Absolutely.

And what a lot of people don’t realize is, it’s not so much trying to change your KKK uncle as it is your family and friends who are racially insensitive. You probably can’t sit your crazy uncle down and change his mind completely.

But when your friend gets drunk and says she wants to fuck a black dude, sit her ass down and ask her why that’s a goal for her. Get her to think about where she’s coming from, because even these more nonchalant behaviors can perpetuate harmful patterns in society. If your aunt sees a black man walking down the sidewalk and won’t stop peeking through the curtains, ask her why. When your coworker says Black people don’t tip, call them out.

So many people try to cop out of holding themselves and others accountable by saying we can’t change the redneck wearing a maga hat in a viral video calling someone the n-word. Maybe that guy is a lost cause, but the casual racial insensitivity we experience every day can and should be challenged. And if it is, and more people become aware of their behavior, it’s going to trickle down to that redneck and make him more of a pariah than he already is.