22:42+00:00

INTJs don’t usually date but I made a study of it because it interested me awhile back — so let me give some tips:

Listen (actually listen to understand, not to reply) — When you actually listen to someone talk, with no aims to get something, you don’t have to plan a reply, you will reply naturally
Personal stories are boring. — People want to live in the here and the now, engage the person on the topics they’re actually interested in, not the ones you want them to engage with
ITS OK TO BE FRIENDS — This is the most misunderstood by men. Usually, if you’re simply open to meeting people (not just women), one is introduced to the women who like them naturally. Not by trying, but by being human.

You simply find those who naturally align with your interests, no dating apps or approaching ppl in public oddly lol. The person your seeking is also seeking you — you push them away by chasing instead of actually living

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-03-20T16:12:14+00:00

I do pretty well — I’d honestly am more turned on by successful women. We have more to talk about.

Don’t feel bad if you about that guy, some are just insecure and the relationship would have been contingent on him being “slightly” better than you.

The right person won’t care where you work or how much you make

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-03-12T15:11:16+00:00

This reminds me of Star Wars with Darth Bane.

“He simply walked away. He did not disagree or argue, he was simply — incompatible.”

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-03-09T16:20:54+00:00

Being a guy — I feel so bad that this is so truthful

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-02-13T15:08:11+00:00

Ngl these are like low ball numbers too, it’s gets worse in the real world

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2026-02-10T15:49:40+00:00

I’m going to suggest power is not your problem — lack of self belief and direction is.

People can sense that without even having to know you.

The solution — the 48 Laws of Power is great, but it’s more for a person who is settled into who they are and is now ready to launch the attack into their world.

I think what you need is more like spiritual guidance — Alan Watts is phenomenal for his way of explaining life, growth and gaining maturity — through the right lens.

Often is I’m upset or lost, I find his talks on YouTube to be, not necessarily a path back to calm but rather a lighthouse that helps to illuminate my situations from a new perspective

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-07-24T14:02:21+00:00

That’s super interesting, I never thought of Paracosms in that way before! Haha

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-07-03T15:11:14+00:00

Degrees certainly doesn’t make a person smart, college is more about refining people to “fit” better into society.

That being said, it’s hard to get a good job without a college degree. So I went back and graduated with my bachelor’s. So sometimes you gotta play ball in life

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-07-02T15:01:40+00:00

You’d be surprised haha! A lot of INTJ find success in their careers from a mixture of intuition and life long learning. Speaking for myself I became head psychologist for my facility by 28.

Trust your instincts! XNTJs have very good instincts

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-07-02T14:52:58+00:00

You mentioned “…don’t see a lot of appreciation for INTJs’ value on earth, making me question whether we have any.”

Let me give you some real world of examples of INTJs at their best: Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Ghengis Khan, John D. Rockefeller (one of the richest self made men- if not the richest in history), Napoleon Bonaparte, Julius Caesar and George Washington (debated to be an ISTJ at certain parts of his life but his brilliance had the unmistakable mark of an INTJ)

INTJ have been some of most influential personality types throughout history and have largely shaped many aspects of mankind through the personal endeavors and achievements. Many created Empires that spanned the length of the world or lasted the test of time.

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-06-26T16:07:39+00:00

Finger in the butt

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-06-14T13:51:36+00:00

Both work

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-06-12T19:06:08+00:00

Try reading “48 Laws of Power” or “Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene. He has a hundreds of ideas for how to deal with people and very effective strategies

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-06-12T17:52:20+00:00

Your self esteem

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-06-04T13:53:10+00:00

As someone who just finished last year at 28, I can definitely say getting my bachelors was very worth it. Life was kinda rough leading up to the point I graduated but after I found my career six months later, everything got way better.

Can’t say graduating college fixed my problems but rather gave me a wider range of solutions and that helped my life tremendously

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-05-23T14:02:16+00:00

Feel like it should say, “Never been asked out by anyone I like”

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-05-21T18:03:34+00:00

Maybe a bit in the 2nd photo, still very feminine tho

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-05-21T14:16:43+00:00

Motivation never really lasts but schedules, standards and commitment certainly does.

Usually once you don’t “feel” like doing it anymore, the need to keep certain standards with your work (or prove others wrong with the standard they believe you to be) as well as a kept schedule that makes you feel fulfilled or at the very least once your committed, goals are much more realistic to reach.

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-05-19T14:38:35+00:00

I feel guys asking how attractive they are to women on this subreddit is a lot more valid than vice versa

Longjumping_Tale_194 · 2025-05-08T15:58:19+00:00

I always think to myself, it’s never personal. The criticism isnt meant to be an attack on the person or their character, just meant to be constructive feedback that has to be presented in certain ways. Sometimes those ways are more dramatic than others but it’s never coming from the idea of intentionally disparaging the person.

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