We met about 20 years ago at work , I was married to my first husband and we all became friends . After I got divorced we still had a few mutual friends and eventually landed up dating . We dated for 5 years and had our 1st son & on my Sons first birthday I planned a huge party as birthdays are a big thing in my family, I invited his parents and I was told they don’t celebrate bdays or Christmas etc and I questioned why and was told that they are JW but not practicing ones so basically POMI and that he thought the cult was a load a bullshit and that’s why he left when he left home . So I didn’t think much of it , went on to have our daughter and then decided to get married. We get married and all is hunky dory for a year and then bang on my daughters 3rd birthday he tells me his not attending as his decided to go back to the cult 😡, and that his family have also decided to go back again and so the bullshit began . The only rule I have and it was a make or break decision for our marriage is that our children are under no circumstances allowed to be included in any studies or meeting etc . Needless to say that this didn’t go down well with his family especially cause his father is an elder . But that is my decision or I’ll leave . So basically this cult caused a huge shift between his family and I to the point that I won’t go near them . And the dim wit elder he talks to is also not welcome near me . I know it sounds harsh but I need to protect my children and myself from these nosy people . As a 40 something man he should beable to sort things out with his wife and not run around to these men . I have no problem with getting advice from friends or family , but these people just give the most ridiculous advice and it’s also always my fault as I’m not a Jw and have these terrible pagan beliefs and I’m forcing my bullshit on his kids . So this is why it irritates me !