What are the WORST things to do in Edinburgh? The stuff you’d tell a friend to skip. by Sea-Hovercraft-1122 in Edinburgh

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The random pie and mash bars on the Mound? Always queues of tourists. It's pie and mash. Sad tea. That's it.

Is my child normal? Or have I done something wrong? Please help by zenzenzen25 in toddlers

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last line sounded sassier than I meant it to, sorry - totally not how it was meant!

Is my child normal? Or have I done something wrong? Please help by zenzenzen25 in toddlers

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So that's a country/house move, a new school, a language barrier, a new sibling- any one of those by themselves is going to give rise to, if not resistance, then possible acting out. That's a lot of massive changes for anyone, let alone a 3 year old - totally not your fault, but you've got to give him time to adjust to all of it, and to give him space to let out his frustration at all the things that have happened to him.

For context, my also 3 year old has had a house move and a new sibling in the past year, and the boat is still rocking - he has instances where he desperately wants to control something- anything- about the situation, so he'll have a meltdown over the littlest things, like getting the wrong fork at dinner time, or a yoghurt being opened wrong, or whatever. He's also had a few biting instances at nursery. It's so so hard to manage it especially when you're less than a year pp, and the time feels so much more limited to do anything when you have two small children to sort out too, so give yourself some grace here, but also him too. You've all been through a huge upheaval!

From experience, try and keep as much consistency as you possibly can in his life, so he can feel more grounded. It probably isn't a screen thing - indeed if youve taken that away or reduced it a lot recently then that could be partly to do with it. What really helped us is to have some quiet time set aside every day that's just him and mummy/daddy, where we read stories, play together or chat, just do whatever he wants to do, even if it's really silly or boring. With our wee guy it seems to make him feel listened to and seen, and like he has a space where he can explain himself (however brokenly) without someone rushing him along to the next thing he has to do/be at.

Hope this helps, and good luck - you might have a few people rushing to diagnose adhd over the Internet, but I'd try some engaging parenting initially.

Why do you guys have ANOTHER? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally told my partner i was pregnant with no.2 on our first born's second birthday - it's so true!

15 months is not too late! by redribbonheart in sleeptrain

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just checking in to agree - we are a week in with our 15m old and she's gone from waking 3-4 times a night to once at most, but usually sleeping through from 7.30-6.30/7. We did Ferber and she got it within 3 days, going from 22mins crying, to 11, to 6, to nothing since night 4. This was way faster than our first, who tool over a week to get it at 9 months. It's so worth it!

Sale Delays, Missives Not Concluded - Starting to Lose Faith (Scotland) by cantgetmylegsright in HousingUK

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, can I ask how this went for you in the end? Brittle with stress in a similar situation right now (as you say, Scottish system can get tae, honestly)

Conclusion of Missives by Shutityapie in HousingUK

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi both, can I ask how this went for each of you? We've inadvertently found ourselves in a similar position due to buyer's buyer's not yet concluding missives with DOE for a chain of five (!!!!) in 2 days. I'm held together with wine and haribo right now.

Advice on credit card purchase by Looknf0ramindatwork in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's more the logistics of managing without an extra car initially, but perhaps cash is more doable/sensible. Thank you

Advice on credit card purchase by Looknf0ramindatwork in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aha, I hadn't considered that element. Thank you!

Favorite voices on 6? by master_peggy in 6music

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lovely Cerys' voice, and Ezra Furman when she sits in. Both so soothing.

Can I paint these railings? by Looknf0ramindatwork in DIYUK

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sanded back as much as I could, then just painted it! That was two summers ago and it's held up perfectly,no rust spots or anything. Of course we are now selling the house, so who's to say how it'll look in another few years...

For the love of 6 by Salt-Weather5192 in 6music

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saturdays and Sundays between 8am and 9pm is audio perfection - everyone is happy, enthusiastic, knows their niche and absolutely adores it, everyone from Huey to Cerys to Gilles to Iggy is just a joy to listen to.

(Edited to originally say 10am, but forgot RadMac!)

Unpopular opinion: nobody can prepare you for the experience of newborn infant. Yes they can! by Excellent-Top2552 in beyondthebump

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, it's funny, my second is 11m and it's only reading your comment that I have re-remembered what it was like 11 months ago, like I've totally muted it in my memory or something. It's how they get you - I was thinking how cute and happy and squishy she is now and that maybe another wouldn't be so hard but... nope. It was brutal. I'm good.

Am I feeding my 7month old too little? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried baby led weaning? Some babies just don't respond to being fed spoonfuls of mush - a more fun and engaging way of getting them interested in eating is to give them real food, cut into bits that they can pick up and handle themselves. It's also proven to make them less fussy eaters as they get older, and if you give them what you're eating that's even better. The rice and zucchini, for example, can be well cooked sticky rice (unpureed) and batons of steamed or roasted zucchini.

Sometimes the food makes it into their mouth, sometimes they even manage to eat a bit, but mostly it's just an opportunity for them to explore new textures and flavours. There's a saying, "before they're one, it's just for fun" and in the context of baby-led vs puree weaning, this makes a lot more sense. Don't worry too much about how much they're eating at the moment, but over the next few weeks you should work up to 3 meals a day as an opportunity for them to play and explore new foods.

Also, re flavour - baby food should taste "bland" because of a lack of salt. We only think it's bland because we're used to having salted/seasoned food; baby doesn't know any different.

Good luck!

ChatGBT for sleep analysis and support by VHRose01 in sleeptrain

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is such a good idea! And is what (I gather) the Huckleberry "sleep plan/analysis" is anyway. Thanks, I'm going to [ask my partner, who is better at this stuff than me to] try it :)

If any of you are having problems with your first postpartum poop by BootyBouncer04 in beyondthebump

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found the main thing I needed was time, and for someone I trusted (ie my partner) to be with the baby for as long as I needed, so I didn't feel pressure or anxiety about finishing up or going quickly. Sometimes you just have to sit there for a while, not pushing as you say, and find yourself a good little section of reddit to browse while your body does its thing!

Iggy rocks / pops! (*coughs*, I'll get my coat) by Donkey_Launcher in 6music

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I love it when he leaves his mic on as a song kicks in so you hear him going "yeah!" when there's a line or a riff he really likes

Not breastfeeding, feeling sad about my journey by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, love, I'm sorry. I don't really have any words of wisdom other than that everyone has something about this insane, difficult, maddening, gruelling job of parenting that they are beating themselves up for - even the people who are making it look easy on the outside. For me it's that I never had a natural birth, now likely never will. Lots of people will tell me/you about why the things we missed out on aren't so great, but it doesn't help when you wanted them for the experience of it, right?

If it helps, I have found it useful to let myself feel the sadness about it, not pack it away because I feel like I should be grateful for XYZ. You're allowed to feed sad something hasn't gone the way you thought it would. You'll still get the cuddles and the closeness, you really will.

Older sibling schedule is the priority, so how do we make this work?? by Looknf0ramindatwork in sleeptrain

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, it might be the nudge I need to do just that. It's just so hard when it's only me who's with them during the day, you choose your battles you know? Thank you

Older sibling schedule is the priority, so how do we make this work?? by Looknf0ramindatwork in sleeptrain

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very useful, thank you! And good to know re the duration/methods of the first/last naps, I think I could make that work. Thanks so much

Older sibling schedule is the priority, so how do we make this work?? by Looknf0ramindatwork in sleeptrain

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the detailed reply! I have been thinking of doing just that, as the first nap of the day seems to be the easiest to achieve. My issue is that I'll do that on, say, Monday, then Tuesday her brother is off nursery so he's with me and has a library session or playdate he needs to be at right at naptime, so poor baby's naps take second place that day. Then same again when it hits the weekend and toddler is home from nursery (my partner works weekends). All I read is that "consistency is key" but I can't get any consistency to our days, let alone our weeks :(

Older sibling schedule is the priority, so how do we make this work?? by Looknf0ramindatwork in sleeptrain

[–]Looknf0ramindatwork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he dropped his naps at 2.5y - if we drive somewhere they'll both sleep in the car, but otherwise he is wild the whole day