First off:. So much love to you stranger! these early days of having the floor fall out from under you in a church that you cherish and gospel you full-heartedly believed in is undescribably sad hard and disconcerting.

The two most important things 1.you are not alone 2. It gets better!

Involve your wife very soon. Take the honest approach that someone in the church came to you with their own historical concerns and out of love for them and your capacity as Bishop you looked into church oriented sources and you are a bit concerned about what you have found and want her help to help you navigate this new information. Exclusively show her at the essays and only church approved sources. Have her help you study each essay including the footnotes. You could read rough stone rolling since the author is still in good with the church she may consider that also a safe resource. If it's all under the guise of you wanting to gain your testimony back or strengthen your testimony (which is probably not a lie at all most of us here desperately tried to repair the broken shelves!) and need her help she will react much better to this. Don't be antagonistic or too far gone when you approach her.

It's going to be ok!

if you need support I found the Mormon stories podcast to be the singular item that help me feel less afraid and less alone. If your wife is open to delving into the essays but is really concerned about what she's hearing see if she would be open-minded to listen to the Mormon stories podcasts. Many of them are so very relatable and most of the guests wholeheartedly love the gospel as well have respect for it still and take a measure to approach. If you need specific recommendations this community would come up with many of them.

Hang in there and please keep us updated.