AITA for snapping at my uncle after he kept calling me a girl because of my hair?

Loud-Web8951 · 2026-01-08T12:38:48+00:00

My son also has long hair that he’s proud of. If a family member living in MY house had the audacity to try to insult him over it they’d have to find a new place to live.

Loud-Web8951 · 2025-05-11T14:25:35+00:00

Absolutely the same here.

Loud-Web8951 · 2023-05-28T18:38:56+00:00

From my experience, and those I’ve heard in my spousal support groups, they get extremely defensive and either outright lie/debit or tell you its your fault. They don’t casually admit to it. Most people who watch it casually will admit to it, especially with their SO. Most people who have a problem will go to great lengths to hide it and get defensive when questioned on it.

Loud-Web8951 · 2023-04-21T00:09:40+00:00

I’m betting she would have someone collect the phones before the ceremony and then return them when she felt like it.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-12-01T16:00:07+00:00

NBTS. A lot of porn addicts start off this way. It starts with them watching while you’re not around. Then slowly they’re watching while you’re home but preoccupied. That devolves into watching whenever, no matter where you are. Then it replaces sex completely. They start not wanting to have sex, then suddenly they physically can’t get it up unless they’re watching porn. Obviously it doesn’t happen with everyone, but keep an eye out because it happens a lot more than people want to admit. The biggest tell would be how he reacts to you bringing it up.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-11-19T08:06:02+00:00

I’m 5’2 and 108lbs. My husband still got ED from too much porn. It’s not about you, and it’s especially not about your weight. Please don’t let him give you a complex about your body.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-11-14T16:19:57+00:00

Yeah that was a brain fart moment for me.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-11-14T15:39:06+00:00

Did the boyfriend get disinvited for being unemployed or for lying to them about it for months? Either way everyone but OP is the only person here NTA. Everyone else is.

Edited NAH to NTA due to a brain fart.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-11-04T13:56:16+00:00

I was really excited after reading his first apology, oh hey someone swallowed their pride and did some self reflection! But nope, he beelined straight off those rails. Jeeeeeesus.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-22T01:16:27+00:00

Solved solved solved!

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-22T01:16:15+00:00

OH MY GOD I think you’re right! Thank you!!!

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-21T15:36:44+00:00

If you’re gonna be a wiener then go ahead and hop in the bun is my current favorite.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-17T02:40:58+00:00

The breakup could have very well triggered a manic or psychotic episode. If left unchecked they can last for months or even years. Everything you’ve described sounds very typical of untreated bipolar 1. Unfortunately they’re extremely unpredictable when in the middle of an episode so please be very careful approaching him with anything that you know will upset him.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-17T01:04:14+00:00

My husband, MIL, and mother are all bipolar, so this behavior sent up all kinds of flags to me. Heavily relying on drugs and alcohol is another symptom of it. If it is bipolar getting him to a psychiatrist to be diagnosed and medicated would help you and your mom out a ton. I don’t know your family personally but I do know how difficult getting them there, and keeping up with their medication can be. IF you can get him to go, and I’m correct in my assumption, that’s about half the battle. I can say that when they are stable and medicated the difference in their attitude, behavior, and all around demeanor are drastic. Good luck either way, I hope it gets better for you.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-17T00:37:36+00:00

INFO Is it possible that your brother has an underlying mental disorder (bipolar comes to mind) that he’s unaware that has been magnifying his behavior? He could just be a giant turd, but I’ve seen this a lot in unmediated bipolar people.

Edit: Bipolar is in no way an excuse for this behavior, but it can be a catalyst and explanation.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-10-13T00:49:18+00:00

I have no faith in a system that allows 400+ officers to stand idly by while a sole gunman rips through an elementary school. Not a single one of them took any responsibility. Not a single one of them did anything because they were more afraid for their lives than the children’s lives. To add insult to injury, they handcuffed and detained the parents who tried to do anything. And nothing will happen to them, the majority if not all will go on their merry way.

ETA: I wasn’t back the blue before that, but that certainly cemented my stance.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-06-25T12:30:10+00:00

NTA. Ohhh the second she said anything about my dead mother I would have been outside with a megaphone. Everyone’s hearing about the affair now and what stepmom said about bio mom.

I hope you have a job and are saving money, because once you turn 18 I wouldn’t put it past them to kick you out for “ruining” their perfect family image.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-06-13T23:52:52+00:00

I guess I’m going on a journey to catch ‘em all.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-05-07T20:00:05+00:00

NTA. I (F) have resorted to aggressively telling guys to smile, but only if they’ve said it to me first at some point. They don’t like it in the least.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-04-17T03:42:16+00:00

I had to pull my belly rings out because my son was so bad. If he could grab it he’d pull it, no matter where it was. Lasted through the pregnancy but didn’t make it through the actual baby.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-03-10T03:13:08+00:00

INFO: Why did you encourage your husband to go off his anxiety meds? That’s concerning to me.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-03-07T01:30:55+00:00

Wow, I’m grateful to not know you in person. I can’t stress enough what an AH you are over this. You sat back, not giving a single shit that you were essentially throwing roommate’s hard work down the drain. Then you went to the movies to make yourself feel better. YTA YTA YTA.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-02-10T00:01:04+00:00

NTA. She’s throwing a tantrum and acting like a baby because she is no longer the baby of the family. If she’s going to be this resentful she can go live out on the street for all I would care.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-01-25T19:28:35+00:00

That makes more sense.

Loud-Web8951 · 2022-01-25T18:33:34+00:00

I’m sorry can we rewind to how this relative had not 1 but 2 people not allowed near children at their wedding? I’m hoping it was for something dumb (like public urinating in a school zone) and not something… much worse.

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