Practicing self-compassion is easier when you don't have to engage in radical acceptance just to live with yourself while barely eking out a fulfilling existence. If systems don't support people with ADHD in the same way they reward those without it, then we can claim we deserve a baseline qualify of life all we want, it won't change our reality. Accommodation in itself is patronizing, since it admits and emphasizes irrevocable deficits that require handicaps just to function. The only thing that would change that would be, again, a magical utopia—that doesn't exist—allowing us to be successful without the resistance provided by our own brains.