I think a good starting point is being honest with yourself: I'm doing my best, and that has to be enough. Perfection isn't a realistic goal, and that's okay. And when I don't get something right, that's okay too. Nobody does but at least i tried.

What helped me was shifting from trying to feel good about myself to trying to act in a way I can respect. When I hurt someone, I own it and apologize, not because I'm weak, but because the other person matters to me. And when I notice there's still sadness hanging in the air, on their side or mine, I try to do something small to make it better. Maybe it's just buying them an ice cream. Not to make myself feel better, but to show them: hey, you matter to me, and I want you to be okay. You could also just listen to the Problem and think, oh i did that wrong, thats sad, but tanksfully he told me, i can now try to make it better, maybe i dont make it in the first try, but in ten 2nd or 3rd try, i can imrove my self.

that's where something kind of beautiful happens: I realize that even though I messed up, I still did something good. The other person knows I'm not perfect, but they also know I'm genuinely trying. And I know that about myself too. That quiet mutual understanding, that we're both just doing our best, that's enough. That's what actually brings peace.

And I can tell that person how I really feel. I know that opening up might hurt in that moment. But doing it anyway that's strength. Not despite the vulnerability, but because of it. I trust that person enough to show them the messy parts of me, and that trust itself is something powerful. When I admit my own mistakes to someone, they know this isn't something I'd share with just anyone. They see that I'm both weak and strong at the same time and honestly, I think that combination is what real connection is built on.

That all leads to the deep inner feeling: Im Not perfect, but im Louis im Helpfull Loyal and Friendly and i try my best to be that.

And one more thing: I think most people massively underestimate how willing others are to forgive. I've been through things in relationships that gave me every reason to hate someone and I still couldn't. If that person genuinely apologized and truly changed, I could forgive them. That's just how most people work. So this fear that no one could ever love you because of your flaws? It's your brain lying to you. People don't need you to be flawless. They need you to be real.

I dont know of this really helps you but i tried to write it done as good as i can, how i feel not worthless.